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Hope Pregnancy Resource Center
940 1st Avenue East
Kalispell, MT 59901
406-257-6006
Office Hours 12:00-4:00 p.m.
Monday - Friday
Dear Friend,
Welcome to Hope Pregnancy Resource Center catalog of Abstinence Resources. This catalog
has been made available through our grant through Title V.
Enclosed are resources available for checkout from Hope Pregnancy Resource Center.
To checkout materials visit our center during business hours, or call 257-6006 to make other
arrangements.
Materials can be checked out for one month and can be renewed as needed.
All brochures are given free of charge. Just let us know how many you need!
At the end of the catalog we’ve also included names and numbers of local professionals who
are willing to speak on abstinence-related topics.
Also, if you have any materials you would recommend, or have abstinence resources you
would like us to purchase for your school or organization please let us know. We will
consider all requests.
Thank you for your time. We applaud your work!
With care,
Amy Bennett
Hope Pregnancy Ministries
Abstinence Coordinator
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* Indicates that material is appropriate for public
schools.
VIDEOS:
Are You Dying to Have Sex?*
This tool is perfect for communicating the
consequences of pre-mature sexual activity. The
program was developed by educational and medical
professionals, with students in mind, speaking their
language while conveying medical fact. Covering
both viral and bacterial Sexually Transmitted Diseases, this fully scripted teaching tool
contains contemporary visuals and real-time movies for the most visually stimulating,
accurate and professional presentation.
--The Human Development Resource Council, Inc.
Everyone Is Not Doing It-3 part series for teens*
UPDATED! Mike Long has developed this brand new video tape series specifically for Title
V. In fact, Sen. Lauch Faircloth (the sponsor of Title V legislation) said, “This series will
help tremendously to fill the need expressed by educators around the country for quality
video resources designed to teach young people how to make healthy, responsible choices
about sexuality and other high risk behaviors. This is the kind of resource I had in mind when
I sponsored the legislation....” Contains the latest strategies and video techniques to
successfully implement the abstinence until marriage concept in the classroom.
--Mike Long
Everyone Is NOT Doing It-Parent Presentation*
Mike Long is speaking directly to parents and teachers of adolescents. He emphasizes the
importance of directive teaching and parenting in training teens how to avoid potentially
dangerous sexual consequences. He explains why abstinence from sexual activity outside of
marriage must be the expected standard of behavior for all adolescents. Long exposes the
challenges teens face from peer pressure regarding sex so that parents and teachers can have
a better understanding of “where teens are coming from” on this subject. This DVD will
provide the confidence parents and teachers need to reach teens more effectively on the issue
of sexual abstinence until marriage.
--Mike Long
No Apologies – The Truth about Life, Love & Sex*
It's easy to understand how teens can get confused when making choices about se x.
Encourage the young adult in your life to make smart decisions.
--Focus on the Family, (800) A-FAMILY (232-6459)
Public and Christian versions
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I Kissed Dating Goodbye (Video, Book and Study Guide available)
Countless teens today feel depressed or discouraged because they don't have a boyfriend or
girlfriend. Many single Christians feel frustrated with cultural expectations and patterns of
dating. Youth pastors and parents find themselves dealing with young adults who fall into
sexual temptation or spend more energy on dating than on following God. I Kissed Dating
Goodbye offers an all-new approach to dating relationships. It calls young adults away from
playing the dating game and reveals how they can live a lifestyle of sincere love, true purity,
and purposeful singleness. Honest and practical, this powerful book will inspire teens and
young adults to remap their romantic lives in the light of God's Word.
--New Attitude, 7881 Beechcraft Ave., Suite B, Gaithersburg, MD 20879, Phone: (301) 9262200 x504
It Ain’t Worth It (Public School Version)*
To date there are more than 50 different sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), many of
which are rampant among the youth of our nation. These diseases, coupled with the millions
of unwanted pregnancies that end in an untold number of abortions each year, are symptoms
of a national epidemic: sexual promiscuity. The costs of this epidemic are staggering, both in
human suffering, loss of life and expense to society.
--A.C. Green, 1- 800- AC-YOUTH
Searching for True Love: Love, Purity and Trust
Searching for True Love: LOVE
Searching for true love? You're not alone. Love is the most used--and probably misused--word
in the language. What is it? What does it look like? How does it act? Joshua Harris reveals
surprising secrets about love in this segment. Using humor, drama, on-the-street interviews,
and sessions taped before an audience. Josh defines true love and how its power can make it
possible for you to enjoy lifelong, meaningful relationships. You desire for the best for your
life--true love. That's what God wants for you, too. Hang in there. Your search is almost
over.
--Joshua Harris, Eden Communications
Searching for True Love: PURITY
Searching for true love? Then prepare for purity. There's a word you don't hear often. Is it
just an outdated idea, or something we need in our lives today? This session shows that
purity is a direction, a course that starts in our hearts. In an age of compromise, how do we
maintain outward modesty and a life of inward purity? Why would we want to? Josh defines
our ultimate motivation for living a life of purity and why it should be a priority in our
relationships.
--Joshua Harris, Eden Communications
Searching for True Love: TRUST
Trust. It's easier to say you have it than it is to live it. If you let God direct your romantic life
will He really do what's best? It's all about trust. This session reveals that "singleness" isn't a
secondary status. It's not a time for simmering on the back burner and watching life go by.
It's a chance to develop your gifts and make the most of today. And all this is possible if
you're willing to trust God's timing for romance.
