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Guiding Principle 1:
Our search for answers and solutions:
With wisdom from Allah.
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Qur’anic Texts: Qur’an 2:269, 2:151,5:46,16:89....
Introduction
One of World Vision’s child well-being aspirations and outcomes is that children are educated for
life. In Qur’anic language this means that children should grow in wisdom and understanding to
become adults who serve God’s justice and peace in their communities.
Children will only aspire to grow in wisdom and understanding if there are adults in their lives who
model wisdom and understanding. Furthermore it is not possible to teach a child in wisdom and
understanding if you do not have wisdom yourself. It’s almost like trying to teach a child to swim if
you cannot swim and are afraid of water.
Wisdom should therefore firstly guide our own lives as Muslims. This includes everything we do in
sign, word, and deed, including child protection concerns. Child protection touches on many
difficult issues. We need to continually search for answers with the wisdom that comes from Allah.
This can only be undertaken honestly and with a humble spirit.
We therefore need wisdom! We need it when we interact with children, we need it to understand
all the child protection issues and we need it when we work towards child well-being in our
communities.
Qur’anic Text:
Children need wise adults in their lives. Not all children have someone they can trust with their
problems. Not many adults have what it takes to give good advice, or what the Qur’an calls wisdom.
Not all well educated people are wise. Wisdom is not the same as having knowledge. There are also
many wise people who are not learned.
Communities need wise people. Allah gives wisdom – the ability to apply knowledge and experience
to life so that God’s Peace is served.
Qur’an encourages believers to pray for wisdom and describe it as an endowment from Allah
(Qur’an 2:269).
“He grants Hikmah (wisdom) to whom He pleases, and he, to whom Hikmah is granted, is
indeed granted abundant good. But none remember (will receive admonition) except men
of understanding”. (Quran 2:269)
Allah says in another verse:
“Similarly we have sent among you a messenger of your own reciting to you our verses and
purifying you, and teaching the book and the Hikma (wisdom) and teaching you that which
you used not to know” (Quran 2:151)
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Allah also praised Prophet Isa as a teacher of good morals saying, “And in their (the
earlier prophets) footsteps We sent Prophet Isa the son of Mary, confirming the law
that had come before him. We sent him the Gospel, therein was guidance and light
and confirmation of the law that had come before him, a guidance and an admonition
to those who fear God.” (Qur’an:5:46)
In another verse Allah says,
“Invite (mankind Oh Muhammad to the way of your lord
with wisdom (i.e. with the divine Revelation and the Quran) and fair preaching and
argue with them in a way that is better. Truly your lord knows best who has gone astray
from his path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided.”
Also:
“And we sent not before you but men to whom we revealed. So as to ask the people of
the reminder (scriptures the Taurat (torah) the Injeel (Gospel) if you do not know.”
Allah says in Quran 16:89…..
“............ We have revealed to you the book which clarifies every matter.......”
The Qur’an itself cannot teach and guide its readers exclusively because there is
every possibility of misunderstanding and misinterpretations, and so, it is necessary
that the teachings of Qur’an be read in reflection with Hadith from the Prophet
(PBUH). The Holy Prophet himself declared:
“I leave among you two weighty things, the Book of Allah (the Qur’an) and my
Sunna (tradition); if you hold fast to them you will never go astray (Hadith Sahih
Bukhari)
God, in the Holy Qur’an commands humanity that:
“This is the Book. In it is guidance surely without any doubt, to those who fear
God, who believe in the Unseen, are steadfast in prayer, and spend out of what
we have provided for them.” (Qur’an 2: 2- 3)
In another verse Allah says,
“These are the verses of the wise Book. A guide and a mercy to those who do
good, those who establish regular prayers, and give regular charity, and have
in their hearts the assurance of the hereafter.” (Qur’an Surat Luqman, verse 2-4)
He says again: “It contains the best of everything that can give satisfaction for
a supermind. It is the greatest source of knowledge for mankind. It purifies
one’s idea and broadens the vision.”
The above ayahs shows some examples of the actions which man must perform in
order to know the All Mighty Creator.
Read the above verses of Qur’an and discuss the following questions.
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Key Discussion Points
1. Educated people often show their certificates in their offices or homes. How do wise people
show their wisdom according to verse 32:2-4?
2. Read verses 2:34-38 and talk through all the “bad fruit” of the tree of fake “wisdom”.
Compare between knowledge and wisdom using Qur’an 2:34-38.
3. In verses Qur’an 2:151,2:2-3,Luqman:2-4 lists the benefits of true wisdom. Consult Qur’an
and describe each “fruit” with a full sentence, beginning for example with: “Allah gives us
wisdom so that we will…..”
4. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read through one of the following: Qur’an
2:151,2:2-3,Luqman:2-4. Each group can report back (in one or two sentences) what they
have found about wisdom in their passage.
Conclusion
Wisdom is the ability to apply knowledge and experience to a real situation in such a way that justice
and peace is served. In the holy Qur’an God’s wisdom is revealed in The Prophet Muhammad
(PBUH)’s mission that he came to the world to teach us wisdom (Qur’an 3;164). Allah uses
Scripture to broaden our wisdom. The wise person is the man or woman who daily lives his/ her life
in the light of God’s Word.
According to Qur’an the difference between true and false wisdom is not so much in the knowledge,
but in the person, not so much in the content, but in the application. Wisdom is accompanied by
good behaviour and gentleness (Qur’an 16:125) and is known by the outcomes (peace and
righteousness) of its application (Qur’an 68;4). False “wisdom” will bear bad fruit while true wisdom
will be life-giving.
Therefore, the wise person will be open to the complexity of situations and problems. It is often
necessary to ask more questions before formulating answers. The wise person has the ability to
listen attentively and without prejudice. The wise person will always be open to new learning
experiences. Often deeper understanding of God’s will comes only after our minds have been
renewed and transformed (Qur’an 96:19).
Child protection touches on many difficult issues. Sometimes practices that are dealt with are deeply
rooted in culture or tradition. Sometimes practices are connected to people with power and great
influence in communities. Sometimes even asking a question about a practice may result in people
labelling you as an agent of some “Western agenda”. These and many more aspects of Child
protection make it clear that we need wisdom to:
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Better understand the issues and practices related to child protection.
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Understand people and their communities.
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Find ways to address attitudes, stigma, practices and culture.
