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Personality Development
Personality
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Personality makes
humans different from
each other
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Everything what you
are and how you do
things
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It is the way you dress,
walk and talk
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Smart or not
Good Personality
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Pleasing
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Pleasant
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Persuasive
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Good Personality
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Easy to move with
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Fun to be with
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Interesting
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Appraised by the others
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Self motivated
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Value for every moment
Definition of Personality
Personality - A relatively stable set of
characteristics that influences an
individual’s behavior
Personality – the principles
Mental
Physical
Personality
Behavior
Social
What is Personality?
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Mental – the thinking – temperament
Physical – the look – good looking
Behavior – the act – etiquette
Social –
the perception – character
A. Mental
The thinking
Temperament
Genetics
Environment
Personality Types
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Carl Jung, Swiss psychiatrist believed
that we are one of two personality
types:
Introvert: Shy, self-centered person
whose attention is focused inward
Extrovert: Bold, outgoing person whose
attention is directed outward
How to have relaxed mind
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Hobbies
Sports
Meditation
Others
Religious activities
Lets measure your personality later
Openness to experience:
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(inventive/curious vs. consistent/cautious).
Appreciation for art, emotion, adventure, unusual
ideas, curiosity, and variety of experience. Openness
reflects the degree of intellectual curiosity, creativity
and a preference for novelty and variety a person
has. It is also described as the extent to which a
person is imaginative or independent, and depicts a
personal preference for a variety of activities over a
strict routine. Some disagreement remains about how
to interpret the openness factor, which is sometimes
called "intellect" rather than openness to experience.
Extraversion:
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(outgoing/energetic vs.
solitary/reserved). Energy, positive
emotions, surgency, assertiveness,
sociability and the tendency to seek
stimulation in the company of others,
and talkativeness.
Conscientiousness:
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(efficient/organized vs. easygoing/careless). A tendency to show
self-discipline, act dutifully, and aim for
achievement; planned rather than
spontaneous behavior; organized, and
dependable.
Agreeableness:
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(friendly/compassionate vs.
cold/unkind). A tendency to be
compassionate and cooperative rather
than suspicious and antagonistic
towards others. It is also a measure of
one's trusting and helpful nature, and
whether a person is generally well
tempered or not.
Neuroticism:
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(sensitive/nervous vs.
secure/confident).
The tendency to experience unpleasant
emotions easily, such as anger, anxiety,
depression, or vulnerability. Neuroticism
also refers to the degree of emotional
stability and impulse control and is
sometimes referred to by its low pole,
"emotional stability".
B. The body
the look – good looking
Personality – the look
1.
Posture
2.
Clothing
3.
Figure /shape
4.
Artifacts
1. Posture
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Actions speak louder than the words
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Your body speaks on behalf of you
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Act like at Unique Person
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The method
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Hold your head and chest high
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Keep your spine straight
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Legs straight, together
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Arms, hands either side
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Sit on the 45 degree, legs together
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No scratching , break dance
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How to sneeze, cough
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Walk straight ,arm movement
2. Clothing
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Appropriate
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Color
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Suitability
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Clean
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Ironed
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Attractive
4. Artifacts
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Ear rings
Bangles
Bags
Others
3. Body
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Height
Weight
Face
Hair
Nails
Smell
C. Behavior
the act – etiquette
Self confidence
Well mannered
Outcome of Behaviour
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Positive
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Aggressive
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Slow, takes time
Negative
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Aggressive
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Slow and Boring
C. Behavior - Self Confidence
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Knowing what and when to do
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Getting along without feeling superior or inferior
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Knowing your abilities and limitations –
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Actions – etiquette
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How to greet
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Hand shake -
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Thanking
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Conclusion
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Dining etiquette
Smiling & Communication
Smiling
What is it ?
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Human is the only animal
who can smile
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We are born with a smile,
babies can smile as much as
02 days
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Need not to train to smile
because it is the
programmed behavior
What is it ?....
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Our faces are made to smile
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18 different types of smiling and all
represent
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Happiness, enjoyment and pleasure
It is easier to smile than frown,
since it uses 06 muscles instead 18
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It never hurts to smile, than
frowning -try your self !
How will it help you?
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Helps to feel lighter
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Makes you healthier
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Makes you an approachable person
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Gain more friends
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Only enjoyment in the world wont
cost you a cent.
What to do when you can not
smile?
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Get out of the sadness
immediately
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Find the silver lining quickly
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Associate positive, smiling
people
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Think about toady , now …the
present moment ! Past is an
experience & future is a
challenge.
How to get more to smile?
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Explain the brighter side of
smiling
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Smiling is the best infection
in the world so spread it fast
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Continue to smile with
frowning people they will
give up fast since it hurts
them
How to get more to smile?
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Put up sign boards
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Beware! “You are now entering in to a highly infectious
area of smiling”
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Human is the only living thing in the whole world that can
smile. “ Are you human”
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“Live long without an additional cost , smile throughout
the life time”
Foot note
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“A smile costs nothing, but gives so much in return,
it enriches those who give it. It only take a
moment , but the memory of it lingers for
ever……No one else in the world, rich or poor can
get along without it, . So go ahead and smile!
