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LCP/ICP Carer Leaflet Palliative Care Team St George’s Hospital Tel: 020 8725 3311 When someone is dying… Understanding the changes which occur as a person approaches death This leaflet describes some of the changes which are likely to occur as a person draws close to death. Understanding these changes can help lessen your anxiety during this stressful time. We hope that it helps to prepare you for the last few days and moments of your loved one’s life. Physical changes As death draws nearer, people often feel more tired and have less energy. They become bed bound and spend greater amounts of time sleeping. They may become semiconscious or even unconscious. Nurses will help your relative/friend change their position regularly, to stay comfortable. A special mattress can help vulnerable areas such as the bottom or heels from becoming sore. Eating and drinking People often lose interest in eating or drinking during their final days. The body doesn’t need food in the same way it used to and the sensation of being hungry / thirsty may disappear. This change in appetite can be difficult for family and friends especially if you have been used to tempting your relative with favourite foods. When s/he stops eating, his/her lips and mouth may become dry. You can moisturise the lips with lip balm or Vaseline and gently clean the mouth to keep it moist with mouth sponges. The nursing staff will watch carefully to keep your relative/friend’s mouth moist. Once your relative stops eating, he or she may stop having bowel movements, and pass less urine. Communication Tiredness can make it difficult to concentrate and join in conversations. It becomes more difficult to stay interested in things that were previously important. It is often a good idea to say anything you want to tell your relative before they become too tired and weak, although it can be difficult to predict when this will be. Breathing If someone’s breathing becomes difficult or noisy, there are medicines that can help. It is often more distressing for family and friends than it is for the person themselves. Consciousness As your relative spends more time sleeping, you may find it more and more difficult to wake them up. Gradually, they are likely to slip into unconsciousness, although they may have brief moments when they are awake. While you may not be able to hold a conversation with them, it can still be comforting to talk to them. They may well be able to hear what is said to them, even if they don’t respond. Some people become very restless and agitated, which can be very distressing for the family to watch. This is usually caused by chemical changes in the body. Medication can be given to help this. Medication Not everyone gets pain. If your relative/friend is in pain, it is important to give painkillers regularly to keep the pain controlled. Anti sickness drugs can be given to control any nausea or vomiting. Some medication is available as a liquid but if swallowing becomes a problem, it can be given through a syringe driver. This is a small pump that gives a continuous dose of a drug though a tiny needle inserted under the skin. The nurses and doctors looking after your friend or relative will be monitoring their medication carefully to make sure they are as comfortable and as free of pain as possible. Emotional changes As the body begins to withdraw from the world, some people become disorientated. They may speak to people who are not really there, perhaps people from their past who have already died. Other people may become irritable or angry. This can be difficult to cope with when you are trying to make their last few days as comfortable as possible. The last few moments It's difficult to know exactly when someone will die. Many people worry what will happen at the time of death. Your relative’s breathing may become irregular, with very shallow breathing. Or they may appear to stop breathing for a time, then take another breath. It does not usually cause distress to the person but can make it difficult to tell if it is the last breath. When you touch your relative, their skin may feel cold and moist. These changes are normal and are part of the body’s shutting down process. The person’s body may relax completely at the time of death. Some people may lose control of their bladder and bowels as the body relaxes. We hope this leaflet has answered some of your questions about what is likely to happen during the last few days of your loved one’s life. If you would like to find out more, then please don’t hesitate to ask one of the medical or nursing team looking after your friend or relative. Approved by the Patient Information Group March 2011 Review date: March 2014