Download Ch 2 Lesson 1 Relationships

Chapter 2 Relationships &
Choosing Abstinence
Lesson 1 Relationships &
Communication
You’ll learn to…
• Evaluate the effects of family
relationships on physical,
mental/emotional, and social health
• Evaluate the positive & negative effects
of relationships with peers
• Demonstrate communication skills that
build & maintain healthy relationships
Family
Adam
Markiewicz’s
family photo 10
years after
graduation…
That’s Adam Jr.!
Functions of a healthy family
• Families help provide basic
physical needs. Ex. food,
shelter, care when ill.
• Families provide emotional
support.
• Families provide structure for
our lives. Ex. organize
activities and schedule times.
(families look out for your
best interest).
Lex Strube & Family
20 years after graduation!
Family & Friends
• Family is the basic
unit of society.
• Besides ensuring
food, clothing, and
shelter, family
provides guidance to
help children learn to
function in society.
• Families teach us our
values.
Family portrait of
Wooton & Brothers
Values
• Values- the beliefs &
standards of conduct
that are important to a
person
• Values are also instilled
through cultural
heritage, religious
beliefs, and family
traditions
• You apply your values to
the decisions that you
make everyday.
Friends
• As we mature we
meet people outside
our families & we
make friends
• Friends who share
your interests and
values can be a
source of positive
peer pressure
Relationships in Adolescent
Years
• Forming mature
relationships with your
peers is important for
your social health
• Being involved in a
variety of school,
religious, and
community activities
can promote your
mental/emotional and
social growth.
Reed Rathof at GCIT’s
10 year Reunion
Peer Pressure
• As you develop relationships
(individual/groups) you
probably experience peer
pressure.
• Peer pressure is the influence
that people your age may have
on you
• Peer pressure can be positive or
negative
Peer pressure continued…
• Peer pressure is especially influential
for adolescents with low self-esteem.
• In order to feel a sense of belonging,
they may engage in high-risk
behaviors or activities that go against
their values.
Kauffeld
Cannon
Booth
Buchannan
Class of 2011 10 yrs later… with matching mullets!
Dating
• Considered an important
social activity
• Group dates offer teens
opportunities to interact
with a variety of people,
they may feel less nervous.
• Steady dating is when two
people date each other
exclusively.
Communication
• The process through
which you send
messages to and receive
messages from others—
is essential to any
relationship
• Good communication
skills will help you keep
relationships healthy and
mature
Good Communication Skills
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Means clearly expressing your feelings,
thoughts, ideas, and expectations.
Use “I” messages to avoid placing blame.
Maintain a polite tone in your voice.
Speak directly to the person.
Provide a clear, organized message that states
the situation.
Body language should match your words.
Good Listening Skills
• Good listening skills means listening to
what others say. Guidelines for being a
good listener:
1. Give your full attention to the person
speaking.
2. Focus on the speaker’s message.
3. Indicate your interest.
4. Remember what the speaker had said.
5. Use positive body language.
Conflict
• Any disagreement,
struggle, or fight.
• Most common reasons
for a conflict include a
lack of communication
• When conflicts or
disagreements occur
relying on T.A.L.K
strategy will help reach a
peaceful resolution.
T.A.L.K
• T- Take time out
• A- Allow each person to express his/her
opinion uninterrupted
• L- Let each person take turns to ask
questions and clarify any statements
• K- Keep brainstorming to find a good
solution
Conflict & Dating
• Becoming skilled at
“choosing your battles,” or
deciding when it is
worthwhile to take, can
help you avoid unnecessary
conflict.
• Good communication is
especially important in
dating relationships.
• Express yourselves honestly
and listen to what the other
person is saying.
Healthy vs Unhealthy
Relationships
Conflict & Dating
Activity
Tim Huff entertaining at
GCIT’s 10 –year reunion
KNOW THE SIGNS:
Healthy relationships have the
following characteristics:
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Talking about your feelings
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Respecting date’s friends and activities
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Considering the other person’s opinions
• and feelings
•
Respecting differences in other persons
•
Stating differences of opinion
•
Having an equal say in the relationship
•
Figuring out a solution that is good for
• both of you.
KNOW THE SIGNS:
Unhealthy relationships have the
following
characteristics:
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Believing one sex has more rights that
• the other
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Shouting or yelling when you are angry
• at your date
•
Using the silent treatment
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Pestering your date until you get what
• you want
•
Pouting to get what you want.
KNOW THE SIGNS:
Abusive relationships have the
following characteristics:
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Dominating and controlling your date’s
other relationships/friends and activities
Name calling (putdowns)
Threatening harm
Intimidating be hitting or destroying
property
Being extremely jealous and possessive
of date
Pushing, hitting, restraining or holding
your date against his/her will
Forcing sexual touching or intercourse.
Review Questions
1. Evaluate ways your parents, guardians,
and other family members contribute to
physical and mental/emotional health
and help you establish healthy
relationships.
2. Define the term peer pressure and
evaluate the positive & negative effects
of relationships with peers.
Review Questions continued…
3. List three benefits of dating.
4. Explain & demonstrate the importance
of using good communication skills in
building & maintaining healthy
relationships. Give two examples.
5. Make a list of positive ways you can
develop healthy relationships with your
peers. Describe specific actions you can
take to become a good friend.