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Presentation: crossing the line Presentation: crossing the limit Purpose WE CAN YOUNG-campaign Strengthening of sexual and relational resilience of young people • Respect for your own limits and that of others • Know different forms of unacceptable sexual behaviour • Awareness of the effect of gender inequality: different forms of violence and the different roles of boys and girls in society • This presentation is about the first two points. (Unacceptable) sexual behaviour These is a difference in how boys and girls experience sex • Girls experience sex more negatively than boys. Boys are often more at ease with their bodies. Girls also experience more pain with sex. • 23%* of girls expressed that their first time was unpleasant, versus 5 %* of boys who experienced this. * These numbers represent the situation in the Netherlands (Unacceptable) sexual behaviour Unacceptable sexual behaviour: • If the first time happens before the age of 13, about 33%* is coerced to do it. It is difficult to come out about your sexual preference • 51%* of boys and 25%* of girls disapprove of boys kissing boys • 16%* of boys and 24%* of girls disapprove of girls kissing girls * These numbers represent the situation in the Netherlands (Unacceptable) sexual behaviour When is behaviour experimental and when is it unacceptable. There are six rules to determine that: • Consent (both of you must consent) • Voluntariness (is there coercion?) • Equality (is someone the boss?) • Age-appropriate (does it fit with you?) • Context appropriate (does it fit with your surroundings?) • Self respect (does the behaviour harm you or the other?) Sexual behaviour is unacceptable if one of the rules is not in place. Consent Did the other person say yes, no or was the answer uncertain? Whoever agrees to A, is only agreeing to A. Consent is needed to go to B as well. It is hard for young people (but also adults) to stop once they have started. Non-verbal communication (giggling is not a yes) and someone being under the influence are not examples of consent. Consent of all parties is a must. Voluntariness Is there any coercion? Threatening someone with a knife is a clear example of using coercion. Often you see more subtle forms: convincing someone to have sex, blackmailing (I will tell your parents if..) or pressure of friends. Sometimes people give consent when they are being coerced. That is not true consent; the consent was not given by free will. Voluntariness, without any form of coercion or (severe) group pressure is a must. Equality Is my sex partner my equal? More than 5 years of age difference can mean that the will of the elder can outweigh the other. Or if there is a difference in position, the more powerful one can be decisive. Think about the laughing stock of the school with the player of the school. The latter has more power and there is a bigger chance that the person goes beyond your limit. For that reason an adult cannot have sex with someone under the age of 16 (it is unlawful) Equality between sex partners is a must. Age appropriate Does it fit with your age? Some young people start early, others later. Research shows that young people under the age of 13 were often coerced or convinced the first time. You can never be too old to experiment, but you can be too young. When you are older you have a better idea of what you want and what you do not want. You become less likely to be influenced. Age appropriate behaviour is a must. Context appropriate Does it fit with the context? Hanging pictures of porn on your wall at home or at school is not appropriate. If you want to watch porn you should do that somewhere where you are of no bother to anyone. What is normal within your family with regards to culture, religion, surroundings often times becomes your personal norm. The difference between what is acceptable and not, dependent on your own background, can be large. However, the norm can never be harmful to your healthy personal (sexual) development. Context appropriate behaviour is a must. Self respect Is the behaviour harmful to you or others? Do you find it normal that when you accept drinks at the bar, you owe something in return. Do you think you can force someone to get your own way? Please note that you can take good care of yourself without harming yourself or others. Self respect is about having enough self-confidence and a positive self image, so that you can protect yourself from unpleasant situations and not give others negative experiences. Having self respect is a must. The sex rules The sex rules Consent (C) Voluntariness (V) Equality (E) Age appropriate (A) Context appropriate (CA) Self-respect (R) Do both of you want this? Is there any coercion? Is someone the boss? Does it fit with the age? Does it bother, shock or insult someone? It does not harm you (Physically and/or psychologically). Sexual behaviour is unacceptable if one of the rules is not in place. Let’s practice. Sooo… What do you think? Do you think: • Whoever agrees to A, must also agree to B (C) • Nagging to get sex is acceptable (V) • I am 13 and I can decide for myself how far I can go with a person of 17 (E) • I want to lose my virginity before I am 15 years old, if not I will stay behind. (A) • I have pictures of naked women/men in my room, not a problem right? (CA) • Strip teasing in front of the webcam does no harm (R) Assignments What assignments can you complete? • Group education flag system/ flaming flags • Match propositions and rules (worksheet rules and dilemmas) • Group pressure • What do you say?