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COMT 4/510: Advanced
Interpersonal
Communication
Perception and Family
communication is the
method of family culture
How can we be
“corpsed” in a
role??
Reasons for divorce
Body Problems
Stone - impact of family stories.
Birthdate/Where were you born?
Parents and Grandparents names,
What did they do for a living?
One memory about each
Where did you go to school? what
did you like about school? Least?
What was your favorite activity as a
child?
Describe the house/town you grew up in.
What made you afraid when you were a
child?
First date?
Describe your best childhood friend.
What has changed most in your life?/
What would you change?
Carbaugh:
we can
notice what
people
make of the
world as
they tell
stories.
We need to look at what
the narrator is using the
story to accomplish.
Stories are always cultural.
DeGenova & Rice suggest that parental
socialization is one of the strongest
influences in determining children's
family formation behavior. Respond.
We need to
develop a
more
dialectical
form of family
narrative.
Family narrative values the
•common (production + family)
•routine
•marginalized
DeGenova & Rice suggest that parental
socialization is one of the strongest
influences in determining children's
family formation behavior. Respond.
93% of
Americans say
they are very
comfortable
talking with
their children,
but only 75%
say they are
effective.
52% of Americans are comfortable
talking to their children about sex.
What happens when children
become teenagers?
From our family we usually learn:
• how gender is played out
• how to deal with loss
• how ethnic differences are perceived
• how and if affection is shared
• how family boundaries are managed
• how to deal with conflict
Narrative and
power: we
must look at
stories in
terms of
dominance
and
resistance.
Domestic
violence: one
family member
imposes her/his
will on another
through verbal
abuse or
physical
violence.
Domestic violence:
one family member
imposes her/his
will on another
through verbal
abuse or physical
violence.
What is a
diversity zoo???
All the
differences are in
separate cages.
87% of Americans say they are very
comfortable communicating with their
spouse/significant other, but only 73%
say they are effective.
77% of Americans say they are
very comfortable
communicating with their
parents, but only 69% say they
are effective.
78% of Americans say they are very
comfortable communicating with
their siblings, but only 65% say
they are effective.
62% of Americans say they are very
comfortable communicating with
their in-laws, but only 52% say they
are effective.
We need to have intimate
moments in relationship
• physical
• intellectual
• emotional
• shared activities
Alternatives trust and self-disclosure
in family relationships:
• lying: white lies, intentional deception
Why we lie
• save face
• avoid tension or conflict
• guide social interaction
• expand/reduce relationship
• gain power
• equivocating
• hinting
We can choose to develop a
participatory attitude in families,
which tends to be reciprocal:
• Being thoughtful
• Being careful
• Being full of good humor
Masters of family communication:
communicate acceptance amidst
conflict.
They move from gridlock to
dialogue or avoidance.
Well-functioning families manage
communication patterns
• adapt
• create change
• share intimacy
• manage conflict
End of perception and
family session