We need to model wisdom for children that they will aspire to grow in wisdom.
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Guiding Principle 2:
Our Calling:
To break the silence by speaking the truth in love.
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Qur’anic Texts: Qur’an 2:45,83 5:48,23:70-71,90 25:33, 2:263
Introduction
For this reflection we work with the basic definition that “truth” means facts that are verifiable,
rather than false ideas that have been invented, assumed or guessed. In child protection we often
have to distinguish between truth and false. For example, it is false that a woman will only be fertile if
she has been mutilated through FGM/C. However it is true that FGM/C may lead to pregnancyrelated problems, which are more common with the more extensive FGM procedures.
In this child protection workshop many truths and falsities regarding child protection issues are being
discussed. The question we need to explore is: what do we do with the truth we discover?
Sometimes there are taboos that prohibit us from speaking about some issues. One option is to
yield to this pressure and hide the truth. Another option is to be brave and openly talk about it.
However, there are many examples of people who declared the truth in a way that resulted in fear
and outrage. Many ideas are deeply rooted in our cultural identity. When these are questioned it
touches raw nerves.
How are we going to be truthful to the truth without provoking fear, hatred and outrage?
Qur’anic Text:
Qur’an and also Prophet’s Hadith used the verb “to speak the truth” many times. When he asked his
companions to recite Qur’an to him no one agreed and they asked, “How do we recite to you and
to you it was revealed?” he said, I want to hear it from other than me.” Ibn Mas’ud (RA) recited,
“and what if we bring for each generation a witness and we make you witness for these ones(your
generation)?” the Prophet cried so much as never before. When they enquired why he cried so
much he replied by reciting, “Oh my lord (Allah) verily my people migrated (deviated) from
Qur’an.” He warned them in no uncertain terms against abandoning Qur’an.
When he went to spread Islam in Taif (a town in Arabia) they beat him till blood filled in the shoes
of his companion who used to block him from the stones thrown to him. The angel of mountains
came to him and ask him, “Why don’t you talk to your lord and order these mountains crash and
punish these people?” he responded by saying, “Oh God forgive them for they know me not.” He
also added that from their spinal cords there might come descendants who will believe in him...truly
after many years Taif is 100% Muslims.
We therefore see practically that
“Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than Sadaqa (charity) followed by injury. And
Allah is Rich (Free of all wants) and He is Most-Forbearing.” (Quran 2:263)
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“And seek help in patience and prayer.” [Qur’an 2:45] therefore anyone speaking the
truth should be ready for resistance and hence be patient. But at the same time .” And
speak good to people.” [al-Baqarah 2:83]
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Each one of you should save himself
from the fire by giving even half of a date (in charity). And if you do not find a half date,
then (you can do it through saying) a pleasant word (to your brethren).”( Bukhari:V2
N394)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “Fasting is not (just abstaining) from
eating and drinking, but also from vain speech and foul language. If one of you is being
cursed or annoyed, he should say: ‘I am fasting, I am fasting.’ ” Fiqh-us-Sunnah:V3N132A
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “Anyone who believes in God and the
Last Day (of Judgment) should not harm his neighbor. Anyone who believes in God and
the Last Day should entertain his guest generously. And anyone who believes in God and
the Last Day should say what is good or keep quiet.” Bukhari:V8B73N47
“Control your tongue.”Hadith
Key Discussion Points
Read Qur’an and see Prophet’s motivation to speak the truth which will enter us jannah(paradise)
“The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Do you know who will go first on
the Day of Resurrection to the shade of God…Those who when given what is right accept
it, when asked for something give freely and who judge in favor of others as they do for
themselves.” Al-Tirmidhi:1042.
Discuss how this helps us to better speak the truth as well as how it helps us with the questions in
the introduction.
1. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read through one of the following: Quran
2:263,Bukhari:V2N394; Bukhari:V8B73N47. Each group can report back (in one or two
sentences) what they have found about the relationship between truth and love in these
verses and Hadith.
Conclusion
The reason for Allah and His Prophet(PBUH)’s emphasis on speaking the truth in love as part of
motivation of paradise reward for speaking the truth may have been a deep psychological insight in
human nature. It takes a high degree of courage to speak the truth in love!
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To bluntly tell someone the truth can be a very painful experience for that person. However we
need to communicate the truth with respect for the person and the community involved. To be lifegiving, truth needs to be accompanied by love.
However, to hide the truth can make you an accomplice of injustice. When we do not have the
heart to tell the truth about injustices we should remember that the effect will be the continuation
of the status quo. In the field of child protection it means that children will still be subjected to
terrible conditions if we do not speak out about it. Is it love to stand by and watch and say nothing?
Is it love to make excuses or to downplay the harm? Is it love to turn your back or to give up?
When you speak the truth in love, you may save someone’s life.
When Surat 83 was revealed everyone feared spreading it for fear of Quraish who used to deceive
people but Ibn Masoud(R.A) went to a hill and recited it to the Quraish, he was severely beaten by
the Quraish but later on he saved a lot of people and fought oppression.
Fear should never dictate our actions. When we need to speak the truth, we need to be courageous
and remember to speak the truth in love.
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Guiding Principle 3:
Our determination to do what God requires:
We stand up to systems, structures, traditions and people who make children
vulnerable.
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Qur’anic Texts: Qur’an 2:49,7:103-130,10:75-92,23:45-46,16:91,7:157, Qur’an
16:91 and 7:157
Introduction
A well-known story of advocacy in the Qur’an is the story of Moses who advocated for the Israelites
who were oppressed and enslaved by Pharaoh in Egypt. When oppression became an edict with
the king’s authority, someone had to stand up and speak to the king on behalf of the Israelites . The
only one who could do this was Moses. Although Moses was the Prophet it was very dangerous for
him to approach the king. Therefore he asked Allah for support and assistant hence Allah chose his
brother Aaron to accompany him in approaching the king. (Qur’an 20:24-35)
Qur’anic Text:
The Quran uses various terms for children (e.g. Arabic term dhurriyya, ghulaam, ibn, walad, maulud,
sabi, tifli, saghir) but according to Avner Giladi, the context seldom makes it clear whether it is
exclusively referring to non mature children or simply offspring. The Quran statements about
children are mainly concerned with infanticide and adoption, breast feeding and fatherless children
these statements were of a normative ethical significance for later Muslim jurists who formed the
foundation of Islamic legislation.