--Joshua Harris, Eden Communications
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Sex Ed: No Screwin’ Around*
Pam Stenzel traveled the globe talking to teens and their parents about sex for this new
abstinence DVD. They talk about their experiences, they talk about character, they talk about
STDs, pregnancy, boundaries, friends, respect, body parts, good relationships and bad ones,
boy and girls. It’s all real, it’s all true. Sex is a big deal, it is a topic we all deal with at some
point, and we are all a result of the act... whether we like it or not. If this video could be
summed up in one statement, it is this - if you have sex outside of one monogamous
relationship, there will be consequences. No one has ever had sex outside of that context and
not paid. The question you have to ask yourself is this; what is the cost and is it worth
paying.
--Pam Stenzel
Sex Still has a Price Tag-Public School Version*
Today, people are faced with a raging plague of sex related problems. Pregnancy, sexually
transmitted diseases and rape statistics are at all-time highs. Even so, today's society
encourages sexual activity, and young people must have a compelling reason to commit to
sexual abstinence. In "Sex Still Has a Price Tag," world renowned abstinence educator,
Pam Stenzel, combines her personal story and extensive pregnancy counseling experience in
a hard hitting look at the physical and emotional consequences of sexual activity outside of
one permanent monogamous relationship. In a captivating and inspiring talk, Pam tackles the
touch issues of sex with candor, insight and humor while challenging young people to
embrace the benefits of abstinence.
--Pam Stenzel
S.P.A.M. (Student Peer Abstinence Movement) Rural(7th and 8th grade) and Ninth Grade
Presentations*
Hundreds of Kalispell students in high school and middle school are being
encouraged by respected high school students from varied social groups not to
have sex. With an adult coach supervising, S.P.A.M. forms teams of six students
usually consisting of three males and three females including both virgins and
"secondary virgins" (persons who have experienced sex but are now choosing
abstinence). These teams travel to middle/junior high schools and talk with 7th, 8th
and 9th graders about their choices to remain abstinent. Teams use effective
presentations including skits dealing with sexual pressures. It is the mission of the
Student Peer Abstinence Movement to assist school districts in developing
effective peer-taught sexual abstinence programs. S.P.A.M., in partnership with
students, parents, schools, and the community, challenges teens to consider the
numerous benefits of postponing sexual activity until establishing a mutually
faithful monogamous relationship, as occurs in a marriage between a man and a
woman.
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Teen Sex: The Rules Have Changed*
Each and every day, 8,000+ teens contract a new STD. 85% of these teens do not even know
they have a life-threatening disease. The Rules Have Changed is a succinct video that
answers questions parents and teens have about the dangers of sex. Is there really an STD
epidemic? Aren’t STDs curable with medicine? Isn’t ‘safe sex’ safe? are just a few of the
issues Dr. Meeker and Dr. Maxwell address. Dr. Warren talks about the emotional dangers of
premature sex. This DVD is ideal for school and youth group presentations. 21 minutes.
MASE (Mothers Against Sexual Exploitation) 636-386-1789
Time to Wait for Sex --Pam Stenzel – Public School Version*
People today are faced with a raging plague of sex related problems. Pregnancy, sexually
transmitted diseases--including HIV--and rape statistics are at all time highs and climbing.
Before young people will buy into abstinence, they must hear a convincing message. In Time
to Wait for Sex, nationally known speaker Pam Stenzel combines her personal story and
extensive pregnancy counseling experience into a hard-hitting look at the consequences of
sexual activity outside God's design for sex, which is marriage. In this captivating and
inspiring talk, Pam tackles the tough issues of sex with candor, insight, and a challenge for
young people to get the "abstinence advantage".
--Stenzel-Drummond Assoc. Inc. P.O. Box 152115, Grand Rapids, MI 49515-2115
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BROCHURES:
A Teen's Guide to Abstinence*
Help teens make the decision to postpone sexual involvement with this pamphlet. It includes
what abstinence is, why it's a good idea, and what you can do if someone you really like is
pressuring you to have sex.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
Abstinence Because Brochure*
This teen-savvy brochure communicates many reasons to remain abstinent. It's perfect for
distributing in classrooms or assemblies to re-emphasize why abstinence is the only healthy
choice for teens.
--The Medical Institute, P.O. Box 162306, Austin, TX 78716 * 512-328-6268
Abstinence Literature-STD’s*
Have you ever wished you could tell someone of the devastating effects of STDs - Sexually
Transmitted Diseases... But you didn’t have the facts at hand? Or worse yet, people didn’t
believe what you said? Here is the solution - 6 new pieces of literature to help you in your
work. Each is accurate, authoritative and uses the newest statistics available. And best yet,
they are so affordable that even small centers can have the very best information available.
And when clients take the literature out the door, the abstinence message goes with them into
the community.
Heritage House, www.abstinenceresources.com
Am I Ready for Sex?*
The questions in this pamphlet are designed to get young people to think about all of the
different aspects of having sex while encouraging them to wait. A positive, empowering
approach to abstinence education.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
Awesome Dates*
How can you tell if he/she really likes you or just wants your body? (Take the test!)
Teen-Aid Inc. www.teen-aid.org
Been There Done That Now What?*
This bestselling brochure offers insight and help to those teens who did not wait for sex. It
provides understanding, and more importantly, a way to get back on the right track of sexual
purity.
Written by Jana Spicka, Life Cycle Books, www.lifecyclebooks.com
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Condom Sense: Has the Truth Been Covered Up?*
Condoms are primarily used for two reasons—to prevent pregnancy and to prevent the
transmission of STDs. But how consistently are they used and how well do they work?
--The Medical Institute, P.O. Box 162306, Austin, TX 78716 * 512-328-6268 *
www.medinstitute.org
Condoms: What’s still at risk?*
Some say condoms make sex safe, but do you know the whole story? What’s at stake? Can
you still get pregnant? Can you still get an STD? You Bet!
