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Listening Actively: The Receiver’s Challenge "Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk." - Doug Larson 1 Works Cited Brownell, Judi. 1987. Listening: The toughest management skill. The Cornell H.R.A. Quarterly, February 1987: 65-71. Decker, Bert. 1992. You’ve got to be believed to be heard: Reach the first brain to communicate in business and life. New York, NY: St. Martin’s Press. Decker, Bert. 1996. The art of communicating: Achieving interpersonal impact in business. Revised edition. Menlo Park, CA: Crisp Learning. www.Quotegarden.com : Listening. Accessed 10/31/03. 2 Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication Concepts: Rapport Non-Verbal Messages Asking Good Questions Sincere Paraphrasing Active Listening 3 Rapport Being in sync with other people, verbally and non-verbally, so they are comfortable and have trust and confidence in you 4 Non-Verbal Messages “What you do speaks so loud I can’t hear what you say.” Ralph Waldo Emerson 5 Non-Verbal Messages Bert Decker’s book is titled “You’ve got to be believed to be heard” for a reason! He discusses two factors The Eye Factor The Energy Factor What people see 6 Non-Verbal Messages Eye Factor – What Others See Eye Communication Posture and Movement Dress and Appearance Gestures and Smile 7 Non-Verbal Messages Energy Factor – What Others Perceive Voice and Vocal Clarity Words and Non-Words Listener Involvement Humor 8 Asking Good Questions Show sincere interest Deliver questions with “life” Types of questions: Positive questions Behavioral questions Situational questions Probing questions (The way you ask) (How would you…) (In this situation…) (Elaborate/clarify) 9 Sincere Paraphrasing This is NOT “What I hear you saying is…” State in your own words your understanding of what another person says or feels You feel that… You mean that… You think that… As I understand it… Your Goal: “I hear, I understand, I care” 10 Active Listening Be engaged Truly hear and process the message Avoid distractions 11 Listening in General The most challenging of all communication skills Requires focus Requires practice Different degrees Passive at one end of the scale Deeply involved – “Active Listening” – at the other Different Ways Fact (Discussion or Debate) Feeling (Debate or Dialogue) 12 Maslow’s Four Stages of Learning Unconscious Incompetence We don’t know what we don’t know Conscious Incompetence We know what we don’t know Conscious Competence We work at what we don’t know Unconscious Competence We don’t have to think about knowing it 13 The Typical Executive Spends 80% of his or her time communicating Of that time: Listening Speaking Reading Writing 45% 30% 16% 9% 14 Listening Capacity We use only about ¼ of our listening capacity Listening capacity is difficult to measure Even without using quantifiable measures, what if each of us doubled our individual listening capacity? 15 Brownell’s Model HURIED Hearing Understanding Remembering Interpreting Evaluating 16 Hearing Essential Actions: Concentrate on what the speaker is saying Allow the entire message to be delivered without interruption Be comfortable with silence Avoid Distractions “It’s about them, not you!” 17 Something to ponder… Speaking: 130-160 words per minute We can process aural information at a rate of up to 700 words per minute On average, we listen three times faster than most people talk What can we do with that unused mental time? Listening: The Toughest Management Skill, pg. 66-67 18 In Closing… “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.” Peter F. Drucker 19