Download Skills for Healthy Relationships - Circle

Foundations of a Healthy Relationship- Day 1
Respecting Yourself and Others-Day 2
Communicating Effectively- Day 3
Review- Day 4
Test- Day 5
Foundations of a Healthy
Relationship
Building strong relationships is
important to your overall health.
relationship
friendship
citizenship
role
interpersonal communication
cooperation
compromise
You have many types of relationships in your life,
and you play different roles in all of them.
Building and maintaining healthy relationships can
help you meet the need to belong and feel loved.
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You have relationships with family members,
friends, teachers, classmates, and people in
your community.
Relationship
A bond or connection you have with other
people
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Some of the most important relationships in
your life are with the family members who
share your home, such as parents or guardians,
brothers, and sisters.
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One thing that makes family relationships
special is that they last your entire life.
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Healthy family
relationships
strengthen every
side of your
health triangle.
Physical
food, clothing, and shelter
Social
values and
social skills
Mental/
Emotional
love, care,
and encouragement
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Although you probably have many friends
your own age, a friendship can form between
people of any age.
Friendship
A significant relationship between two
people that is based on trust, caring, and
consideration
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Good friends can have a positive influence on your
self-esteem and help you resist harmful behaviors.
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Being part of a strong community has a
positive impact on every aspect of your health.
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It can promote healthful behaviors and also
provide resources to help you when you’re in
trouble.
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You reinforce your ties to the community
through good citizenship.
Citizenship
The way you conduct yourself as a
member of the community
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Good citizens work to strengthen their
communities by
obeying laws
being friendly
to neighbors
helping to
improve the
places where
they live
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In the course of a single day, you may play
many roles with different people.
Role
A part you play in your
relationships
In a healthy relationship, people respect and
support each other.
Healthy relationships nurture you, bring out the best
in you, and encourage you to make healthful choices
in your life.
Qualities of Healthy Relationships
mutual
respect
caring
honesty
commitment
Mutual Respect
 You treat other people with respect, and
they respect you in return.
 You accept each other’s opinions, tastes, and
traditions, even if they are different.
 At times you may agree to disagree
instead of trying to force your opinions on
each other.
Caring
 You treat other people with kindness and
consideration.
 During difficult times, you show empathy
and support.
 You’re also willing to help out others.
Honesty
 You are honest and open with others
rather than concealing your thoughts,
feelings, or actions.
Commitment
You contribute to the relationship and work to
 keep it strong, even if it means making some
sacrifices.
 You deal with problems in a positive way and are
able to overcome them.
The Three Cs of Healthy Relationships
Communication
Cooperation
Compromise
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In relationships, people need to understand
each other.
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It’s important to learn effective communication
skills so you can express your thoughts,
feelings, and expectations to others and
understand theirs in return.
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In relationships, people need to cooperate with
each other. Cooperation can strengthen your
relationships.
Cooperation
Working together for the good of all
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Sometimes, when people in relationships want
different things, they may decide to
compromise.
Compromise
A problem-solving method in which each participant
gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies
everyone
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Demonstrating the six traits of good character
can strengthen your relationships.
Six Traits of Good Character
Trustworthiness
Respect
Responsibility
Fairness
Caring
Citizenship
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
1. Identify three kinds of relationships you have
in your life.
Sample answer: Family relationships,
friendships, relationships in my community
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
2. Define citizenship and give an example of good
citizenship.
Citizenship is the way you conduct yourself as
a member of the community. An example of
good citizenship is being friendly to neighbors.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
3. What are the three Cs of healthy
relationships?
Communication, cooperation, compromise
Respecting Yourself and Others
You can promote healthy relationships
by showing respect for yourself and
others in your life.
personal identity
values
prejudice
stereotype
tolerance
bullying
hazing
Self-respect will strengthen your relationships.
When you respect yourself, you’re more likely to
seek out relationships with people who treat you
with respect.
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Having self-respect is an important foundation
for developing and maintaining healthy
relationships.
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Self-respect makes you less likely to let other
people talk you into taking risks that could
harm your health.
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When you are clear about your values and
uphold your values, other people will know
what you believe in and understand what’s
important to you.
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You also show that you respect yourself and
you respect others.
It’s important to treat people with respect.
You can strengthen your relationships with all the
people in your life by treating them with the same
respect you’d like them to show you.
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With strangers and casual acquaintances, you
can show respect through common courtesy.
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You might hold a door open for someone or
say “Thank you” to the checker at the grocery
store.
With close friends and family members, you can show
respect in more significant ways.
Listen to other
people.
Be considerate of
others’ feelings.
