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Self-esteem
Your self-esteem
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: measure of how much you value, respect,
and feel confident about yourself
High self-esteem occurs when certain emotional need
are met
– knowing who you are
– needs are met, a person feel safe
– people feel a sense of belonging
– you work to achieve what is important
– believing you deserve love, respect, an
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attention
Risk of low Self-Esteem
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Feels insecure
Disrespects self
and others
Vulnerable to peer
pressure
Doesn’t feel
valuable
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Feels depressed
Fears failure
Uses drugs and
alcohol
Feels pessimistic
Behaves
destructively
Building Self-Esteem
– everyone is different
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Positive self-talk
– learn to take criticism
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Act with integrity
: doing what one knows is right
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Learn a
Reach out to
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Choose supportive friends
– decide to trust rather than to worry
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Be assertive
: speaking up for yourself
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without offending others
Personal Values
Your values
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: beliefs and feelings about how
important someone or something is to you
Values help you choose right
– based on your parents values
– start to develop your own values,
as a result of personal experiences
What influences your values?
Families
 Religious organizations
 Television and media
 Friends
 Organized groups – FFA, Boy Scouts,
etc.
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Rank your values
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Religion
Family
Friends
Truth
Honesty
Recognition
Independence &
freedom
Creativity
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Education
Work ethic
Adventure
Knowledge
Power
Money or wealth
Security
Beauty
Communication
What is communication?
: the exchange of
information, thoughts, and feelings
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Message
 Message
 Understandable
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How do people communicate?
: uses spoken
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or written words
– words trigger emotions
– upbeat, downbeat, or
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sarcastic
- will convey a message
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– look at how it may
appear to someone else
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How do people
communicate? Cont.
: messages
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are sent in a visible way
: using facial
expressions and movements of the head,
arms, hands, and body to convey
messages
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– your clothing will say a lot
about you
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– physical appearance and
personal hygiene
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Barriers to Communication
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Message sender
 Do not be
Message receiver
 Not
 Giving
 Interpretation of the
 Wandering
 Hearing only what
 Fatigue – physical or mental
Barriers to Communication
cont.
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Message
 People’s perceptions
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: taking from a message
only what catches a person's attention
Several messages at one time
: something, such as a noise
or action, that makes it hard to pay attention
– verbal and nonverbal
to not convey the same message
Speaker talks too long –
Learning to Communicate
Effectively
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Levels of communication
Small
 Share
 Share
 Share
 Peak communication – high point of
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Learning to Communicate
Effectively cont.
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Attitudes for effective communication
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Sense of
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– free of assumptions,
criticisms, and speculations
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– blames the person
you are talking to
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– a person can set aside
personal concerns and assume another’s
point of view
Skills for Effective
Communication
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Appropriate time and place
Straight
: message receiver hears
what is said and supplies nonverbal and verbal
reactions
: verbal listeners responses
: restating the main
message, the listener can determine whether or
not the message received was accurate
The Power of Communication
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Communication is key to getting
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Good communication is a skill
and will to try –
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you can improve
Relationships with
Family
Family Relationships are
Important
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Families teach us
How to
 What being
 Who we
 Who we
 What feelings accepted or rejected is
like
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Families need time
Types of Families
: consists of family in
which a mother, father, and one or more
biological or adopted children live together
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– biological mother
or father, step-parent, and children of one
or both parents
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Increase because of divorces
Types of Families cont.
– single parent
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and children
Divorce or widowed
 Most headed by mother
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: people who are
outside the nuclear family but are related to
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Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins
Types of Families cont.
– adopting a child
or giving a child up for adoption – will be a
part of a new nuclear family
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– temporary family
while a child is waiting to be adopted
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Characteristics of Health
Families
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Positive communication strengthens the family
unit
 Taught by the parents
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Refraining form verbally or physically hurting
another person
 Honoring each other privacy
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Being dedicated to recognizing and achieving
what is best for family members
Characteristics of Health
Families cont
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Family members encourage, strengthen,
and show compassion toward each other
Building
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Require much work from members of the
family
Coping with Family Problems
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All family members need to participate in solving
a problem
Each member will benefit if the problems are
resolved as soon as possible
: counseling
discussions that are led by a third party to
resolve conflict among the family members
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Can give another perspective
Relationships with
Friends
Types of Peer Relationships
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Friendships
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- peers with whom
you feel socially connected.