IN THE HADITH
Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) established laws and example (Sunnah) in respect of which is obligatory
for Muslim community to follow Muhammad’s behavior towards children is demonstrably kind.
Prophet Muhammad had seven children, three boys and four girls . All this sons including Ibrahim
ibn Muhammad, died in infancy. Because of this his experience as a father is sometimes described
as “sorrowful” Prophet Muhammad also had an adopted son Zayd who is said to be the object of
Muhammad’s parental affection. He also had two grandsons Hassan and Hussein and three
granddaughters Umm kulthum, Zainab and Umamah. Hadith mentions that Prophet
Muhammad(PBUH) ran after Hussein in a game until he caught him. He also used to let Umamah sit
on his shoulders while he was praying. When he was once chided for kissing his grandchild, he
responded,” what can I do if God has deprived your heart of all human feeling”?
Prophet Muhammad has been described as being very fond of children in general what attributes
this to his yearning for children as most of his own children died before him.
He comforted a child whose pet nightingale had died. Muhammad played many games with children
joked with them and befriend them. He also showed love to children of other religions.
Once he visited his Jewish neighbor’s son when the child was sick.
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Once , Prophet Muhammad was sitting with a child in his lap, and the child urinated on him.
Embarrassed, the father scolded the child. Prophet Muhammad restrained the father and advised
him “ This is not a big issue, My clothes can be washed. But be careful with how you treat the child.
What can restore his self-esteem after you have dealt with him in public like this?
In the Qur’an the prophets reminded the leaders of their God-given duty to be just and fair leaders.
Maybe the oldest form of Qur’anic advocacy is prayer as Allah says, “When my servants ask thee
(O, Muhammad) concerning Me, tell them I am indeed close (to them). I listen to the prayer
of every suppliant when he calleth on Me.” Qur’an 2:186
The first revelation was on reading (i.e. education) in the Name of Allah Who Created(Quran 96)
This verse holds education, prayer and work together as partners. We practice this when we start
our day with salat fajr to guide us throughout the day.
We pray for our national and local governments and we should also advocate before them on behalf
of those who need their intervention.
Commanding the proper and forbidding the improper begins with God. The Qur'an says:
"God does command you justness, goodness and liberality to the near
ones and He does forbid you shameful deeds, impropriety and
rebelliousness." (16:91)
God, of course, carries out the function of commanding the right and forbidding
the wrong through His Messenger. So the mission of the Prophet is described
in one verse as follows:
"He commands them what is right and forbids them what is wrong, he
makes lawful the things that are wholesome and makes unlawful the
things that are bad and lifts from them their burdens and the yokes that
were upon them." (7:157)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “The best (Jihad) is (to
speak) word of justice to an oppressive ruler.” Sunan of Abu-Dawood:2040
We have so many verses in the Qur’an that tells us that the Qur’an is a guidance to
mankind and Allah guides those who obey the commands of Allah, “Those who
believe, and work in righteousness, the Lord will guide them because of the
faith.” Qur’an Surat Yunus, verse 9
We have so many verses in the Qur’an that tells us that the Qur’an is a guidance to
mankind and Allah guides those who obey the commands of Allah
From the sixth year after Hijrah, Islam was being propagated beyond the Arabian
peninsula, there are references which demonstrate that the Qur’an is addressing
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itself to mankind in general, “This Qur’an has been revealed to me that I may
warn you and whomever it may reach.” Qur’an 6:19
This warning is to none other than entire humanity.
And fulfill the Covenant of Allah when you have covenanted [al-Nahl 16:91]
The Prophet used to advise, “Fear Allah and treat all your children fairly.”(Hadith)
Key Discussion Points
1. Read Quran 2:186 and discuss how this verse should shape our prayers for our
governments.
2. Read Qur’an 20:43-46 and consider how these verses should shape our prayers for our
governments as well as our expectations of what a “just government” should be.
3. Explore how the previous discussions should guide our advocacy strategy. What difference
does it make to know that we have an Advocate (Allah) Qur’an 95:8?
4. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read through one of the following: Quran 2:186 ,
20:43-46 and Qur’an 95:8. Each group can report back (in one or two sentences) what they
have found regarding advocacy.
Conclusion
Moses’ mother and sister are Qur’anic (20:38-40) examples of people acting to protect a child for
certain death. Qur’an intervened and prevented parents from killing their daughters (Qur’an 81:8-9).
The Qur’an is clear about helping people in need. It is remarkable how often these appeals to help
are combined with emphasizing the need for justice for the poor.
In recent years charity agencies realised more and more that the impact of charity was restricted by
the entrenched injustices in society. Even community development was often confined by authorities,
policies and culture. Therefore the need for sustainable systems development with the aim to
address problems on local, national and even international levels was emphasised.
There are many aspects of child protection where advocacy should play an important part, for
example 
Child begging confronts us with questions like: what are the causes behind and contributing to
child begging? What does justice for the poor mean in the context of child begging?
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Child labour may be connected to cultural and/or traditional practices we need to address. Even
though child labour will not disappear in a short time, unjust, cruel and harmful practices should
be openly addressed now.
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Teenage pregnancy challenges us to ask: How can we help teenage mothers and their children
without boosting teenage pregnancies?
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Harmful traditional practices like FGM/C have been changed affectively once practising
communities themselves decided to abandon it.
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Advocacy for the rightful place of women in society and affirming their dignity should be a
priority as female infanticide shows the tragic consequences of degrading of women in society.
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The widespread acceptance of corporal punishment and the tolerance of physical violence also
ask for advocacy strategies that focus on these perceptions in communities.
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Also, advocacy strategies can address various barriers that prevent disabled child from having
access to and receiving education, training, health care services, rehabilitation services,
preparation for employment and recreation opportunities.
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Advocacy strategies can also address the lack of available, accessible, quality healthcare for
children and pregnant mothers; as well as the lack of free and compulsory primary education.
As long as children are less likely, or unable, to speak up for their rights and protect themselves
churches cannot keep quiet.
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Guiding Principle 4:
Our gift from God at birth:
We are all created by God with physical bodies that are beautiful, dignified and
infinitely valuable.
