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Building strong relationships is
important to your overall health.
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friendship
citizenship
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interpersonal communication
cooperation
compromise
Relationships in Your Life
You have many types of relationships in your
life, and you play different roles in all of
them.
Building and maintaining healthy relationships
can help you meet the need to belong and feel
loved.
Relationships in Your Life
You have relationships with family members,
friends, teachers, classmates, and people in your
community.
Relationship
A bond or connection you have with
other people
Relationships with Family
Some of the most important relationships in your
life are with the family members who share your
home, such as parents or guardians, brothers, and
sisters.
One thing that makes family relationships special is
that they last your entire life.
Relationships with Family
Healthy family
relationships
strengthen every
side of your health
triangle.
Physical
food, clothing, and shelter
Social
values and
social skills
Mental/
Emotional
love, care,
and encouragement
Relationships with Friends
Although you probably have many friends your
own age, a friendship can form between people
of any age.
Friendship
A significant relationship between two
people that is based on trust, caring,
and consideration
Relationships with Friends
Good friends can have a positive influence on your
self-esteem and help you resist harmful behaviors.
Relationships in Your Community
Being part of a strong community has a positive
impact on every aspect of your health.
It can promote healthful behaviors and also provide
resources to help you when you’re in trouble.
Relationships in Your Community
You reinforce your ties to the community through
good citizenship.
Citizenship
The way you conduct yourself as a
member of the community
Relationships in Your Community
Good citizens work to strengthen their
communities by
obeying laws
being friendly
to neighbors
helping to
improve the
places where
they live
Roles in Relationships
In the course of a single day, you may play many
roles with different people.
Role
A part you play in your
relationships
Roles in Relationships
Traits of Healthy Relationships
In a healthy relationship, people respect and
support each other.
Healthy relationships nurture you, bring out the
best in you, and encourage you to make
healthful choices in your life.
Traits of Healthy Relationships
Qualities of Healthy Relationships
mutual
respect
caring
honesty
commitment
Traits of Healthy Relationships
Mutual Respect
 You treat other people with respect, and they
respect you in return.
 You accept each other’s opinions, tastes, and
traditions, even if they are different.
 At times you may agree to disagree instead of
trying to force your opinions on each other.
Traits of Healthy Relationships
Caring
 You treat other people with kindness and
consideration.
 During difficult times, you show empathy and
support.
 You’re also willing to help out others.
Traits of Healthy Relationships
Honesty
 You are honest and open with others rather than
concealing your thoughts, feelings, or actions.
Traits of Healthy Relationships
Commitment

You contribute to the relationship and work to
keep it strong, even if it means making some
sacrifices.
 You deal with problems in a positive way and are
able to overcome them.
Skills for Building Healthy Relationships
The Three Cs of Healthy Relationships
Communication
Cooperation
Compromise
Communication
In relationships, people need to understand each
other.
It’s important to learn effective communication
skills so you can express your thoughts, feelings,
and expectations to others and understand theirs
in return.
Cooperation
In relationships, people need to cooperate with
each other. Cooperation can strengthen your
relationships.
Cooperation
Working together for the good of all
Compromise
Sometimes, when people in relationships want
different things, they may decide to compromise.
Compromise
A problem-solving method in which each
participant gives up something to reach a solution
that satisfies everyone
Character and Relationships
Demonstrating the six traits of good character can
strengthen your relationships.
Character and Relationships
Six Traits of Good Character
Trustworthiness
Respect
Responsibility
Fairness
Caring
Citizenship
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
1. Identify three kinds of relationships you
have in your life.
Sample answer: Family relationships,
friendships, relationships in my community
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
2. Define citizenship and give an example
of good citizenship.
Citizenship is the way you conduct yourself
as a member of the community. An
example of good citizenship is being
friendly to neighbors.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
3. What are the three Cs of healthy
relationships?
Communication, cooperation, compromise
You can promote healthy relationships
by showing respect for yourself and
others in your life.
personal identity
values
prejudice
stereotype
tolerance
bullying
hazing
Respect for Yourself
Self-respect will strengthen your
relationships.
When you respect yourself, you’re more likely
to seek out relationships with people who treat
you with respect.
Respect for Yourself
Having self-respect is an important foundation for
developing and maintaining healthy relationships.
Self-respect makes you less likely to let other
people talk you into taking risks that could harm
your health.
The Need for Strong Values
When you are clear about your values and uphold
your values, other people will know what you
believe in and understand what’s important to you.
You also show that you respect yourself and you
respect others.
Respect for Others
It’s important to treat people with respect.
You can strengthen your relationships with all
the people in your life by treating them with the
same respect you’d like them to show you.
Respect for Others
With strangers and casual acquaintances, you can
show respect through common courtesy.
You might hold a door open for someone or say
“Thank you” to the checker at the grocery store.
Respect for Others
With close friends and family members, you can
show respect in more significant ways.
Listen to other
people.
Be considerate of
others’ feelings.
Develop mutual
trust.
Be realistic in your
expectations.
