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Family and Relationships
Chapter 10: Skills for healthy
relationships
What is a relationship?
• A bond or connection you have with other
people.
• Friendship- Significant relationship between
two people that is based on caring, trust, and
consideration
• Citizenship- the way you conduct yourself as a
member of the community.
• Role- Part you play in a relationship.
– Examples:
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Daughter or Son
Sister or Brother
Granddaughter or Grandson
Others?
For a relationship to succeed you must
follow the 3 C’s:
• Communication- your ways of sending and
receiving messages
• Cooperation- working together for the good
of all
• Compromise- A problem solving method
that involves each participant’s giving up
something to reach a solution that satisfies
everyone.
– When is a time you had to compromise?
Characteristics of healthy
relationships:
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Mutual respect and consideration
Honesty
Dependability
Commitment
What your character says about you
• Character- the way you think, feel, and act.
– Think about the people you spend most of your
time with…typically they:
• Similar values (beliefs and ideas) as you
6 traits to develop good character
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Trustworthiness
Respect
Responsibility
Fairness
Caring
Citizenship
Effective Communication
• 3 communication styles:
1. Passive- inability or unwillingness to express
thoughts and feelings
• These people do NOT stand up for themselves or
defend their attitudes or beliefs
• Would rather do something they prefer not to do than
voice their opinion
• 2. Aggressive- often try to get their way
through bullying and intimidation.
– Do not consider the rights of others
– In a disagreement they tend to attack the other
person than the issue
• 3. Assertive- Expressing thoughts and feelings
clearly and directly, BUT without hurting
others.
– Stand up for themselves, defend their attitudes
and beliefs.
– Respect rights of others. Attack the problem not
the other person.
Speaking skills
• Remember your:
– Tone, pitch, loudness of your voice
• Saying something nice but in a sarcastic way will most
likely not be interpreted as nice.
• Speaking loudly can be seen as being bossy or arrogant.
• Not being firm enough when the situation calls for it
can come off as unsure or insincere.
– “NO” situation
“I” message
• -Statement in which a person describes how
he or she feels by using the pronoun “I”.
– What are some situations where you attacked
someone instead of using an “I” message?
• How could you have handled this differently?
Listening Skills
• Active Listening- Paying close attention to
what someone is saying and communicating.
Techniques for better active listening:
• Reflective listening
– Rephrase or summarize what the other person has
said.
• Clarifying
– Asking the speaker what they think or how they
feel about the situation being discussed. Asking
questions to more fully understand what is being
said.
Techniques cont.
• Encouraging
– Encouraging the speaker by giving verbal and nonverbal cues (nodding your head, “uh huh”, “I see”)
• Empathizing
– Ability to imagine and understand how someone
else feels.
Tips for better active listening:
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Direct eye contact
Leaning in toward the speaker
Don’t interrupt the speaker
Put away prejudices so you can focus on what
they are saying.
Non-verbal communication
• Body Language- nonverbal communication
through gestures, facial expressions,
behaviors, and posture
Communication barriers
• Image and identity issues
– Identity- A sense of who you are and what your
place in the world is.
• Unrealistic expectations
Barriers cont.
• Lack of trust
• Prejudice- Unfair opinion or judgment of a
particular group of people.
– Practice tolerance- ability to accept others
differences and allow them to be who they are
without you expressing disapproval.
• Gender stereotyping– Exaggerated or over simplified belief about a
certain gender.
Constructive Feedback
• Constructive criticism- non-hostile comments
that point out problems for the purpose of
helping a person improve.
Understanding Conflict
• Interpersonal Conflicts- Disagreements
between groups of any size, from two people
to entire nations.
– Come up with some conflicts you can think of…Big
or small.
Responding to a conflict
• Two choices
– Face it
– Walk away from it
Conflict Resolution
• - is the process of solving a disagreement in a
manner that satisfies everyone involved.
• Negotiation- the use of communication and
often compromise to settle a disagreement.
Steps to prepare for negotiation
• Make sure the issue is important to you
• Check your facts!
• Goal is to find a solution, not fight or prove
who is “in control.”
• Rehearse what you are going to say
• Calm down your emotions before starting.
Mediation Process
• - Process in which specially trained people
help others resolve their conflicts peacefully.
• Confidentiality- Respecting the privacy of
both parties and keeping details secret.
Mediation cont.
• Peer Mediators- students trained to help
other students find fair resolutions to conflicts
and disagreements.