The Medical Institute, www.medinstitute.org
Compatibility Checklist*
Compatibility: the ability to relate and work together in harmony with another. Check you
compatibility with another by answering the questions.
Teen-Aid Inc., www.teen-aid.org
Teen STD Brochures*
Written specifically for teens, each of the 2-sided, medically accurate 5 pieces answers
succinctly these questions about five of the most prevalent STDs in America:
• What is it?
• Who gets it?
• How do you get it?
• How will I know if I'm infected?
• How do you treat it?
• What can I do to avoid being infected?
Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Genital Herpes, Human Papillomavirus (HPV), Trichomonas
--The Medical Institute, P.O. Box 162306, Austin, TX 78716 * 512-328-6268 *
www.medinstitute.org
Express Yourself Brochure*
This colorful brochure for teens offers "cool," creative ways to say "no" to sex, plus sensible
suggestions for making it easier to keep that commitment. It's a great handout that helps kids
develop and implement refusal skills.
--The Medical Institute, P.O. Box 162306, Austin, TX 78716 * 512-328-6268 *
www.medinstitute.org
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Stretching the Truth Brochure*
This brochure for teens explains the medical facts about condoms, and why they are not a
reliable alternative to abstinence. With an easy to read question and answer format, it's a
great tool for helping teens choose abstinence.
--The Medical Institute, P.O. Box 162306, Austin, TX 78716 * 512-328-6268 *
www.medinstitute.org
Sex: Been There, Done That, Now What?*
This teen brochure speaks convincingly to sexually active teens and presents them with a
strong case for embracing secondary virginity. With a positive message to start making
healthier sexual choices beginning today.
--The Medical Institute, P.O. Box 162306, Austin, TX 78716 * 512-328-6268 *
www.medinstitute.org
How to Say No and Keep Your Boyfriend*
A recent poll found that three out of four teen girls said they were having sex because their
boyfriend wanted them to. This pamphlet gives support and encouragement for resisting
sexual pressure--as well as tips for how to say no. It addresses the fear of losing a boyfriend
and the difficulty of saying no to someone you really like.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
Sex, Alcohol and Your Right to Say No*
When people have been drinking, they often say yes to sex when they want to say no. This
pamphlet shows how alcohol clouds judgment and makes it hard to make good decisions. In
addition, it will empower them to say no to alcohol and stick to their sexual limits.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
Sexual Pressure: How to Say No*
Comic strip format featuring the characters from the nationally syndicated LUANN cartoons
is a great way to engage young people. This pamphlet gives tips for saying no to sex, even
when you really like the person.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
Sex: Ten Best Reasons to Wait*
This pamphlet offers compelling reasons for young people to wait to have sex. Included are
wanting to avoid pregnancy, STDs and HIV, plans for the future and more. Positive approach
to postponing sexual involvement.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
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Saying No If You've Had Sex Before*
Many young people who have had sex wish they had waited longer. But they often feel that
it's too late. This pamphlet lets them know that it's OK to say no now. Supportive,
encouraging and realistic, this pamphlet will help young people take charge.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
What I Really Mean When I Say No to Sex*
Using a first person voice, this pamphlet encourages abstinence by promoting a positive,
strong self-image. It encourages the reader to look not only at what they are saying no to, but
also that saying no to sex means saying yes to themselves and their future
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
What Is Abstinence?*
Thinking about sex and being curious are a normal part of growing up. This pamphlet
acknowledges the feelings young people have, but emphasizes that abstinence is the best
choice. It empowers young adolescents to say no and encourages they to talk to a parent or
trusted adult. Perfect for upper elementary and middle school.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
You're Not Ready to Have Sex If...*
Candid discussion about the emotional, physical and health issues that figure into the
decision to have sex. Straightforward approach firmly persuades young people to wait.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
Talking Abstinence*
This pamphlet gives practical tips for talking to a boyfriend or girlfriend about the decision to
be abstinent. Gives suggestions for when to bring up the subject, what to say and how to
respond to the other person's feelings. Helps young people stick with their decision to wait.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
When No Means No!*
Many young women don't know how to say no to sexual pressure. This pamphlet gives
specific tips for how to say "no" so it will be heard and respected. It emphasizes that a
woman has the right to say no at any time and under any circumstances.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
You Would If You Loved Me: How to Respond to Sexual Pressure*
This pamphlet takes the most common situations in which young people feel pressured to
have sex and gives strategic tips for saying no. Include are suggestions for what to say, what
to do in the immediate, how to pressure if the person isn't listening, and tips for avoiding the
situation in the future.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
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The Abstinence Quiz*
This quiz engages the reader while sending the message that waiting is best. Questions
include reasons to wait and how to respond to pressure.
--Journeyworks Publishing, www.journeyworks.com
The “One”: 10 Steps to Developing a Committed Relationship*
You’ve met Mr. or Miss “Right” – you think. Could this really be The One? The person you
may spend the rest of your life with: “in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer?”
--Loving & Caring, Inc. 1905 Olde Homestead Lane, Lancaster, PA 17601
Sex and Singles … Reasons to Wait
Sex is indeed wonderful, powerful and important—but it can also bring disappointment,
disease and disaster. It is too great to squander, too potent to toy with and definitely not a
good thing to die for.
--Paul C. Reisser, MD, Focus on the Family, (800) A-FAMILY (232-6459)
Living on the Edge*
Hey! You can LIVE without AIDS. Who needs it? AIDS is no fun. It hurts and it kills you.
