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CHAPTER 2
BUILDING CONFIDENCE
WHO HAS CONFIDENCE?
• Get into groups of 4
• List 10 people that have a lot of confidence
CONFIDENCE
• Not a trait you are born with
• Must understand the definition of confidence
• DEF: belief that you have when you believe that
you are capable of handling a situation successfully
• Preparation and practice
• One speed bump- stage fright
STAGE FRIGHT
• Also called communication apprehension
• DEF: person afraid to speak, usually in public
situations
• 80-90% of Americans
STAGE FRIGHT EXAMPLE
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3k9TNhTaP6g
STAGE FRIGHT & FEAR
• Fear is designed to protect us from harm
• Activates our emergency systems to deal with
danger
• Fight or flight emergency system
• Avoid something fearful- can become a phobia
SYMPTOMS OF STAGE FRIGHT
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Forgetting the words
Upset stomach
Dizziness
Heartbeat
Shortness of breath
ESTABLISHING AN ACCURATE
PERCEPTION
• Perception: how you see things
• Perceive: to gain an awareness or understanding of
a person, idea, or a situation
• Accurate perception: gain knowledge
• Inaccurate: blow out of proportion, make issue
larger
YOUR PERCEPTION OF THE AUDIENCE
• Giving a speech is not life or death
• Speaking fears are often unwarranted
• Audience often unaware of the nerves of the
speaker
PERCEPTION OF THE SPEECH
• Problem is what the speech should mean
• Speech is not a show
• Speech should be the opportunity to share, enjoy a
meaningful moment, etc.
YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOURSELF
• Sometimes difficult to accept who we are
• Easy to perceive ourselves as not good enough
• Should not always have to be perfect- but while still
striving for excellence
• See yourself as unique
• Don’t‘ fear being human
• Self-esteem
EXAMINING CONFIDENCE
• 10 components to help you build self confidence
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Content
Organization
Notes
Friendliness
Impression
Dedication
Empathy
Newness
Conviction
Enthusiasm
CONTENT
• Have something worth while to say
• Be confident in your content
• Build evidence
ORGANIZATION
• Have some type of an outline that is easy for both
you and your audience
• Every speech needs organization
• Have a main point or idea that is being addressed
• Audience will appreciate your guidance
NOTES
• Jot down ideas in outline form
• Notecards are security nets, but not a substitute for
preparation
• Avoid the two biggest problems with notes:
• Having too many words on one single notecard
• Having too many notecards
FRIENDLINESS
• Be congenial
• Gain confidence when you show friendliness and
receive positive feedback from your audience
• Don’t view your audience as faceless people
IMPRESSION
• Getting off to a good start is essential
• How your audience perceives you from the start is
very important
• Also refers to the way that you are dressed and
groomed
• But not draw away from your main message
DEDICATION
• Practice, practice, practice!
• Rehearse the delivery of the speech
• Similar to practicing for a sport
EMPATHY
• Know how it feels to feel the same way as others
• Empathy- a sincere understanding of the feelings,
thoughts, and motives of others
• You can feel much more at ease after knowing
how your audience feels
• Understand feedback better
• Find common ground
NEWNESS
• Apply some originality
• Could mean taking a different approach to discuss
a topic in a unique way
• One of the best ways is to tell a personal story
CONVICTION
• Believe in what you say
• Boring without conviction
• Confidence is strongly magnified with a strong
belief in your topic
ENTHUSIASM
• Get fired up!
• No one wants to listen to a monotone mannequin
• Inspire your audience by showing them you are
fired up in two ways:
• Intellectually
• Physically
CHAPTER 2 WRAP UP
• Ensuring success with your spoken words
• Solid speech with confidence and strong
communication