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The Future of
Sex(uality)
Cybersex or Pseudosex
What help can we get?
What helps to free the inner
child?
Is sex, or the excuses we
dream up to meet to get
sex, what defines a culture?
• Internet made it easy to get the
kicks, but has it really made it
better?
• We lost the sense of wonder, the
adventure of discovery, the rites of
passage
• sex is a commodity, we made love an
illusion,
First: technology
• Slow
progress
since Ted
Nelson’s
Dildonics
(1974)
What (new) technologies are there to
improve/help/boost sexual pleasure
• Chemicals like Viagra, testosterone, midodrine,
viloxazine and moclobemide, XTC, 2CB and a score of
old stimulants and aphrodisiacs
• Mechanical: lubricants, dildo’s, electric pads, inflatable
puppets, sex-robots, tactile interaction devices, VRsex, dildonics, cybersex
• Fantasy: nothing new, fetishes of all kinds, but now on
DVD, internet, externalising our feelings
• Exercises like Kegel, contraction exercises, yoga,
kundalini, tantra
• Psychotherapy in cases of rape, abuse and
malfunctioning
• Surgery in case of esthetical needs, malfunctioning or
trauma, in extreme to make borgs
Stimulants and magic potions
They work!!
• Different chemicals adress different
systems, just pumping more blood
(Viagra) is limited
• Tryptamines, Amphetamines, what
chakra, what senses do they
enhance?
• Hardly any study into multisubstance effects
• See www.net.info.nl/psimatrix.htm
Cybersex, a new fantasy
genre or a new medium
• M. McLuhan: the
medium is the
massage/message
• Luc Sala: a bit is only
information if it
bytes
Cybersex-Cyberporn
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Addictive
Anti-social
Easily perverted
Crossover to reality
(molest, abuse, childporn)
But
• Cheap
• Safe
• Big Business
• An alternative
Real-time, but not
reality
• Look-alike, fantasy-alike and for
some the great escape
Some progress, but no killer app yet
Together in cyberspace
• In 1990 we believed VR would
change the world, it hasn’t!
Leary, Barlow, Nelson,
Gullichsen, RUSirius,
Lanier, did we dream
about the ultimate
experience!!
And what if VR got
spiced up with some
good old LSD or
MDMA?
And we did try!!
It hasn’t happened, so
what was missing?
Then: psychology
• Lots of studies, lots of theories,
little progress
• Maybe the old sages knew
more?
• Sex, Love and happiness, what
the heck do we know?
Has psychology helped us in
establishing what is good or bad, so-so
sex or ectasy, moral or sin?
Hardly, I think
• Since Freud and the
behaviourists we are all aware
of our complexes, trauma’s and
sexual imprints and as we
accept that we all have an
outward Persona (Mask), and a
wounded child inside or shadow
(covering the deeper and pure
inner child (higher self) then
how do these two
subpersonalities affect our
sexual behaviour?
My work suggests:
Wounded Child and Mask are two distinct
modes (personalities) with their own:
• Intelligence
• Memory and trauma scars
• Sexual orientation
• Talents
• Medical profile
• Chi/energy profile
Most people live 95% or more in their mask,
the inner child comes out in stress, sex,
mystic states, with some drugs and in
dreams
It’s the wounded child
that eventually kills you
• Experiences create the mask, but
also scar the child inside
• Diseases are signals from the
wounded child
• If you don’t listen they grow
• Accepting the shadow (and cleaning
its wounds) is the only way to
psychosomatic
health
Some data
And now sex!
• Some people have sex in their
mask mode ( about 12-15%)
Of these 45% has different sex-orientation
in child/mask
• Most people have sex in their
(wounded) child mode
This is where SM/exhibitionism, fetishes,
abuse, etc. abound
More Data of a rather private kind
details
A sex matrix: what does
it tell?
• Sex in the mask (P1) is less satisfactory
• 45% of the people under 30 are stuck in their sexchakra
• 40% of the people over 30 are stuck in their sex
chakra
• Most people don’t reach their sex potential ever,
making it to 50% is an exceptional experience for
them
• Real sex is better than masturbation, but not
always
• We are all “abnormal”, against what the Church,
Balkenende or Bush consider acceptable
And Cybersex?
• Great if you like sex in your mask
• Maybe we can learn to cope with a limited
sensory arsenal
• Sex-therapy via the internet or VR is an
option
• For now, cybersex will yield some 40% of
real sex in terms of satisfaction at the
physical and emotional level, and far less
at the spiritual.
Back to the future
• Will we find ways to help people
enjoy sex in their “child” mode
I believe a combination of
psychotherapeutic methods, old
wisdom like tantra practice and yoga,
prudent use of substances and
awareness of how our mask/child
system works, can help.
And how about science?
• Once we learn to accept intuition and
combine it with scientific analysis we
might find ways to understand ourselves
better.
• Sex is an information process, mostly
happening between the ears, so why don’t
we start studying what information really
is.
• I personally believe that information,
consciousness and love are pointing at
the same ground of being.
So:
• A bit is only information if it bytes
maybe sex is only love if it changes you
Luc Sala
[email protected]
• www.net.info.nl
• www.heavenonearth.nl
• www.dealerinfo.nl
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