The best way to prevent it is avoid sex outside of marriage and drug use. Life! It’s yours to
enjoy and you only get one chance. So why risk it by living on the edge?
--Easton Publishing Co., Inc., P.O. Box 1064, Jefferson City, MO 65102
How At Risk Are You?*
To figure your risk of exposure to HIV or other Sexually Transmitted Diseases . . .
--Life Cycle Books, Lewiston, NY, www.lifecyclebooks.com
Teens Putting Love in Focus*
Most of us have a vision for our future, and we want love to be part of that vision. This
booklet can show you the way to make your dreams for healthy relationships co me true.
--A is for Abstinence, 100 Ross Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15219, 412-281-4565
Human Papilloma Virus*
Also known as HPV this brief pamphlet give you facts and frequently asked questions about
the virus.
The Medical Institute, www.medinstitute.org
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Marriage Honored by All
"Marriage: Honored by All (Christian)" This new brochure for faith audiences is packed with
solid biblical counsel in an appealing and affirmative way. It takes the power of the 10
commandments and applies them to sexual purity. It really challenges the heart issues. A
great teaching tool and dynamic message.
Jana Spicka, Life Cycle Books, www.lifecyclebooks.com
So you want to say No…Here’s the way*
Have you ever heard the saying “Where there’s a will-there’s a way” ? This handy pamphlet
gives you the ways to refuse sexual advances to protect your future.
Teen-Aid, Inc. www.teen-aid.org
The Silent Epedemic*
-25% of Americans ages 15-55 are infected. Germaine Wensley R.N. gives a quick quiz to
see if you could be at risk. Can you trust a condom? Quick facts about STD’s and a list of
common STD’s
California Nurses for Ethical Standards, www.ethicalnurses.org
Safe Sex?
Teenagers face many of the same challenges that have tested pervious generations: making
college and career plans, choosing a mat, finding one’s place in the world. But without a
doubt, questions relating to sexuality present teens with some of their most difficult
decisions. The risk of broken dreams, lost reputations, unintended pregnancies or sexually
transmitted diseases has always been part of the gamble associated with sexual promiscuity.
This booklet provides some quick facts about the “safer sex” message in an effort to help the
reader evaluate the effectiveness of this approach.
Paul C. Reisser, M.D., Tom Fitch, M.D. and Melissa Cox, Focus on the Family
Killer Sex*
“Killer Sex" At last an abstinence brochure created specifically for college and university
students! It speaks directly to students and asks why, if we have all the ""gadgets"" for sexual
freedom, do we have national epidemics of STDs and non-marital pregnancies? Documented
facts prove the serious health risks of non-marital sex.
Written by Jana Spicka. Life Cycle Books, www.lifecyclebooks.com
Helping your child abstain from sex*
This booklet is for parents of preteens and teenagers helping them to choose abstinence.
Children are facing pressure to have sex earlier and earlier. But they often don’t know the
risks and don’t understand the responsibilities the having sex brings.
A Scriptographic Product by Channing L. Bete Co. 1(800)628-7733
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Oral Sex: Harmless Fun?*
Your friends might think oral sex is no big deal because “it’s not really sex”.
But don’t kid yourself. It is sex and it’s not safe.
The Medical Institute, www.medinstitute.org
Why Marriage?*
Get the facts…from security, romance, sex and good health. Check list for increasing
your marriages success.
Teen-Aid, www.teen-aid.org
Sex was never meant to kill you*
This brochure shows teens the priceless value of their sexuality and how to set standards to
protect their futures. Not only are the risks of sexual behavior illustrated, but teens will get a
picture of what makes a great date, how to pick someone to date, and how to respond to risky
situations and peer pressure. Additionally, Secondary Virginity is promoted as a viable
option for teens who are already sexually active.
Why kNOow Abstinence Education Inc. www.whyknow.org
Your Handy Dandy Pocket Guide to Sex & Love*
"Handy-Dandy Pocket Guide To Sex & Love" This is a great one for abstinence education!
While playful and humorous, it is filled with practical information that teens need to know;
the implications of a sexual relationship, ways to say no to sex, what to look for in a
relationship etc. Guaranteed"
Life Cycle Books, www.lifecyclebooks.com
Your Sexual Exposure*
In a dramatic way, this new brochure shows how your STD infection risk increases with each
new sexual partner. When you have sex with someone, your risk doesn't just depend on your
current partner-it depends on their partners, and their partners' partners. An up-to-date table is
included, showing 8 common STDs, their symptoms in men and women, the damage they do,
and how many people are affected. Important statistics about STDs are included. The
brochure also discusses condoms using current CDC information showing that condoms
cannot guarantee protection from STDs.
Sex! A Woman’s Perspective*
"Sex: A Woman's Perspective" This pamphlet was designed for the client who has just found
out that she is not pregnant and who must now deal with the pressures of sexual intimacy.
This humorous piece is a favorite with clients, full of practical wisdom and done in a playful
way to make sure they will read it.
Life Cycle Books, www.lifecyclebooks.com
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Sex, Is There More To It?*
Written to boys, it asks boys to look beyond passion and peer pressure to the kind of
relationship they want to have with their wife someday. It briefly explains intimacy in a
relationship and in marriage.
-- Heritage House, 919 So. Main, Snowflake, AZ
The Top 10 Questions Parents Ask About “The Talk”*
Questions about talking to kids about sex are answered for parents: What if I had sex before I
was married?; When do I have “the talk”?; How do I break the ice?; What about safe sex,
peer pressure, other parents?; What if I find a condom in my son’s room?; What if my child
is already sexually active? What if my daughter tells me she’s pregnant. Get answers now
before “the talk.”