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Qur’anic Texts: Qur’an 87:2-3,Quran 95:4
Introduction
There is agreement amongst Muslims that God created human beings in best image, as Qur’an says,
“Verily, We created man in the best form.” (Quran 95:4) There are many other Qur’anic
texts behind this doctrine which are well known. The questions we want to explore in this
reflection are: What does “created in best image” actually mean? What are the implications of
this Qur’anic conviction for child protection?
Qur’anic Text:
The Qur’an begins by telling us that God created everything we see and know of, and that He also
specifically created humankind, ” And by the begetter (i.e. Adam ) and that which he begot (i.e.
his progeny);Verily, We have created man in toil. Thinks he that none can overcome him?
He says (boastfully): "I have wasted wealth in abundance!" Thinks he that none sees him?
Have We not made for him a pair of eyes? And a tongue and a pair of lips? And shown him
the two ways (good and evil)? Quran 90:3-10
From this we learn who God is and how He relates to the world. This is the foundation of our
relationship with God and with one another.
From experience we know that we live in a world that is broken by the sin of humankind. Qur’an
2:35-38 tells the story of The Fall. As a result humankind and God’s creation have been damaged by
sin. However, we also know that God sent his Prophets to guide us . Through the Prophets we can
again look at God’s original plan for humankind and discover God’s plan for our lives.
“Not equal are those of the believers who sit (at home) except those who are disabled
(by injury or the blind or lame), and those who strive hard and fight in the cause of Allah
has preferred in grades those who lives above those who sit (at home). Unto each Allah
has promised good (paradise) but Allah has preferred those who strive hard and fight
above those who sit (at home) by a huge reward”.(Quran 4:95)
One way of ensuring beautiful physical bodies is by providing food. We should make sure
that we provide nutritious balanced diet to our children. Hunger is one of the worst
humiliating factors. It is through hunger where children are misused, taken for child labour
and other malicious duties offered to children. It is therefore upon all of us to make sure
that our children and those of our neighbors have access to basic necessities especially
food.
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When asked what the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did while in his house,
his wife Ayesha replied: “He used to keep busy serving and helping members of the
household.”Anas bin Malik related that: “(Even the humblest) maid servant of Madinah
would take the Prophet’s hand and take him to any place (for the redress of her
grievances).” Riyadh-us-Salaheen:605-606
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “God has forbidden you to be
undutiful to your mothers, to withhold (what you should give) or demand (what you do
not deserve), or to bury your daughters alive (a pre-Islamic practice).” Bukhari:8:6
Key Discussion Points
1. Read Qur’an 2:30-38 and talk about what the implications of this passage are for the
relationship between God and humankind as well as the relationship between “male and
female” humans.
2. Are there any indications in Qur’an 2:30-38 that women do not form part of “humankind
created in the Best image”? Are there any indications that our physical bodies do not form
part of our being created in the best image?
3. Read Quran 2:187. This is the culmination of the description of the relationship between
husband and wife. What is the Qur’an’s view of the woman’s body according to this?
4. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read through Qur’an 2:30-38 .Each group can
report back (in one or two sentences) what they have found in that specific text about our
physical bodies.
Conclusion
Humankind is uniquely created in best image. Men and women are together created from one soul
Qur’an 4:1. Therefore both men and women (boys and girls) should know that their bodies were
created by God in the best image from one soul.
Women and men are different but of equal value before God. Therefore, baby girls, girl children and
young girls are also of equal value before God as men.
Prophet Muhammad praises the beauty of the woman’s body and orders that it should be covered.
He adds that any parent who will bring up two daughters till they mature and get married
He(Prophet Muhammad) and those parents will enter paradise side by side(Hadith) There are no
indications in the Qur’an that a woman’s body lack anything or needs any alteration or improvement.
Male circumcision (a well-known practice of Qur’anic times) functioned only as a religious, covenant
sign and there are no references in the Qur’an to “female circumcision”. (The reason why male
circumcision is being promoted in our time, is because, if done properly, it can help improve health
by preventing the spread of STI’s.)Any deliberate hurt or damage by an adult to a child’s body is
against God’s will.
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The existence of female foeticide and girl infanticide – even if not practiced by Muslims – should be a
serious warning to all Muslims of the bad fruit that comes from degrading attitudes to and views of
women. Although Muslims may agree in principle that men and women are created in God’s image,
they easily contribute to views that women are inferior and partake in practices that oppress
women. There are many examples in Pre-Islamic history of the unjust subordination of women.
When children with disabilities are kept in the dark, denied attention, affection and physical contact,
withheld from ordinary movement and language stimulation it stands in opposition to the view that
all human beings are created in God’s image. Did God not also create this disabled child? God’s
perfect Creation cannot be restricted to people with healthy and fully functioning bodies
alone.(Quran 80:1-4)
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Guiding Principle 5:
Our compassion:
To uphold, restore, and honour the dignity and value of every human being.
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Qur’an 17:70 , 2:30,233 Quran 38:75
Introduction
How should we measure the human well-being of a society? We often come across GDP or Gross
domestic product per capita. This economic measurement is used as an indicator of a country’s
standard of living. Many argue that GDP is too one-dimensional and propose other indicators, like
measuring poverty, health, education, employment, political participation, human rights, etc.
What indicators should we prefer from an Islamic perspective? What about measuring the human
well-being of a society from the perspective of children on the margins of society? Those who have
been stigmatised, who cannot participate because of disabilities, children whose opinions are not
listened to, children who lost everything because their father died, etc?
The same principle applies to human dignity. We may all agree that human dignity is important.
However, we value human dignity according to the degree in which we honour the dignity of people
(children) on the margins of society.
Islam is complete way of life, it teaches how to bring up your children according to the teaching of
Quran and Hadith.
Allah (swt) in Holy Qur’an (2:233) talks about suckling children up to two years. Prophet Muhammad
(s.a.w) said teach your children prayer at the age of seven and at the age of ten punish them if they
fail to pray he stresses also in the issue of separating the best and the rooms.
As good Muslim we have to educate our children both secular and religious education , this shows
that Islam is frontline in valuing the education. Even Adam surpassed other beings through
knowledge, “Now, indeed, We have conferred dignity on the children of Adam” (17:70). This
is brought out through the Story of Creation. For God created man “with My two Hands”
(38:75). Further, He breathed into Adam from His Spirit (15:29). This was so because Man
was created as God’s vicegerent on earth (2:30).