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- relationship with
a member of the opposite gender in which
there is affection, but no sexual activity
Types of Peer Relationships
cont.
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: a small, narrow circle of
friends, usually with similar backgrounds or
tastes, that excludes people they view as
outsiders.
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: a negative feelings toward
someone or something that is based not on
experience but, rather, on stereotypes
: exaggerated and
oversimplified belief about an entire group of
people such as ethnic group, religious group,
or certain gender
Types of Peer Relationships
cont.
: exaggerated feelings of
passion for another person.
 Dating plays a very big part in growing
processes of relationship
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Peer Pressure
: The control and
influence people your age may have over
you.
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: sneaky or dishonest
way to control or influence others
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Responding to Negative
Peer Pressure
: giving up, giving in, or
backing down without standing up for your
own rights and needs
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: overly forceful,
pushy, hostile, or otherwise attacking in
approach
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: standing up for your
own rights in firm but positive ways
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Refusal Skills
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: techniques and
strategies that help you say no effectively
when faced with something that you do not
want to do or is against your values
 State your position
 Suggest
to the behavior
being proposed
 Back up your words
Dating
Dating Patterns
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Functions of dating
 Learn to evaluate
 Aware of demands and
 Learn how to get along with others
Informal group dating
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: more emphasis on
groups of people than on couples
 “Hanging out”
 Small to large groups
 May just get together or may plan ahead
Dating Patterns cont.
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Formal Pair Dating
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: dating several people
at the same time with no long-term
commitment to one person.
• “See each other”
• May only last one date or it may continue
: dating only one person
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for a period of time
• “Going Out”
• Share decision making, express feeling honestly,
and develop good communication patterns
Types of Love
: strong feeling of
personal attachment between friends or
family members; tender and
compassionate affection shared between
two people
 Positive types
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: total communication and
commitment between two people.
• Strive toward shared thoughts, feelings,
attitudes, ambitions hopes, and interest
Types of Love cont.
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Positive love cont.
: makes people feel
warm, secure, and cheerful
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: feelings of mutual
respect and understanding
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• Neither passionate and consuming nor hostile
and hurting
Types of Love cont.
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Negative Types
: jealous lover holds the
other person so tightly that the person is cut
off from other people
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: vigorous, insistent, and
urgent
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• Center on sexual relationship
: frequently raises its voice
in anger against the loved one
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: unfulfilled love
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Types of Love cont.
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Negative Types cont.
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: foolish extreme
attraction that does not last
Marriage
Healthy Marriage: Working
Together
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: lifelong union
between a husband and a wife, who
develop an intimate relationship
Love
Commitment
Compromise
: state of
being emotionally connected to another
person
Look Before You Leap
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Examining
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Decision should be yours
Based on love, commitment, and careful thought
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Cannot be based on just physical attraction
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Emotional maturity will take time
Usually in middle twenties
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Same level of education – have better chance
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Look Before You Leap cont.
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Need to have some things that are similar
It is ok to have some differences
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Remember this is something you will have to live
with
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: exist together in harmony
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What do hey want in life – job, living, etc
Look Before You Leap cont.
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Convictions
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: something you believe strongly
and take very seriously
Religion
: partners come from different
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religions
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Family bonds are tight
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Friends need not, or should not, be given up for
marriage
Do not resent the amount of time with friends
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Look Before You Leap cont.
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Discuss children before marriage
How many, and when
Interracial marriages
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: partners are of different races
Society is slow to accept
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Different cultures, traditions, lifestyles, and even food
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History men and women are in charge of different
things
Now men and women equally share responsibilities
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Look Before You Leap cont.
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Parents have your best interest in mind
Parental approval has one less hurdle to leap
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Unbiased, but trained input by third party if there are
problems
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Effort to get to know the other person before you marry,
you can find out whether marriages is right for you
Differences have a way of surfacing
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The Engagement
: announced intention of
two people to marry one another
 Average time
 Gives time to plan wedding & to make
sure they are both ready to be married
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Wedding
Can be simple to very extravagant
 Many participate in religious
ceremonies
 Signing of
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