--Molly Kelly and Mark Houck
The Top 10 Questions Teenagers Ask About Sex*
Question and answer format from an expert in the field: How far is too far?; How do I say
“no”?; What if I never marry; What if I’m being pressured; What if I’m not a virgin; Is “safe
sex” safe?; Is oral sex really sex?; What if I’m attracted to someone of my sex?; What’s
wrong with pornography?; What’s wrong with masturbation? The hard questions that today’s
youth ask are skillfully answered.
--Molly Kelly and Mark Houck
What’s Love got to do with Sex? (Everything)*
"What's Love Got To Do With Sex?" Statistics say that teens as young as 13 (and even
younger) are getting STDs, having babies and abortions. This new brochure reaches out to
middle school aged youth with a message of chastity in light of these growing problems.
Placing importance on their own individuality and self-respect, they are encouraged to place
sex in its proper place: marriage, and to enjoy living life without the worry of hurtful sexual
encounters.
Written by Jana Spicka. Life Cycle Books, www.lifecyclebooks.com
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CARDS:
Looking for True Love?*
Looking For True Love" This card was designed to help teens understand how relationships
can develop into intimacy so quickly and why they so often fail. It shows how to develop a
committed relationship. A proven piece that has been successfully used in classrooms, church
settings and counseling sessions.
Life Cycle Books, www.lifecyclebooks.com
Casual Sex*
This card tells the hypothetical story of a boy and a girl who had sex on a whim, and
separated the next morning. But then it finishes the story - showing the possibilities for
contracting serious sexual diseases that could lead to sterility or even death
-- Heritage House, 919 So. Main, Snowflake, AZ
All I Want is Love*
For the girl who has been looking for love in sex, drugs, or anywhere but the right place.
From a Christian perspective, the
card tenderly offers forgiveness, understanding and a simple explanation of how to accept Jesus as your savior-Heritage House, 919 So. Main, Snowflake, AZ
If We Don’t Have Sex What Do We Do*
When teens date seriously, often times sex becomes the only activity happening in their lives.
The front of this card discusses the reasons this is harmful to a real relationship, and offers a
way to plan dates and how to structure a relationship.
--Heritage House, 919 So. Main, Snowflake, AZ
Condoms – Do They Work?*
So often we hear health officials and movie stars say that kids need to 'protect themselves'
during sex. But how effective are condoms? This card graphically shows the relative sizes of
the sperm, HIV viruses, and flaws in latex condoms.
-- Heritage House, 919 So. Main, Snowflake, AZ
If Sex Feels So Good – Why Do I Feel So Bad?*
A card aimed at teen girls, asking them how they really feel about sex. It explains that boys
are looking for simple sex, and girls for a lasting -relationship. It appeals to the girl's selfrespect and encourages virginity - whether primary or secondary.
-- Heritage House, 919 So. Main, Snowflake, AZ
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NEWSPAPER:
LoveMatters.Com
If you want to experience true love, a great relationship and a lasting marriage,
LoveMatters.com can help you. If you're looking for answers to tough questions about
dating, sex, love and life, LoveMatters.com is the place to start.
--LoveMatters.Com
Why You Should Wait – Tabloid*
NEW! Reach your teenage audience with the message of abstinence with our
brand new 12-page full-color tabloid! The information is factual and CDC
documented and includes a wide range of abstinence topics for both young men
and young women including:
* All major STDs: how they are contracted, how many are infected, and the
symptoms.
* Factual and CDC documented information on condoms and oral sex.
* Anecdotal stories of those affected by STDs.
* Insights into what young men and women think about sex and how
abstinence is the best choice for both.
* The sexual exposure chart showing exposure to STDs based on the number
of past sex partners.
* Informative games and activities
* And much more!
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BOOKS:
A.C. Green’s Game Plan, Abstinence Program, Student Workbook*
Everybody has one life —Time to develop your Game Plan.
--Project Reality, P.O. Box 97, Golf, IL 60029-0097, www.projectreality.org
Bloom: A Girls Guide to Growing Up
Are you finding you have lots of questions about the crazy challenges you face each day?
Written from a supportive and encouraging "big sis" perspective, this book addresses issues
like changing bodies, dating and sex, relationships, money, and more, and responds with
straightforward honesty. Prompted by the many letters sent by girls to the editors of Brio
magazine, this book provides trustworthy answers to your real-life concerns.
Focus on the Family, Tyndale House Publishers
Boom: A Guys Guide to Growing Up
Where can you go to have your tough questions answered about life and the changes you're
going through? This book uses a low-profile approach to tackle the issues guys face. You'll
find honest and straightforward answers on sexuality and dating, physical changes, money
management, spiritual growth, and more. Find the answers you need for understanding this
crazy time in your life.
Focus on the Family, Tyndale House Publishers
Emotional Purity
Have you ever given your heart to someone who didn’t love you back? Do you feel like
you’ve experienced heartache over and over again? If you are emotionally attached to
someone, it’s easy to cross the line and become emotionally intimate. Then if the relationship
doesn’t work out, you’re left with scars on your heart. The church teaches us the importance
of physical purity; but it teaches little about emotional purity. Christian singles often wear
their hearts on their sleeves, which can lead to intense, emotionally intimate, male-female
“friendships” with no commitment to pursuing marriage. People may have had several of
these “friendships” and still consider themselves pure, but in reality they have given away
pieces of their hearts that should be reserved for their future spouses. Emotional Purity will
show you how to define and set boundaries in your relationships to avoid making the same
mistakes. Learn how to guard your heart and keep it emotionally pure. Using fictional and
real-life examples along with sound biblical advice, author Heather Arnel Paulsen outlines
the pitfalls of undefined relationships and presents guidelines for living an emotionally pure
life.