“And among His Signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the difference of
your languages and colours. Verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound
knowledge.”( Quran 30:22)
No human being should be arrogant to the other as Allah ordered, “And walk not on the
earth with conceit and arrogance: (Qur’an 17:37) He added, “And turn not your face away
from men with pride.” (Qur’an 31:18)
“Say (O Muhammad)”Come I will recite what your lord has prohibited you from: Join not
anything in worship with him; be good and dutiful to your parents; kill not your children
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because of poverty- We provide sustenance for you and for them; come not near to Alfawahish(shameful sins illegal sexual intercourse)whether committed openly or secretly;
and kill not anyone whom Allah has forbidden, except for a just cause(according to
Islamic law)This He has commanded you that you may understand.”
The Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) realized the humiliation which the poor went through.
This is the reason why he came up with this Hadith to teach poor that the poor are also
dignified before Allah...this is the same as in the Qur’an happy are the poor for they will
see the kingdom of God.
A funeral procession once passed in front of the Prophet Muhammad (peace
be upon him) and he stood up out of respect. When he was told the person in
the coffin was Jewish and not Muslim, he said: “Was it not a living (soul)?”
Bukhari:V2N399
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once saw the corpse of a woman
who had been killed in a military action, and he disapproved of it and forbade
the killing of women and children. Abu Bakr as-Siddiq, a companion of the
Prophet Muhammad and his successor as head of the Muslim community,
advised one of his military commanders: “Do not kill women or children or an
aged, infirm person. Do not cut down fruit-bearing trees. Do not destroy an
inhabited place.” Al-Muwatta:V21N9-10
Qur’anic Text:
The story of Prophet Muhammad’s interaction with children and praising girl child was a surprise to
Arabs who degraded girls and buried them alive. In Hadith the most hated of halal things in divorce,
why?– because mostly it is the children who suffer!
Key Discussion Points
1. Read Qur’an 42:49-50 and look attentively at the verse. Pay attention to every detail.
2. How would you have coped with the situation if you lived at the period where infanticide(of
girl child) was seen as a ritual? Quran 6:140?
3. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read through one of the following: Qur’an
42:49-50, Quran 6:140. Each group can report back (in one or two sentences) what they
have found in their text that relates to children or people on the margins of society.
Conclusion
All human beings are of inestimable worth, and no one person is more important than another.
Prophet Muhammad’s loving concern for little children, as well as his indignation about his disciple’s
initial indifference, demonstrate God’s concern for the weak, defenceless and those whom society
considers of no account. “He took them up in his arms, laid his hands on them, and blessed them”. What
a wonderful example of upholding, restoring and honouring the dignity of children!
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God’s compassion for children – especially those on the margins of society – challenges us to reach
out to them with more than temporary symbols of charity. It is therefore necessary to look behind
the immediate problem (for example of a child begging) to understand the underlying causes. If the
help we offer a child perpetuates the child’s destitute situation, we have not really helped the child.
Our help should address the underlying problems and focus on the dignity of the child. Often only
organisations and governments can impact the underlying problems. Individuals should then rather
support these organisations and try to affirm the child’s dignity when they are confronted.
Charity – relief and welfare – is often necessary to address the immediate need in a crisis situation.
It can, however, easily harm the dignity of the people in need. The person in need may not become
an object of relief. Help needs to be uplifting, empowering and sustainable.
It is unacceptable that some churches even contribute to the high degree of stigma associated with
disability.
“I think abusing disabled children is one of the cruellest actions that humans can do because they are
one of the weakest people,” commented a girl in a survey.
Boys and girls with disabilities as well as baby girls who are vulnerable to infanticide are in special
need of our compassion. Dignity can in no way be connected to perfection or a baby’s gender. “To
be a girl and disabled is, in many communities, a double disaster” (UNICEF). The Convention on the
Rights of the Child demands that a child with disability has the right to special care, education and
training to help her or him enjoy a full and decent life in dignity and achieve the greatest degree of
self-reliance and social integration possible (Cf. Article 23).
Children are vulnerable bearers of God’s image entrusted to the care of their parents. Created in
God’s likeness their dignity must be affirmed. “The dignity and protection which Allah accorded to
children must be mirrored in the church” (E M Smith). The church needs courageous,
compassionate and infinitely wise pasturing of children!
God is in a special way the God of the destitute, the poor and wronged and He calls his church to
follow Him in this.
Physical punishment.
Islam set conditions when the physical punishment is a administered
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Never hit the face
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Avoid using your own hand; use a very light object such as a natural toothbrush
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Hitting should be very light and must never leave any mark on the child’s body.
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Never punish a child in front of people or other children
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If a child reach the age of ten and missing prayer parents may punish the child physically by
hitting him lightly so he can understand the weight of his mistake
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If parents hit or beat their children unjustly they will be held accountable on the day of
judgment
Raise your children using ways different from the ways used with you, because they were created
for times more than your times some of the prohibited things in religious training.
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Guiding Principle 6:
Our duty to provide for our children:
A happy and secure childhood with safe space and time to play, learn, and grow.
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Qur’anic Texts: (Qur’an 3:39, An’aam 151, Isra: 26)
Introduction
Prophet Muhammad was born an orphan that would prevent him from having a normal life.
Fortunately He had a wise mother and cooperative relatives who decided that they would do
everything in their ability to fill the Prophet’s “memory box” with happy memories. Although
Prophet Muhammad had to cope with many challenges as he grew up, he and his mother had lots of
fun and many, many happy moments!
Even after His mother had died later in His other people took care of his physical needs, he was still
a happy person. His mother had given him one of the best gifts a parent could give a child – happy
memories!
Say “come I will recite what your lord has prohibited you from: Join not anything in worship
with Him; be good and dutiful to your parents; kill not your children because of povertyWe provide sustenance for you and for them; illegal sexual intercourse) whether
committed openly or secretly; and kill not anyone whom Allah has forbidden, except for
a just cause (according to Islamic law).This He has commanded you that you may
understand.
In Islam women are regarded and honored to be the first schools to their children.
Therefore men are required to treat women well as a sign of appreciation for the great role
they play in taking care of their children. This was made clear in the last Sermon when the
Prophet Muhammad said, on the Ninth Day of Dhul Hijjah 10 A.H (c. 630 AD)
We are required to treat our children boys and girls equally as the Prophet said, “Even as
the fingers of the two hands are equal, so are human beings equal to one another. No one
has any right, nor any preference to claim over another. You are brothers.”(Last Sermon)
Prophet Muhammad received his first revelation on the seventeenth day of Ramadan
(February, A.D. 610) in the thirteenth year before the beginning of the Muslim Era.