Develop mutual
trust.
Be realistic in your
expectations.
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Lending
your MP3
player to
your brother
is one way to
show that
you trust
him.
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Sometimes people treat others with disrespect
because of prejudice.
Prejudice
An unfair opinion or judgment of a
particular group of people
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Assuming that all boys like sports is an
example of a gender stereotype.
Stereotype
An exaggerated or oversimplified belief
about people who belong to a certain
group
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People who have tolerance value diversity and
can appreciate differences in other people’s
cultures, interests, and beliefs.
Tolerance
The ability to accept others’ differences
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Victims of bullying are verbally, emotionally,
and sometimes physically abused.
Bullying
Deliberately harming or threatening other
people who cannot easily defend
themselves
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Bullies may tease their victims, spread rumors
about them, try to keep them out of a group, or
even physically attack them.
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Bullies are more likely to drop out of school
and to have problems with alcohol or violence.
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Bullies may intimidate through verbal attacks,
malicious rumors, or even physical force.
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Hazing is often meant to humiliate new
members of a group. It can be physically or
emotionally harmful.
Hazing
Making others perform certain tasks in
order to join the group
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
1. Identify four ways to show respect in your
relationships.
Listen to others, be considerate of others’
feelings, develop mutual trust, and be realistic in
your expectations.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
2. What are stereotypes?
Stereotypes are exaggerated or oversimplified
beliefs about people who belong to a certain
group.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
3. List three reasons some teens bully others.
To make themselves feel superior, to feel they are
part of a group, to keep from being bullied
themselves
Communicating Effectively
Effective communication is a key to
building healthy relationships.
aggressive
passive
assertive
“I” message
active listening
body language
There are three types of communication styles.
Becoming aware of your communication style will
help you to understand how others perceive you.
Three Styles of Communication
Aggressive
Passive
Assertive
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People with an aggressive communication style
may not pay attention to others’ thoughts,
feelings, or needs.
Aggressive
Being overly forceful, pushy, or hostile
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People may adopt a passive communication
style because they dislike conflict and will go
out of their way to avoid an argument.
Passive
Being unwilling or unable to express
thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm
manner
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Being assertive involves standing up for your
rights and beliefs while also respecting those of
others.
Assertive
Expressing your views clearly and
respectfully
To communicate effectively, you need to learn
speaking skills, listening skills, and nonverbal
communication.
Communication is a two-way street.
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The key to good communication is to say what
you mean.
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It’s not reasonable to expect other people to
read your mind or be able to pick up on subtle
hints.
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One way to make sure you don’t sound
disrespectful when talking about a touchy
subject is to use “I” messages.
“I” message
A statement that focuses on your feelings
rather than on someone else’s behavior
“You” Messages
“I” Messages
“Why can’t you ever show up on time?”
“I really don’t like to be left waiting—it makes me
feel like you don’t think I’m important.”
“You never listen to anything I say.”
“I feel like my suggestions aren’t being taken
seriously.”
“I said I’d take out the trash, and I will! You don’t
have to nag me about it every five minutes!”
“I’m feeling stressed because I have a big project
due tomorrow. I’ll take out the trash as soon as I
finish working on this.”
“You’re always taking my CDs without asking.”
“It bothers me when I get home and find all my
CDs in your room.”
“You always ignore me when your other friends
are around.”
“I feel hurt when I’m left out of a conversation.”
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Make sure other people’s messages get through
to you by practicing active listening.
Active listening
Paying close attention to what someone is
saying and communicating
Don’t interrupt.
Show interest.
Restate what you hear.
Ask questions.
Show empathy.
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Your body language affects the meaning of the
messages you send.
Body language
Nonverbal communication through
gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and
posture
“I’m really
interested in what
you’re saying.”
“I don’t want
to talk to you.”
“I’m worried.”
Offering constructive feedback can improve your
relationships with others.
The goal of constructive criticism is to bring about
positive changes.
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To offer constructive criticism:
Use “I” messages that
focus on the problem,
not on the person.
Point out a specific
problem, explain why
it bothers you, and
suggest a solution.
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Letting people know how their actions make
you feel isn’t something you should do only
when there’s a problem.
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Let the people in your life know you value
them and appreciate what they do for you.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
1. What are the three main styles of
communication?
Aggressive, passive, and assertive
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
2. List three ways to show interest in what
another person is saying.
Sample answer: Face the speaker, make eye
contact, nod or make comments at appropriate
times
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
3. Define the term body language and give an
example.
Body language is nonverbal communication
through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors,
and posture. Nodding to show you agree is one
example.
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