Heather Arnel Paulsen, B.S.W., Wine Press Publishing
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Every Young Man’s Battle
Every Young Man's Battle will show young men how to train their eyes and minds, how to
clean up their thought life, and develop a realistic battle plan for remaining pure in today's
sexually soaked culture. The authors, Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, offer young
Christian men workable, biblical strategies for achieving sexual purity.
Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, WaterBrook Press
Growing Up: It’s a Girl Thing*
This is a handbook for any girl who’s curious about puberty, periods, bras, tampons, and
pads, or even just her won body. This revised, younger edition of the best-selling It’s a Girl
Thing: How to Stay Healthy, Safe, and in Charge is full of tips, facts, and advice. It contains
basic information, especially for girls who want to know what to expect when their bodies
start changing.
Mavis Jukes, Alfred A. Knopf, New York, www.randomhouse.com/kids
He’s HOT, She’s HOT: What to Look for in the Opposite Sex
Don’t Get Burned by Your Choice of Date (or Mate) . . .Everyone who wants to date or get
married is looking for someone who’s hot. In the language of the world, hot refers to
someone who is sexy or attractive. But according to Jeramy Clark, author of the bestseller I
Gave Dating a Chance, and his wife and co-author Jerusha Clark, a new definition of the
word can provide you with an easy-to-use standard for applying God’s wisdom in one of the
most challenging areas of your life.
--Jeramy & Jerusha Clark
How to Teach the Facts of Life
Teaching the FACTS of Life is directed to parents of basically “healthy” familites who are
looking for practical guidance as they coach their teenagers through the ups and downs of
adolescence. Their goal is to provide a source of wisdom related to adolescent sexuality and
emotional maturity. It is intended to present information from the standpoint of sociology or
psychology, but from their experience as parents and educators.
Rose Fuller, Holly Denman and Janet McLaughlin. Northwest Family Services,
I Kissed Dating Goodbye (Video, Book and Study Guide are available)
Countless teens today feel depressed or discouraged because they don't have a boyfriend or
girlfriend. Many single Christians feel frustrated with cultural expectations and patterns of
dating. Youth pastors and parents find themselves dealing with young adults who fall into
sexual temptation or spend more energy on dating than on following God. I Kissed Dating
Goodbye offers an all-new approach to dating relationships. It calls young adults away from
playing the dating game and reveals how they can live a lifestyle of sincere love, true purity,
and purposeful singleness. Honest and practical, this powerful book will inspire teens and
young adults to remap their romantic lives in the light of God's Word.--New Attitude, 7881
Beechcraft Ave., Suite B, Gaithersburg, MD 20879, Phone: (301) 926-2200 x504
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Innocence Lost, Hope Regained: Teenagers Talk Openly About Premarital Sex
Never before has our culture put so much pressure on teens to have sex before marriage.
Youth-oriented films and TV programs actually make it seem stupid NOT to be having sex.
The consequences of this pressure are tragic – alarming numbers of unwed pregnancies,
sexually transmitted diseases, depression and even suicides. In this compelling collection of
stories youth leader Richie Lambeth, eight teens and young adults tell in their own words
their experience with virginity – lost, restored, or saved until the wedding day.
--Richie Lambeth, Amuzement Publications
Pure Excitement
Help your teen cut through the "safe sex" lies and "everybody's doing it" lingo with Joe
White's paperback Pure Excitement.
--Joe White, Focus on the Family, (800) A-FAMILY (232-6459)
Quest For Love
In QUEST FOR LOVE, the companion to PASSION AND PURITY, Elisabeth Elliot shares
many of the letters she has received from her readers. She responds to their confusion and
heartfelt needs with sound, biblical guidance. She dusts off "antiquated" concepts such as
commitment, integrity, honor, and servanthood and applies them to dating and singleness
today. Intertwined with the questioning letters are hopeful stories of how men and women
discovered love through God's direction. As you read their honest revelations, you'll be able
to "discern the better way" by discovering what happened when they put their love life under
the authority of Jesus Christ.
Elisabeth Elliot, Fleming H. Revell a division of Baker Book House, Co.
Questions Kids ask about Sex*
Studies show that parents have the single greatest influence on their kids, but many are
paralyzed by the prospect of talking about sex. This indispensable guide gives candid,
practical, age-appropriate insights that can help even the most squeamish parent overcome
their obstacles and "sieze the day" to protect the health, hope and happiness of their children.
Finally...the real world answers to the honest and inquisitive questions today's kids are
asking!
--The Medical Institute for Sexual Health
Sharing the Value of Sexual Purity: A Guide for Parents, Concerned Adults, and Young People
The purpose of this Guide is to provide parents and other caring adults with a positive plan to
share with their young people about the value of sexual purity.
--Catherine E. Wood, Sweetheart Treasures
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Sex and Character*
Sex and Character is a supplemental textbook that uses character-development as an essential
basis for teaching abstinence until marriage. Young people, growing up in today's high-risk
world, need to clearly understand what those risks are, and it benefits them greatly to hear the
stories of their peers sharing how their decisions have impacted their lives. This book is
chock full of wise counsel, up-to-date information, helpful referrals, lists of organizations
prepared to help teens in trouble, beautiful color photos, charts and graphs. This book will
help teens, teachers and parents discuss this difficult subject with the aid of discussion
questions at the end of each chapter.