This revelation took the form of a discussion between teacher and pupil, between the
Archangel Gabriel and Muhammad.
"Read!" commanded Gabriel. "I am not of those who know how to read," replied
Muhammad. "Read!" Gabriel repeated. "What shall I read?" asked the astonished
pupil. "Read!" insisted Gabriel. "But how shall I read?" asked the solitary hermit. The
Archangel then recited the first five verses of Surah 96
“Read, In the name of thy Lord who createth, Createth man from a clot, Read, And thy Lord
is the most Bounteous, Who teacheth by the pen, Teacheth man that which he knew not”
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It is therefore upon every Muslim to seek knowledge.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once told his wife: “Do not turn
away a poor man..even if all you can give is half a date. If you love the poor
and bring them near you…GOD will bring you near HIM on the Day of
Resurrection.” Al-Tirmidhi:1376
The above two verses call upon us to make sure everyone in the society is safe and happy. If
we have a neighbor who is poor and cannot offer and provide for his/her children we
should consider including their children in our budgets and try uplift their lives.
The duty of parents and guardians according to Islamic perspective (teachings)
Islam is a religion of peace and it means peace: Islam is a submission freely to commandment and
will of the one and the only God(Allah) this submission should come from within , iron sound belief
and conviction to Allah with no doubt, it should also come from love trust and affection. The prophet
Muhammad( peace be upon him) received the word of Allah (revelation)through Angles (Gabriel the
holy spirit) thus revelation comprises the religion of Islam.
Islam preaches peace, mercy, justice, tolerance, equality, love, truth, forgiveness, patience, morality,
sincerely and righteousness. Islam is a religion that also preaches the oneness of God, the ones of
mankind and ones of the message therefore Allah is not a special god for Muslim but The creator of
all creatures.
In this regard Islam treats children with most respect on this earth hence treat children of Muslim
parents is considered a Muslim and Islam law contains precise and detailed provision regarding
children
Before the advent of Islam in Arabia children not only had no right but new born babies were
frequently buried life either because of poverty or because they were females and considered a
burden.
There are several Qur’anic verses on this subject “ Allah says And the birth of this doubter is
announced to one of them his face becomes black and he is full of wrath(Quran 16:58) And kill not
your children for fear of poverty we provide for them and for you surely the killing of them is great
wrong(22:31) “And when the one is buried alive is asked for what sin he was killed (31:8-9) these
verses support the fact that the custom of infanticide was précised in pre- Islamic Arabia.
Any child born within wedlock is considered legitimate and provision has been made regarding
paternity in case of divorce or death of father. Due to the importance of matrilineal descent
adoption is permitted in Islam (33:4-5) Muslim are enjoyed to treat children of unknown origin as
their brother in faith
The father of a child should provide to the mother with the necessary material for the child growth
and survival the baby has right to foods clothing and shelter (Quran11:233) the father should also
see to the child education (both secular and religion) should the Childs father be dead or unable to
provide for the child and if the child does not have any inherited property, then providing for the
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child became the first duty and paternal grandfather then the other paternal relatives and finally
other living relatives.
It is the responsibility of mother to take case of the child during at least up to two years (Quran
11:223).
If a mother is unable to nurse it is permitted to employ a wet nurse who is good health and a good
character (it is believed by some furriest the traits are inherited through human lactation) Quran
11:233) if the family cannot afford a wet nurse frequently a neighbor or a friend who has recently
given birth may fulfill the role.
If there is dispute between parents it is generally agreed that mother have the right of custody for
few years of a Childs life. If a mother dies custody reverts to female relatives preferably in the
mothers line, However aside of this facts the different schools of fiqh holds dissimilar opinions of this
matter.
Children have also well defined right in respect to inheritance provision have been made within
Quran and the Shariah for inheritance right for both female and male offspring’s.
In pre – Islamic Arabia woman and children had no inheritance right. In Islam boys inherit two times
that girls inherit. There are also provisions for the inheritance rights for parents (Quran 4:11-12)
A child has right to education hence it is the responsibility of the parent to educate the child as an
attribute to prophet (saw) relates “ A father gives his child nothing better than good
education”(collected by Tirmithi and alBayhaqi)
One day a man came to Umar ibn Khattaab to complain disobedience son, so Umar (RA) had
brought the body to him for his disobedience then the boy addressed Umar by saying “ O
commander of the faithful are there rights for a boy against his father? Umar said yes, then the
boy said what are these rights for O commander of the faithful Umar said to choose a good mother
for him, to select a good name to him and to teach him Quran then the boy said; O commander of
the faithful my father had not accomplished any of these rights, As for my mother she was a black
slave for a margious As for my name he has named me fual (beetle)and he has not even thought
me even one letter from the Quran “then Umar turned to the man to the man and said” you are
coming to me complaining disobedience on the part of your son, where as you have not given him
his rights. So you have made mistake against him before he had made mistakes against you.”
Children have also duties towards their parents they are enjoyed to be kind obedient and respectful
towards their parent and to look after them in old age(Quran 17:23,29:8, 31:14,15, 46:15)
Children have right to love and affection since they have many psychological needs small children
need to be loved care, kissed, and hugged. The prophet (saw) loved children greatly he would allow
his grandson Hassan and Hussein (RA) to ride his shoulders even during his prayers in streets he
would offer salaam to children, play and chat jokes with them sometime he would even kiss small
children in the street.
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Once Bedouin saw the prophet kissing a small kid out of wonder he said” I have eight children’s but I
never kiss them” prophet remarked what can I do if Allah has taken away love and compassion from
your heart” prophet also would show special kindness to orphaned children.
Qur’an speaks about the possibility of joy, faith and assurance of God’s goodness. Hadith explains
that life in this world is meaningless without faith. Faith acknowledges God – His generosity – and
therefore perceives what our eyes cannot observe.
Once the light of God’s presence shines into our lives it opens a perspective that overcomes
pessimism. Without ignoring the hardships we might encounter, it opens our eyes for God’s
goodness today – the wonder of living in his light and enjoying it!