- Dr Kithsiri Edirisinghe -
Now stop sleeping,…. smile
now!
Communication
Dr. Kithsiri Edirisinghe
MBBS MSc. MD (Medical Administration)
The Donkey
What is Communication ?
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Process of transmitting an information
form one person to another
What is Effective
communication ?
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“Sending a message that is well-
understood by the receiver, as intended
by the sender”
Communication Process
Sender
Message
Feed Back
Channel
Receiver
Functions of Communication
1.
Emotional expression
2.
Information
3.
Motivation
4.
Control
Interpersonal Communication
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Written
Oral
Principles in oral
Communication
1.
Active listening
2.
Words
3.
Tone
4.
Non Verbal activities
1. Active Listing
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You have two ears but one mouth
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Don’t disturb the flow
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Show interest with appropriate facial
movements
Paraphrase; make sounds of
understanding & encouragement
Eye contact
Eye Communication
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Monitor feedback
Secure attention and interest
Regulate or control conversation
Signal nature of relationship
Compensate for physical distance
Eye Contact
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Average length of gaze in US
2.95 seconds
Mutual Gaze
1.18 seconds
Staring Contest
Civil inattention – averting your eyes
Signal lack of interest
2.Words
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Language
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Clear
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Simple
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Suitable
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Humble words
3.Tone
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“Full option”
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Caring
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Confident
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Authoritative
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Suitable
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Breathing
4. Non-Verbal Communication
“The body says what words cannot.”
- Martha Graham, Choreographer-
4.Non Verbal
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Presentation
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Space
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Posture
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Eye contact
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Associated movements
Non-Verbal Communication
“The body says what words
cannot.”
- Martha Graham, Choreographer-
Non-Verbal Communication
1. Kinetics
Body
2. Haptics
Touch
3. Paralanguage
4. Spatial
Non-Verbal elements of
speech
Space
5. Artifactual
Objects
6. Olfactory
Smells
1. Kinetics
Body Gestures
Body Gestures (Kinetics)
I.
Emblems – signs
II.
Illustrators
III.
Affect Displays
IV.
Regulators
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Adaptors
VI.
Eye communication
I. Emblems
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Substitute for words and have rather
specific verbal translations.
Okay sign
Hitchhiker’s sign
Wave
Other signs – foreign
II. Illustrators
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Accompany and literally illustrate verbal
messages.
Fish Tales: Hands far apart when
talking about something large
Public speaking
III. Affect Displays
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Movements of the face that convey
emotional meaning.
Happiness, surprise, fear, anger,
sadness, disgust, etc.
IV. Regulators
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Monitor, maintain, or control the
speaking of another individual.
Facial expressions and hand gestures
“Keep going”
“Slow down”
“what else happened?”
V. Adaptors
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Satisfy some need
Three kinds:
Self Adaptors – physical need
Alter Adaptors – response to
interactions
Object Adaptors – manipulation of an
object
VI. Eye Communication
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Monitor feedback
Secure attention and interest
Regulate or control conversation
Signal nature of relationship
Compensate for physical distance
VII. Eye Contact
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Average length of gaze in US
2.95 seconds
Mutual Gaze
1.18 seconds
Staring Contest
Civil inattention – averting your eyes
Signal lack of interest
2. Touch
Haptics
Touch Communication
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Positive Emotions
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Playfulness
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Control – higher status person initiates
touch
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Ritualistic – hello and goodbye
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Task-Related – fever, helping out of a car
Touch Avoidance
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More likely with people who have
communication apprehension.
High among low self disclosers
Influenced by age and gender
3. Paralanguage
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Vocal, but nonverbal dimension of
speech.
Rate
Volume
Rhyth
Pitch
Functions of Silence
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Time to Think
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Hurt Others
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Response to Anxiety
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Communicate Emotional Responses
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Achieve Specific Effects
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Nothing to Say
4. Space
Spatial Messages
Spatial Messages—
approximate Distances
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Intimate Distance
Personal Distance
Social Distance
0-18 in
18 in-4 ft
4 ft – 12 ft
12 ft – 25+ ft
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Public Distance
Spatial Messages—
Theories About Space
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Protection Theory
Equilibrium Theory
Expectancy Violations Theory
Protection Theory
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Establish a buffer zone around your
body as protection against unwanted
touching or attack
Equilibrium Theory
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The greater the intimacy the closer the
distance.
Expectancy Violations Theory
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Explains what happens when you
increase or decrease distances
Cultural expectation
Small violations
Fixed ideas
Spatial Messages—Territoriality
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Possessive reaction to an area or
particular object
Primary – your room, desk
Secondary – neighborhood, favorite
table
Public – shopping mall, city park
5. Artifactual Communication
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Space Decoration
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Color Communication
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Clothing and Body decoration
6. Olfactory Communication
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Smell communication
Attraction messages
Humans emit sexual attractions
Odors to feel better
Taste impaired without smell
Memory messages
Identification Messages
Communication is the success
factor in today's world
Thank you!
Activities –
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Individual
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activity 01
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Group – activity 02