--Deborah D. Cole, Maureen Gallacher Duran, Pandas Publications
Sex: Q & A Kid’s Questions-Parents’ Answers*
Newly designed and revised, this popular resource provides parents and health educators
with the facts they need to discuss sexual issues with adolescents. Written with the expertise
of physicians nationwide, the new “Q&A” booklet is easy to read and medically-accurate.
National Physicians Center for Family Resources, www.physicianscenter.org Oregon
Sexual Resolutions
Sexual Resolutions will help students distinguish principles of Christian sexual behavior and
will modify their behavior to reflect those principles. Through the five interactive group
sessions, teenagers can understand that God's gift of sex is worth waiting for within the
commitment of marriage. (5 sessions)
--Paul Kelly, LifeWay Church Resources
The Dating Trap
Don’t let your children fall prey to unhealthy dating patterns that can lead to sinful behavior,
lasting regrets, and unhappy marriages. In this practical volume Ruppert-a homeschooling
mom of seven-suggests practical alternatives to one-on-one dating. Learn to just say no to
dangerous cultural messages and equip your children for a better life filled with healthy
friendships and joyous courtship that honors God.
Martha Ruppert, Moody Press
The NOT Tonight Show
A skit showing that the only real safe sex is No Sex – until marriage!
Written by Diana Caldwell, Cindy Good and Patty Demott
Performed by Worth Waiting For
The Truth About Sex by High School Senior Girls
In high school or before you have a boyfriend, there are lots of things you need to know
about sex and guys, BUT NO ONE WILL EVER TELL YOU. You can take sex education in
school and listen to your friends, but they always leave out the most important things to
about sex—that it is sacred!
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Kristen Anderson, Dunn & Associated, Wisconsin
True Love Waits Takes a Look at Courting, Dating, and Hanging Out
The featured True Love Waits (TLW) resource for 2000-01, this five-session study
emphasizes the importance of defined courtship and dating principles, as well as helps
students understand the positive aspects of "just hanging out." This unique resource is really
two study books in one: one half for girls, the other for guys. This allows the leader to divide
the group by gender for parts of the study so they can more comfortably discuss sensitive
issues and topics. Text also offers ideas and helps for leaders on group learning activities.
--David Payne, LifeWay Church Resources
Until You Say I Do
This terrific study provides ideas on what to say when a teenager is witnessing to a peer,
including a solid list of reasons to abstain from sex. Every teen in your youth group should
have several copies to share with friends. It’s a perfect resource to go along with your True
Love Waits emphasis this year. It’ll help teenagers understand the meaning of commitment
and the responsibility that goes with it. (5 sessions if used as a group study)
--Jay & Diane Strack, LifeWay Church Resources
What (Almost) Nobody Will Tell You About Sex
Sex is everything. Sex is nothing. So which is it? The way some people talk, you’d think sex
is like food--three meals a day or else we starve and die. On the other hand, you know sex
definitely isn’t nothing. It’s too potent, too instinctive to simply deny. Sooner or later,
everybody deals with it.
This journal, What (Almost) Nobody Will Tell You About Sex, is a whole-person approach
to your sexuality and God. In other words, sex is more than pelvises and plumbing. Sexuality
is woven throughout all of you--your body, your mind, your spirit. It’s the way we’re wired.
The way God wired us.
Jim Hancock and Kara Eckmann Powell, Youth Specialties, Zondervan
What’s the Big Deal? Why God Cares About Sex
Third in the series, this book reinforces previous instruction on the basics of sexual
intercourse and the fundamental goodness of our sexuality, continues the task of deliberately
building your child's understanding of why God intends sex to be reserved for marriage, and
helps you begin the process of "inoculating" your child against the negative moral messages
of the world. The principle of inoculation suggests that while we should not allow our
children to be inundated with the destructive messages of the world, we should deliberately
expose them to the contrary moral messages that they will hear in order to build up their
defenses against them. Content is presented in a question & answer format in which
questions by "Sam" and "Amy" are followed by answers from "Mom" and "Dad." You can
read this book with your child or have him/her read it and then discuss it with you. Each
chapter is concluded with questions for discussion.
Stan and Brenna Jones, NavPress Publishing Group
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When True Love Doesn’t Wait
How do you help the teenagers in your youth group who are desperately seeking forgiveness
in the area of purity? This plain-cover booklet is the perfect counseling tool for every youth
leader to have within reach. You’ll be able to help a troubled teen address issues like:
deciding whom to tell; getting a physical check-up; understanding guilt; experiencing
forgiveness; deciding about the future of the relationship with the person with whom he or
she has stumbled; responding in cases where a teen was forced to have sex; planning dates
without intimacy; deciding about a fresh True Love Waits commitment (there’s a
commitment card inside the booklet); choosing a mentor and guide for this fresh
commitment; and helping the person with whom he or she has stumbled. No doubt, this is a
tough subject, but a stack of these booklets in your desk drawer will be a good place to start
the healing.
--D. Tony Rankin, Richard Ross, LifeWay Church Resources
Who Moved the Goalpost?
This book provides all the creative ideas, research and planning you need to present a fun and
deeply challenging two-day, one night retreat or ten-session Bible study. The most powerful
portion of how to teach young men to live a life of sexual integrity in Who Moved the
Goalpost? is presented in this active learning curriculum using small group discussions,
individual activities, group games, and fun object lessons. Every session carries a deep
scriptural challenge to the guys on a comfortable, approachable level.
Bob Gresh, Moody Press
Why True Love Waits
It's no secret that our culture places immense pressure on young people to be sexually active
before marriage. In this updated and revised edition of his classic Why Wait? McDowell
equips parents and youth workers with information and answers to help kids resist; and
provides teens with the reasons and benefits of remaining pure.