What joy there is in knowing God’s goodness! But how sad it is when we discover this only at the
end of our lives. Therefore the Prophet (PBUH) advice youth to find joy in their youth – without
losing responsibility, “take advantage of five things before five things...your young age before old
age....(Hadith)
Key Discussion Points
1. Read the Hadith on five things... and examine all the positive descriptions and appeals about
life. Make your own description of “the good life according to Hadith.
2. Read Qur’an 31:8-9 and examine all the warnings in this passage. What should we keep in
mind while we enjoy the life God gives us?
3. The warnings in this passage that accompany the positive appeals to enjoy life are not meant
to snuff out happiness. They are signposts along the road of the good life God gives that
actually encourage us to keep travelling on that road. How does this compare with how we
look at the lives of our children?
4. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read through one of the following: Quran
17:23,29:8, 31:14,15, 46:15. Each group can report back (in one or two sentences) what
they have found about children. Note that the first three texts emphasise the positive while
the last two readings highlight the negative.
Conclusion
Qur’an and Hadith advice Human beings, young and old to rejoice in the life they receive from God
and to do this early in life. Qur’an explains that all of us young and old will be resurrected young and
that the successful ones will enter paradise young and will be full of joy.
Life is indeed a wonderful gift from God. The Qur’an encourages responsible enjoyment of youth.
Parents have a duty to cultivate a positive life experience and outlook in their children. Many
children are by nature cheerful and respond with joy to loving attention. How sad and wrong it is
when the sparkle in their eyes, their jolliness and playfulness are snuffed out by parents and adults.
Parenting in line with Qur’anic teaching will endeavour to give each child a proper childhood. A new
born baby is completely dependent on his/her parents. Families and communities have a God-given
responsibility to protect children. We should go a step further – we should ensure that children will
have enough time and space to enjoy a proper childhood - carefree time to be jolly, space to run and
play, opportunities to discover and learn.
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A child is not a little adult. Wise parents will let their children be children and will not treat them as
little adults. They will guard against decisions on behalf of their children that will plunge them into
situations with adult responsibilities or circumstances that require skilful (adult) responses while they
are still children. Child labour, begging and child marriage do this and deprive a child of a proper
childhood. Children living in the street or living on the street are also deprived of a proper
childhood. Children should not be robbed of carefree time as well as time and opportunities to
learn.
A happy child has a better chance to become a happy and mature adult. This is not only an attractive
view but is supported by many life stories as well as researched evidence.
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Guiding Principle 7:
Our purpose as parents and guardians:
To guide our children into mature followers of Prophet Muhammad and adult
members of their community.
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Qur’anic Texts: (Quran 66:6 , 4:58, 17:29, 7:31, 2:197]
Introduction
There is a saying: “When children are little, they step on your toes. When they are grown, they step
on your heart.” The contrary is also true – a child can bring joy and pleasure to a parent, but the
joys that a grown up child can bring to a parent surpasses that.
Why do some children deeply disappoint their parents when they have grown up while others bring
their parents only delight? There is no “one-fits-all” answer to this question. Each parent-child
relationship is unique. However, there are important principles of parenting that will influence a
child’s growth into maturity. One of these is that parenting should start with the end in mind:
children are brought up to become mature adults.
Qur’anic Text:
“O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel
is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey
not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are
commanded”. (Quran 66:6)
Verily! Allah commands that you should render back the trusts to those to whom they are
due [al-Nisa' 4:58]
Children are a trust which Allah gave us. We should make sure we guide them to be(good,
righteous) like us or even better. That way we will have fulfilled our duty.
And let not your hand be tied (like a miser) to your neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost
reach (like a spendthrift) [al-Isra' 17:29]
And take a provision (with you) for the journey, but the best provision is al-Taqwa (piety,
righteousness) [al-Baqarah 2:197]
The above verses have emphasized on many issues touching on children. But most
important is the fact that children are a trust of Allah to us. So whoever Allah endows with
children should fulfill the promise of taking care of them in the best way possible.
“Cheer people up, do not put them off.”Hadith
“Make things easy for people, not difficult.”Hadith
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“If Allah gives you wealth, let the blessing of Allah be seen on you.” Hadith.
“If someone who is distinguished among his own people comes to you, then honour him.”
Hadith.
“If one with whose religion and character you are pleased comes to you (to seek your
daughter’s hand in marriage), then marry (your daughter) to him.”Hadith
“If you do something bad, follow it by doing something good.”Hadith
Verily! Allah commands that you should render back the trusts to those to
whom they are due [al-Nisa' 4:58]
And let not your hand be tied (like a miser) to your neck, nor stretch it forth to
its utmost reach (like a spendthrift) [al-Isra' 17:29]
And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for
him to get out (from every difficulty) [al-Talaaq 65:2]
He who obeys the Messenger has indeed obeyed Allah [al-Nisa' 4:80]
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “A man has sinned enough
if he neglects to feed those in need.” Fiqh-us-Sunnah:V3N100
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Religion is very easy, and
whoever overburdens himself in his religion will not be able to continue in that
way. So you should not be extremists, but try to be near to perfection and
receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded.” Bukhari:V1N38
The Quran speaks of the reward waiting for those who feed orphans poor and the prisoner for the
love of it also warns those who wrongfully consume the property of orphans that they will be
punished in the hereafter with “fire in their own beliefs” The Quran also gives concrete instructions
to guardians regarding the orphans particularly on how to protect their wealth and property rights.
Key Discussion Points
1. Read Quran 66:6 and 4:58 and discuss the order given relating to bringing up
children
2. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Religion is very easy,
and whoever overburdens himself in his religion will not be able to continue in
that way. So you should not be extremists, but try to be near to perfection and
receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded.” Bukhari:V1N38 How can
we follow this Hadith(correctly) in bringing up our children?
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Conclusion
Although a child is not a little adult he or she should eventually grow up to become a mature adult.
It is true that some parents expect too much from their children. However, this should not prevent
all parents to dream beautiful dreams for their children. They should dream about the future when
their children will grow up to full maturity and become the adult persons God created them to be.
This hope inspires us as parents to work towards that goal and to pray for God’s blessing on the
road we travel together with our children to this goal. Qur’an and Hadith pictures parents who
accompany their children on their life’s journey while daily communicating God’s Word.
Islamic maturity emphasises a mature relationship with God .As Muslims we are called by God to
follow the Prophet be renewed by faith of Allah and to serve God and neighbour as well as care for
nature.
