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Self and communication
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Who am I?
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An exercise: “Who
am I?”
■ Ask yourself this question.
■ Answer on a piece of paper.
■ Write as much as possible
■ Share with the class ( as much as
possible)
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“Who am I?”
■ We are a complex person.
■ Difficult to answer accurately or completely.
■ Our life begins and we started to learn who we are,
through our interactions with the people around us.
■ Most of us has a constant image of ourselves.
■ The image of ourselves also varies with different
situation.
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Who am I?
What is your self-concept?
How has communication affected
your self-concept?
Also how does your self-concept
affect communication?
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Understanding ourselves
■ Self-concept: perceived self, consists of an
organized collection of beliefs and attitudes
about self
■ Self-image: mental picture of self
■ Self-esteem: feelings and attitudes toward
self
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Understanding self-concept
■ Our self concept or self identity is our perceived self,
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which consists of an organised collection of beliefs and
attitudes about self.
Who we perceive ourselves to be is determined by our
experiences and communication with others.
This include the roles and values we have selected for
ourselves, and how we believe others see us.
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Understanding self concept
■ Self concept consists of 2 subcomponents,
closely related:
1. Self image
The mental picture of self
2. Self-esteem
Our feelings and attitudes towards ourselves
including our evaluation of ourselves
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Our interactions
■ How others treat us affect how we view
ourselves.
■ Also we can “hide” some parts of ourselves or
features to prevent rejection.
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Self-concept as a process
■ Communication is a dynamic process and so is
our self-concept.
■ Self perception and the perception of others
have of us differ from time to time, from situation
to situation and from person to person
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Self-concept is complex because….
■ Self concept is affected by:
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How we perceive ourselves
How we perceive others
How others perceive us
How we think others perceive
■ Influenced by our values, attitudes and beliefs
etc {culture and gender}
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Development of Self-Concept
■ Sensory awareness
■ Parental feedback
■ Others’
communication
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Development of Self-Concept
■ Values – general, relatively long-lasting ideals that
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guide our behavior
Attitudes – evaluative dispositions, feelings about
self, others, ideas, events
Beliefs – convictions or confidence in the truth of
something
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Kinch Model : Self-concept and
Communication
Actual
responses of
others (A)
Perception of
others’
responses(P)
Behaviour (B)
Self-concept
(S)
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Self-concept and communication
■ The perception we believe others have on us
affect our communication.
■ Our view of ourselves influences how we
communicate with others.
■ Communication and self concept are
inseparable and both involve process.
■ Consider the personal-social identity continuum
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What is the personal-social identity
continuum?
Individual
Social
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Intrapersonal communication
■ Communication with oneself is the basis of all
other communication experiences.
■ We “create” our own “movie of life”
■ Thoughts and words are the tools of creation of
our “movie of life”.
■ “Labels” about life comes from inside us.
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Self-sabotage or self-fulfillment
■ “You are what you think”; thoughts are the seeds
of actions.
■ The true sabotage lies within communication
with oneself, in thoughts and in words
■ Intra personal communication is the
communication you have with yourself about
yourself and others.
(Perkins, page 2-3)
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Dive into your life: How clean is your lake ?
(Perkins, 2008, page 6)
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Self-fulfilling prophecy and impression
management
■ Self-fulfilling prophecy: expectations that help
to create the conditions that lead us to act in
predictable ways
■ Impression management: creating a positive
self-image in order to influence the perceptions
of others
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Impression Management
■ The way people perceive us strongly influence their
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behaviour toward us and thus influence communication.
The desire to “look good” to others at first meeting is
very strong.
The creation of positive image of oneself to influence
others is referred to as impression management ( selfpresentation)
Facework: ways we act to maintain our own presenting
image and the images of others
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Understanding the self and others
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Culture, gender and self-concept
■ Does culture and gender influence our self-concept?
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Culture and Self-Concept
■ Individualistic orientation: tendency to stress
personal goals and achievements over group
goals and achievements
■ Collectivistic orientation: group goals over
individual goals
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Can we enhance self-concept?
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References:
■ Seiler, W. J and Beall, M. L ( 2008). Communication.
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Making Connections ( 7th ed). Boston: Pearson
Perkins,P. S ( 2008). The Art and Science of
Communication. Tools for Effective Communication in
the Work Place. New Jersey: Wiley.
Hybels, S., and Weaver II, R. L ( 2004). Communcating
Effectively ( 7th ed). Boston: Mc Graw Hill
Verdeber, R. F. and Verderber, K.S (
2005).Communicate( 11th ed). CA: Thomson/Wadsworth
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