Download raising morally upright adolescents

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RAISING MORALLY
UPRIGHT
ADOLESCENTS
Introduction……
Definition
• ADOLESCENT
-A boy or girl who is changing into a young man or
woman. The physical changes that take place at this
time are known as puberty. (Macmillan)
-Latin ( adolescentia, from adolescere, to grow up) is the
period of psychological and social transition between
childhood and adulthood (gender-specific, manhood or
womanhood).
• ADOLESCENCE
-The period of your life when you change from being a child
to being a young adult. (Macmillan)
- Adolescence is the transitional stage of human
development in which a juvenile matures into an adult. This
transition involves biological (i.e. pubertal), social, and
psychological changes, though the biological ones are the
easiest to measure objectively.
Who is the adolescent…?
- The ages of adolescence vary by culture
The World Health Organization (WHO) :
- the period of life between 10 and 19 years of age
In the United States :
- adolescence is generally considered to begin
somewhere between ages 12 and 14, and end at 19 or
20
As distinct from the varied interpretations of who is
considered an "adolescent", the word "teenager" is more
easily defined: it describes a person who is thirteen to
nineteen years of age.
Moral…..
o MORAL
Definition
- Principle of right or wrong behavior that are generally accepted
by society. It is something that you can learn from a story or an
experience. (MacMillan)
- A moral is a one sentence remark made at the end of many
children's stories that expresses the intended meaning of the
tale. Morals have long been included in children's literature,
perhaps because many of the stories written for children have
been written for the purpose of teaching and guiding children,
as opposed to entertaining them. Many morals are even
introduced with the phrase, "The moral of the story is..." to
emphasize to the reader what the point of the episode was.
Morals have grown increasingly out of fashion in modern
storytelling, and are now usually only included for ironic
purposes.
There are three types of moral :
i. Moral Knowing
ii. Moral Feeling
iii. Moral Action
i. Moral Knowing
- refers to the cognitive aspect of morality which
involves knowing what is right and good. Students will
be able to define good values, formulate sound moral
principles and explain what constitutes good character
and right conduct.
- The skills related to :
 Moral reasoning
 Critical thinking
 Responsible decision making and problemsolving
 Effective communication
Objective of moral knowing
 Know what is right and good
 Know the principles involved in making sound moral
decision
 Understand the importance of family and their role in it
 Consider multiple perspective when making moral
decisions
 Be open-minded and non-judgmental when considering
the views of others
 Practice moral reasoning and critical thinking when
making decision
 Understand the need to maintain social cohesion and the
important of racial and religious harmony
ii.
Moral Feeling
- refers to the effective aspect of morality and
constitutes the bridge between moral knowing and
moral action.
- it involves a sincere belief in and commitment to
uphold good values.
- it inspires us to carry out actions that are in
accordance with the values and beliefs we hold.
- moral feeling also motivates us to consider the
consequences of our action and the feeling of other
when faced with moral issues.
- self reflection skills are important in building greater
self-awareness and help us align our thought and
actions
Objective of moral feeling
 develop a sincere belief in and commitment to uphold and
practice moral values
 Recognize the need to clarify their values and actions
through understanding their feeling, so that they can
consciously take a moral stand.
 Consider the feelings of other when faced with moral
issues
 Develop interpersonal skills (e.g. self reflection)
iii. Moral Action
- refers to doing the right thing, where we base our
decision and action on moral knowing and moral feeling.
- it not only comprises the will and competencies requires
to engage in moral action, but also the development of
good habits as a result of consistently engaging in moral
action.
relevant skills for moral action include :
Social and communication skills, such as those
related goal setting and conflict resolution
When behavior and actions are consistently
moral, and rooted in moral knowing and moral
feeling, the individual, develops into a person of
good character.
Objective of moral action
 Base their decisions and actions on moral knowing and
moral feeling
 Put good values into practice
 Develop good habit as a result of consistently engaging
in moral action
 Practice good social and communication skills
 Be responsible in their action
 Promote harmony and social cohesion in a multiracial
and multi-religious society.
Solution….
::Moral Problem::
• Moral Problems
– A situation where there is a conflict of interests and/or
value
• Example
– Corruption
– Vandalism
– Adultery
– Rudeness
– etc
::How to Solve Moral Problems::
1.Identify what the problem actually
•Observation
2.List the possible solution (proposal)
•Imagination
•Thought
3.Testing of the proposal hypothetically
•Settle
•Worse and create more problem
How teachers can support the moral
development of adolescent learners?
 A caring classroom community.
 Moral discipline.
 Conflict resolution.
- Creating a caring classroom community
Strategies
Teacher can create a moral community in the
classroom by helping students to :
i.
ii.
Know each other as persons.
Respect, care about, and affirm each other – and
refrain from peer cruelly (both abuse and
exclusion).
iii. Feel valued membership in, and responsibility to,
the group (including practicing and ethic of
interdependence. “Who has a problem the rest of
us might be able to help solve?”)
- Moral discipline
i.
ii.
iii.
Strategies
Helping student to develop self-control and a
generalized respect for others.
Rules should be established in a way that develops
moral reasoning by helping students see the values.
(e.g: courtesy and caring)
The teacher is the central moral authority in the
classroom, responsible for students’ moral and
academic learning, safety, and general welfare.
- Conflict resolution
Teaching students how to solve conflict fairly, without
intimidation or violence.
Strategies
i.
ii.
Teaching conflict resolution skills is important for the
maintenance of a good moral community in
classroom.