Josh McDowell, Tyndale House Publishers www.tyndale.com
Why Wait?
A 450-page resource book on teen sexual attitudes and behavior, with advice on helping
teens say "no" to premarital sex. Also, what to do if they are sexually active.
--Josh McDowell
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BIBLE STUDY:
Good Sex: A WHOLE PERSON APPROACH TO TEENAGE SEXUALITY AND GOD
If you’re looking for an excellent resource to educate your teens about sex, this is the one you
want. This powerful resource contains a gentle balance of fun, experience with teens, activity
ideas, video clips, and solid Bible teaching. Studies are easy to use and include reproducible
handouts.
--Jim Hancock and Kara Eckmann Powell, Youth Specialties, 2001 (800/727-3480)
RADIO:
“Today’s Sex Talk” radio PSAs on CD*
Educate your community and encourage parental involvement by getting these creative 60second public service announcements on your local radio stations! This CD includes a series
of broadcast-ready segments, hosted by Dr. Joe S. McIlhaney, Jr., that are attention getting
and action inspiring. Each positive spot challenges parents to talk to their kids about saving
sex for marriage.
--The Medical Institute, P.O. Box 162306, Austin, TX 78716 * 512-328-6268 *
www.medinstitute.org
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CURRICULUM:
Abstinence for Teens: Present & Prevent
This age-appropriate PowerPoint(R) presentation helps teens see the benefits of abstaining
from sexual activity -- and build skills for maintaining abstinence once they've chosen it as
their strategy for STD and pregnancy prevention. Adolescents learn how to identify ways
they might be pressured to have sex and how to stand up to pressure. An exploration of the
potential consequences of sexual activity supports a decision to be abstinent.
--Channing Bete Co., www.channing-bete.com
Abstinence Survival Kit*
Are you drowning in the sea of comprehensive sex ed? Are you searching for a life
preserver? You'll find one in ASK!
• Learn how to respond to arguments against abstinence-until-marriage education
• Understand the philosophy of abstinence education versus that of comprehensive sex ed
• Get practical advice on working with school boards to develop abstinence-until-marriage
education policies
• Plus more!
--Abstinence Survival Kit, 888.57.SAYNO (7.2966)
How to Teach the Facts of Life: Parent Curriculum
This is a four-class series for parents and teens ages 13-16. The classes talk about human
sexuality from a religiously neutral perspective, and address the personal, social, ethical, and
health dimensions of premarital chastity. The curriculum includes: 4 Workshop lessons,
Reproducible Activities, 46 Color Overheads.
--Northwest Family Services, Portland, OR
I’ve Got the Power
“I’ve Got The Power” is a tool for today’s youth. Powerlessness is a universal feeling among
today’s youth. If our youth are taught, through abstinence-based curriculum, that they have
the power to control themselves and to change their lives in the process, the result may be
less promiscuity and increased personal effort to step out of the cycle.
--A.C. Green, 1- 800- AC-YOUTH
Me, My World, My Future
Junior High Family Life Education: Ties together the facets of a healthy lifestyle for the
junior high student. From valuing self to making and following through on decisions, teens
learn to see themselves as capable of avoiding negative consequences and achieving positive
results in life.
--Teen-Aid Inc, www.teen-aid.org
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Passport 2 Purity (One on One Retreat with child)
Get away with your preteen or teenager for a one-on-one adventure of a lifetime! Passport 2
Purity will guide you and your son or daughter through biblical principles for life's most
difficult challenges; including dating and those other difficult topics to discuss. Let Dennis
and Barbara Rainey lead you through an encouraging do-it-yourself retreat full of discovery,
communication and fun.
Dennis and Barbra Rainey, Family Life Publishing, www.familylife.com
RQ-Relationship Intelligence
RQ: Building Relationship Intelligence brings together the insights of science, literature and
psychology to guide students through such issues of friendship, family, stages of intimacy
and love, male/female differences, dealing with anger and other emotions, core identity,
communication skills, the benefits and pitfalls of marriage, and understanding and mastering
the culture. The curriculum uses an interactive approach including “self-inventory” exercises
and student journal questions for personal reflection. It calls upon the power of stories by
drawing on selections of past and present authors including E. B. White, Tolstoy, O’Henry,
and Stephen Covey, contemporary song writers and heartrending confessions in letters to
Ann Landers.
Richard A. Panzer, Center for Educational Media, www.lovesmarts.org
Sexuality Commitment and Family
Senior High Family Life Education: Helps the senior high student understand an expanded
scope of issues related to human sexuality. Sexuality, Commitment & Family is a valuebased skill program which places human sexuality in the context of commitment, marriage,
and family. The topics in this course collectively stress the importance of a healthy
integration of sexuality into each person’s life.
--Teen-Aid Inc, www.teen-aid.org
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Speakers Available for Abstinence Talks and Presentations
*Please feel free to call the following individuals for more information about their
presentations.*
Read Vaughan, MD
Suzie Vaughan
355 Blue Spruce Lane
Kalispell, MT 59901
752-7222
Grady Bennett, S.P.A.M. School Sponsor
Amy Bennett, Hope Pregnancy Ministries Abstinence Coordinator
513 Crestview Road
Kalispell, MT 59901
314-4207
Joey Gardner
Youth Pastor Easthaven Baptist Church
1225 Highway 93 N.
Kalispell, MT 59901
752-7021
Pam Oehrtman, MD
Big Sky Family Medicine
75 Claremont St.
Kalispell, MT 59901
752-8433
John Van Arandonk, MD
Kalispell Regional Hospital – Emergency Room
837-5015 (home)
752-1708 (work)
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