Respect for Others
Lending your
MP3 player to
your brother is
one way to show
that you trust
him.
Tolerance
Sometimes people treat others with disrespect
because of prejudice.
Prejudice
An unfair opinion or judgment of a
particular group of people
Tolerance
Assuming that all boys like sports is an example of
a gender stereotype.
Stereotype
An exaggerated or oversimplified belief
about people who belong to a certain
group
Tolerance
People who have tolerance value diversity and
can appreciate differences in other people’s
cultures, interests, and beliefs.
Tolerance
The ability to accept others’
differences
Disrespectful Behaviors
Victims of bullying are verbally, emotionally, and
sometimes physically abused.
Bullying
Deliberately harming or threatening
other people who cannot easily defend
themselves
Disrespectful Behaviors
Bullies may tease their victims, spread rumors
about them, try to keep them out of a group, or
even physically attack them.
Bullies are more likely to drop out of school and to
have problems with alcohol or violence.
Disrespectful Behaviors
Bullies may intimidate through verbal attacks,
malicious rumors, or even physical force.
Disrespectful Behaviors
Hazing is often meant to humiliate new members
of a group. It can be physically or emotionally
harmful.
Hazing
Making others perform certain tasks in
order to join the group
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
1. Identify four ways to show respect in
your relationships.
Listen to others, be considerate of others’
feelings, develop mutual trust, and be
realistic in your expectations.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
2. What are stereotypes?
Stereotypes are exaggerated or
oversimplified beliefs about people who
belong to a certain group.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
3. List three reasons some teens bully
others.
To make themselves feel superior, to feel
they are part of a group, to keep from being
bullied themselves
Effective communication is a key to
building healthy relationships.
aggressive
passive
assertive
“I” message
active listening
body language
Communication Styles
There are three types of communication
styles.
Becoming aware of your communication style
will help you to understand how others perceive
you.
Communication Styles
Three Styles of Communication
Aggressive
Passive
Assertive
Communication Styles
People with an aggressive communication style
may not pay attention to others’ thoughts, feelings,
or needs.
Aggressive
Being overly forceful, pushy, or hostile
Communication Styles
People may adopt a passive communication style
because they dislike conflict and will go out of their
way to avoid an argument.
Passive
Being unwilling or unable to express
thoughts and feelings in a direct or
firm manner
Communication Styles
Being assertive involves standing up for your
rights and beliefs while also respecting those of
others.
Assertive
Expressing your views clearly and
respectfully
Ways to Communicate
To communicate effectively, you need to
learn speaking skills, listening skills, and
nonverbal communication.
Communication is a two-way street.
Speaking Skills
The key to good communication is to say what you
mean.
It’s not reasonable to expect other people to read
your mind or be able to pick up on subtle hints.
Speaking Skills
One way to make sure you don’t sound
disrespectful when talking about a touchy subject
is to use “I” messages.
“I” message
A statement that focuses on your
feelings rather than on someone
else’s behavior
Speaking Skills
“You” Messages
“I” Messages
“Why can’t you ever show up on time?”
“I really don’t like to be left waiting—it makes
me feel like you don’t think I’m important.”
“You never listen to anything I say.”
“I feel like my suggestions aren’t being taken
seriously.”
“I said I’d take out the trash, and I will! You
don’t have to nag me about it every five
minutes!”
“I’m feeling stressed because I have a big
project due tomorrow. I’ll take out the trash as
soon as I finish working on this.”
“You’re always taking my CDs without
asking.”
“It bothers me when I get home and find all my
CDs in your room.”
“You always ignore me when your other
friends are around.”
“I feel hurt when I’m left out of a
conversation.”
Listening Skills
Make sure other people’s messages get through
to you by practicing active listening.
Active listening
Paying close attention to what
someone is saying and communicating
Listening Skills
Don’t interrupt.
Show interest.
Restate what you hear.
Ask questions.
Show empathy.
Nonverbal Communication
Your body language affects the meaning of the
messages you send.
Body language
Nonverbal communication through
gestures, facial expressions, behaviors,
and posture
Nonverbal Communication
“I’m really
interested in what
you’re saying.”
“I don’t want to
talk to you.”
“I’m worried.”
Offering Useful Feedback
Offering constructive feedback can improve
your relationships with others.
The goal of constructive criticism is to bring
about positive changes.
Offering Useful Feedback
To offer constructive criticism:
Use “I” messages
that focus on the
problem, not on the
person.
Point out a specific
problem, explain
why it bothers you,
and suggest a
solution.
Offering Useful Feedback
Letting people know how their actions make you
feel isn’t something you should do only when
there’s a problem.
Let the people in your life know you value them
and appreciate what they do for you.
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
1. What are the three main styles of
communication?
Aggressive, passive, and assertive
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
2. List three ways to show interest in what
another person is saying.
Sample answer: Face the speaker, make
eye contact, nod or make comments at
appropriate times
After You Read
Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary
3. Define the term body language and give
an example.
Body language is nonverbal communication
through gestures, facial expressions,
behaviors, and posture. Nodding to show you
agree is one example.