Without conflict resolution skills, student will be
morally handicapped in their interpersonal relations
now and later in life.
Conflict resolution skills :
- Listening.
- Showing understanding.
- Expressing strong feelings without insult
The role of parents
- be a good role model to the children.
- show compassion to the child's feelings, even when they
differ from your own. Let your child know from an early
age that you respect her feelings.
- talk with your child about how his behavior affects other
people.
- from infancy, talk with your children about feelings. Give
them words to identify emotions
::Tips Of Raising Moral Adolescents::
commit to raising a moral children
be a strong moral example (role model)
know your beliefs & share them
use teachable moments
use discipline as a moral lesson
expect moral behavior
reflect on behavior’s effect
reinforce moral behaviors
prioritize moral daily
incorporate the golden rule
Psychology of adolescents
- Physical maturation resulting from puberty leads to an interest in
sexual activities, sometimes leading to teenage pregnancy. Since
teens may not be emotionally or mentally mature enough or
financially able to support children, sexual activity among adolescents
is sometimes considered problematic.
- At this age there is also a greater probability of drug and alcohol use,
or mental health disorders such as schizophrenia, eating disorders
such as anorexia, and depression. The unstable emotions or lack of
emotional intelligence among some adolescents may also lead to
youth crime.
- Searching for a unique identity is one of the problems that
adolescents often face. Some, but not all, teenagers often challenge
the authority or the rules as a way to establish their individuality. They
may crave adulthood and to find their place in the society.
ADOLESCENT MORAL DEVELOPMENT
Characteristics of adolescent moral development
include:
i. Understanding the complexity of moral issues and not
seeing everything in “black and white”
ii· Being capable of and interested in participating in
democracy
iii· Impatience with the pace of change and under
standing how difficult it is to make social changes
iv· Needing and being influenced by adult role models
who will listen and be trustworthy
v· Relying on parents and important adults for advice but
wanting to make their own decisions
vi· Judging others quickly but acknowledging one’s own
faults slowly
Islamic
perspective..
::Basic Element In Islamic Parenting::
Compassion (Rahmah)
Consultation (Shura)
Cooperation
Commitment
Communication
Consistency
Confidentially
Contentment
Confidence
Control
Calm
Courage
Critical Thinking
Charity
::Advice Lukman To His Son::
• Surah Lukman verse 12-19
• Tafseer Ibn kathir
• 13: to OBEY & WORSHIP Allah and not to ASSOCIATE
Allah. (Shrik)
• 14:a significant obligation to TAKE CARE of our parents
come after the order of worshiping Allah
• 15:TREAT the children with kindness while ask them to
TREAT us with kindness. Children must show kindness
to their parent even they ask to disobey Allah’s order
• 16:EMPHASIZE to the children that everything, small,
good, or bad deed will receive its reward or punishment
by Allah on the Day of Judgment. ENCOURAGE them
pay extra attention and careful of the consequences of
their behavior
• 17:ENCOURAGE the children to make praying on time.
As parent, they should be good example. Praying as
being described by Prophet. Encourage them to do good
and forbid evil by their best abilities and be patient.
• 18:ENCOURAGE them to have good manners, to be
gentle, helpful, and to treat people with respect. Be
humble and avoid arrogance
• 19:TEACH them not to walk with pride, not to walk too
fast or too slow and do not raise their voices unless it is
necessary
::Islamic View::
• Children should be raised to be good citizen of the world
• Qur’an is needed to lead humankind
– < Ibrahim 14:1>
• Qur’an provides deep insight into human nature to be
representative (khalifa)
– <baqarah 2:30>
• Indeed, to fulfill the purposes of human creation, parents
need to raise citizens who are morally responsible for
establishing a just and peaceful local society as well as
world
– <Al-Imran 3:110>
• In the Qur’an is the individual personality, when it clearly
points out that the condition of the people will not change
unless they change their thinking and behavior
– <ar-Ra’d 13:11>
• Children need role-models (also known as "good
examples"), and parents are their primary examples. For
Muslim parents, the ultimate model is the Prophet
Muhammad sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam.
– <al-Ahzab 33:21 >
• We must nurture and protect the family as the primary
social system and the natural environment for achieving
children’s physical, psychological and moral growth
• Children should be raised to understand fully their own
rights, obligations and responsibilities as Muslims, as
well as those of their parents, community, society and
ultimately the world itself
• Children must understand what it means to be a Muslim.
It means, first and foremost, to believe in Allah, who is
"Rabb al-’alameen", Creator and Sustainer of all peoples
and the entire universe
– <al-Hijr 15:85 >
• Fulfillment of one’s duties to Allah and mankind
constitutes righteousness
– <al-Baqarah 2:177 >
• These basic concepts are first put into practice in the
home, among our extended families, our friends,
schools, places of work and worship, our communities,
our countries and, finally, the world
Discussion…
In Malaysia we do have slogan of "BUDI
BAHASA KITA BUDAYA KITA" and even
"KESOPANAN DAN KESUSILAAN" stated
in "RUKUN NEGARA". But, Kuala Lumpur
as capital city in Malaysia have been listed
one of the rudest city the by the “Readers
Digest”. So, what is your opinion
regarding this issue?
And as a Malaysian, what we can do to
improve the Morality among the Malaysia
if a lot of people agree with statement that
been stated “Readers Digest”.
Conclusion…
It is important for adolescent to be brought
up in a good morally manner because
good moral leads to good attitude and
reflects to good behavior.
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