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Family
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Relationships
Family Structure
Parenting
3 theories
Due next class: ½ page reflection about Religion article on website
Cycle of Abuse
Timing:
• Each phase can be as short
as a few seconds
Tension Building
• As long as years
• Explosions can become
more violent and dangerous
Honeymoon
Explosion
What prevents some people from getting help?
Young people face unique obstacles
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Difficulty recognizing abuse
Lack of resources. Money, transportation, or safe places to go.
Fear of abuser/family/ friends
Fear of sending abuser to jail
In some states, teens may not apply for restraining orders/get domestic
violence services without parent or guardian.
6. Children with abuser
7. Embarrassment
No one likes to be abused…
8. Low self esteem
abuse is unwanted behavior
9. Hoping the abuser will change
or contact.
10. Cultural religious reasons
Safety Planning-What to have before leaving?
A PLAN
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Contact person, code word
Safe place to go
Safe time to go
Financial planning
Important paperwork
Taking a leave from work/school
Protective order, save evidence (texts, photos of bruises, e-mails)
Self-defense classes
Avoid contact, change phone number, change e-mail, change or delete
Facebook profile
10. Share tips for support on LoveIsRespect.org with family/friends
More info
www.BreakTheCycle.org
www.LoveIsRespect.org
(866) 331-9474
Finding your significant other
4 factors sociologists are interested in
1. Propinquity (spatial nearness)
2. Homogamy: tendency
3. Heterogamy:
to chose a mate who is similar to
you
choosing a mate that is
different than you
Factors: hobbies, education, personality traits (outgoing versus introverted),
spending habits, age, political beliefs, etc.
4. Endogamy: choosing a
5. Exogamy:
mate of the same racial, ethnic, or
religious background
choosing a mate outside of
your race, ethnicity, religion
Defining Family
• Social institution found in every human society
• Two or more people, who consider themselves
related by blood, marriage, or adoption
Defining Family
• Nuclear family:
Parents and their
children
• Extended family:
parents, children,
other kin
What changes do you think have
occurred in the structure of families in
the United States since the 1950’s?
Has divorce increased, decreased,
or stayed the same since the
1980’s?
Number of divorces per 1,000 married women, age 15 and older
Source: The National Marriage Project, State of Our Unions, 2010.
Source: The National Marriage Project, State of Our Unions, 2010.
Pros and Cons of
Changes in Family Structure
Answer questions in groups of 1-3
Changes in structures of U.S. families:
1. Delayed childbearing
•Today 1 in 5 women are
having their first baby after
age 35
What are positive and
negative aspects of this
change?
Changes in U.S. family structures
2. Not having children
14% of U.S. married couples
never have children. Why?
•Expenses
•Career focus
•Unstable relationships
•Inability to have children
Changes in U.S. family structures
3. Increased employment of married mothers
59% of married U.S. couples
depend on two incomes
About one in five children is cared
for in day care centers. What are
positive and negative aspects of this
change?
Nannies have become popular
among upper-middle class parents.
What are positive and negative
aspects of this change?
Cosby Show
Changes in U.S. family structures
4. Increase in the number of
children being raised by
grandparents
6.5 million children o are being raised by grandparents or other
relatives
(U.S. Census Bureau)
What are positive and negative aspects of this change?
Changes in U.S. family structures
5. Increased divorce and blended families
Modern Family
Changes in U.S. family structures
6. Increased single-parent families
One on One
(Single dad and
teenage daughter)
Changes in U.S. family structures
7. Older age at 1st marriage
Friends
Sex and The City
Changes in structures of U.S. families:
Older age at 1st marriage
U.S. men and women are staying single longer
1970 average age at marriage
2006 average age at
marriage
Men: 23
Men : 28
Women: 21
Women: 26
Changes in U.S. family structures
8. Increased interracial families
The Willis Family from the
TV Show
The Jeffersons
Changes in U.S. family structures
9. Increased cohabitation-couple living
together that is not married
Grey’s Anatomy
Most unmarried partners: California, Alaska
Least unmarried partners: Utah at 4% and Alabama 5%
Changes in U.S. family structures
10. Less people getting married. Why?
1.Marriage must now compete with
school
career
living with a partner
having children outside of marriage
self-fulfillment
2. Less of a need to marry
3. Time and money - children
4. Fearful of commitments and constraints.
Other changes U.S. family structure
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Increased births to unmarried women
Fewer children with married parents
Increase in families with same-sex parents
Increase in families with adopted children
Has teenage pregnancy increased,
decreased, or stayed the same
since 1990’s?
Source: Center for Disease Control and Prevention http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/hestats.htm
Parenting
1. Re-read Amy Chua’s article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”
2. Underline 3 points that you agree or disagree with
3. Underline any parenting techniques that you experienced or use as a parent
1. What did you underline and why
2. Do you agree with the author’s parenting style? Why or why not?
3. What parenting techniques do you think are best?
Chua family
From Ms. Chua's
album: 'Mean me with
Lulu in hotel room...
with score taped to
TV!'
Parenting
Effective Discipline Techniques: Alternatives to Spanking
1. Be a positive role model.
2. Set rules and consequences.
3. Encourage and reward good behavior.
4. Create charts.
5. Give time-outs.
Which of these techniques
do you think are effective?
Which do you think are
ineffective?
Structural Functionalist Perspective
Family is the back bone of society
Performs functions that help society:
– Replenishes population
– Socializes children
– Provides emotional and
physical care
– Traditional roles keep families
together
Conflict Perspective
Focuses on power distribution in marriages
• Why do women take husbands last name?
• Why do children take father’s last name?
• Traditional roles require “domestic slavery” of the wife- no
income or status
• Even today working women still do
more of the housework
Symbolic Interactionist Perspective
Look at social meanings of
divorce, single parenthood, and cohabitation
• “Visitation rights”
• “Single mom”
• “Living in sin”
Next class
A#8 Due: Read the article Misconceptions About Islam
posted on the course website and type half a page to one
page describing your personal reflection (What stood out to
you most? What did you find most interesting? Discuss
something specific from the article) 4 points
Extra Credit
Important Sociologists
• 5 minute Power Point Presentation
• Select a sociologist. Describe the following: brief background of their life,
2 major contributions to sociology, how is their work relevant today?
• 4 points possible
• Present next week
• Choose the sociologist in class today by signing up
View sample on website
Silent Dialogue Partner Activity
Purpose of the activity:
1. Develop critical thinking skills (there is no right or wrong answer,
no right or wrong question to pose). The goal is to ask your partner a
question that will invite them to look at their own thoughts in a
deeper manner
2. Allow shy/quiet students share their thoughts
3. Allow students to be the ones asking the questions instead of the
teacher
4. Allow students to get feedback from peers instead of the teacher
5. Allow the teacher to assess the background knowledge students
have on the topic (what do you already know about changes in family
structure?)
What changes do you think have occurred in the structure of families
in the United States since the 1950’s?
Partner activity
1. Answer the question above. Write NEATLY
Example: “One way I think families have changed since the 1950’s is ____”
2. When you hear the buzzer, pass your paper to your partner
3. Read their statement and write an OPEN-ENDED thought
provoking question for your partner that requires them to think
about the topic more deeply or look at it in a different way
4. When you hear the buzzer, switch papers and respond to you
partner’s question thoughtfully.
5. When you hear the buzzer switch papers and read the response
Write your names on both papers, turn into red folder at the end of class for your
participation points for today
Defining Family
• Family of orientation is the family in which a person
grows up (your parents and siblings)
• Family of procreation is the family formed when a
couple’s first child is born (your partner and
children).