As citizens children should also be educated about their rights as well as their responsibilities.
Raising a child is acting in hope. Parents should care for their children with the future in mind and
children should grow up knowing there is hope.
To grow into a mature adult a child needs to develop his/ her personality alents and mental and
physical abilities. They also need the necessary preparation to live responsible lives in their society as
well as in the natural environment. There is nothing in the Qur’an to support the notion that a
person needs to go through rituals (with or without cutting the body) to become a mature adult. To
grow properly a child needs physical, emotional, social, intellectual and spiritual care. World Vision’s
child well-being aspirations include that children enjoy good health, are educated for life, experience
love of God and their neighbours and are cared for, protected and participating.
Children should not be robbed from adequate time to develop and grow into mature adults.
When parents give their children into early marriage they prevent them from developing to maturity
in the safe environment of their parents’ home. The difference between acceptable work and child
labour is that the one makes a positive contribution to the child’s development, while the other
impedes it.
When teenagers (under age 18) become pregnant they suddenly find themselves in a position of
adult responsibilities before they are physically, mentally and emotionally mature enough. This
applies to teenagers (under age 18) inside and outside marriage.
Pregnancies outside of wedlock reflect a mixture of consensual sex, deliberate pregnancies,
transactional sex, and sexual abuse. There are no simple solutions to stem this tide, but one essential
aspect is that teenagers need hope. When young people feel they have no future they have little
motivation to make the right (hard) decision.
A living hope inspires aspirations and ambitions for the future and they in turn instil perseverance
and tenacity for the present.
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Guiding Principle 8:
Our God-given task:
To raise our children with discipline that is loving, kind, patient, forgiving, wise,
dignifying, affirming and accompanied by the right example.
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Qur’anic Texts: Quran 10:132 Ephesians Introduction
Can you imagine Prophet Muhammad’s mother Amina or His grafather AbdulMuttwalib or his uncle
Abu Talib spanking the little boy Muhammad? Scolding him and making him do lots of hard work
while he was still young and tender? Do not be too quick to say, “but Muhammad was a perfect
child!” all the mentioned were not perfect parents.
Yes, it is difficult to imagine those who took care of him hitting the little boy Muhammad! Why is it
then that so many children grow up in houses and communities where they are regularly scolded,
spanked and forced to do hard labour? Why do many children not enjoy their childhood?
“And enjoin As-salat (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them (i.e. the
salat (prayers). We ask not of you a provision (i.e. to give us something: money): We
provide for you. And the good end (i.e. paradise) is for the Muttaqun (the pious and
righteous persons.” (Quran 10:132)
Abraham taught His sons how to work for God and be good to humankind. Him and
Ishmael, (Isma’il), when they were constructing the Ka‘ba as a place of worship at
Mecca, addressed God in these words: "Our Lord! Make us Muslims unto Thee and
of our seed a nation of Muslims unto Thee" (Quran 2: 128). Jacob gave his sons this
counsel: " . . and die only as good Muslims" (Quran 2: 132). His sons reassured him
with their reply, "We do worship thy Lord, the unique God, the God of thy fathers
Abraham, Ishmael, Noah, and Isaac, and we are good Muslims" (Quran 2: 133).
When Moses was instructing his people, he said, "Trust yourselves to God if you are
true Muslims" (Quran 10: 85). The disciples of Prophet Muhammad avowed, "We
have believed and you can be witness that we are Muslims" (Qur’an 5: 111).
The fundamental mission of the messengers of God has been to teach true belief
about the one God and to establish justice among men. The unity of this belief
springs from the one God and creates a union of the prophets and of their followers,
who together form a unique spiritual nation, Islam. Thus, after enumerating the
prophets from Noah to Prophet Muhammad, the Qur’an says, "Here is your nation,
one and united, and I am your Lord. Worship me, then" (Quran 21: 92).
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “The learned are heirs of the
prophets, and the prophets do not leave any inheritance in the form of (monetary
wealth), but they do leave knowledge as their legacy. A person who acquires knowledge,
acquires his full share (of this legacy).” Riyadh-us-Salaheen:1388
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “A believer may achieve the status of
one who regularly fasts (for religious reasons) during the day and spends the night in
prayer, through his good manners.” Riyadh-us-Salaheen:629
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Qur’anic Text:
Quran 21: 92 shows an appeal to “no longer live as unbelievers , in the futility of their minds”, but to be
renewed and to clothe ourselves with righteousness and holiness
Muslims who are clothed with righteousness and who are filled with belief in Allah should be careful
and wise when they live together as husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and slaves.
Key Discussion Points
1. Read The Prophet’s Hadith, “God has forbidden you to be undutiful to your
mothers, to withhold (what you should give) or demand (what you do not
deserve), or to bury your daughters alive (a pre-Islamic practice).” Bukhari:8:6 and
discuss how this Hadith motivates the children to be obedient to their parents.
2. Read (Quran 2: 128). (Quran 2: 132). (Quran 2: 133 (Quran 10: 85 (Qur’an 5: 111)
and discuss how these verses guide us in the upbringing of our children.
3. Some notes for the previous question:
a. The Prophet (Riyadh-us-Salaheen:1388) encourage on educating our
children.
b. Parents should raise their children in a way that is “Islamic”. Children should
experience the love of Allah and His Prophet in the love of their parents.
4. Divide the group in smaller groups and let each group read through one of the following:
(Quran 2: 128). (Quran 2: 132). (Quran 2: 133 (Quran 10: 85 (Qur’an 5: 111) The
Prophet’s hadith (Riyadh-us-Salaheen:1388) (There are five groups of texts as indicated
by “;”.) Each group can report back (in one or two sentences) what they have found that
endorses the guiding principle.
Conclusion
Allah’s commandment, “be dutiful to your parents” (Qur’an 2:83,215, 4:36), clearly expresses that
God wants children to submit to their parents’ guidance and teaching. However, this does not give
parents unconditional power over their children. Parents do not have children for their own benefit,
but to raise them in the ways of the Lord. God gives parents and guardians the responsibility to love,
nurture and care for children. Parents are God’s stewards for the upbringing in love of their children
given by Him.
Violence can be physical (including sexual) or emotional. There are also many non-physical forms of
punishment that are cruel and demeaning. Violence against children is often the result of anger,
disregard of the child, pursuit of selfish pleasure (abuse) and the absence of protective measures.
Violence is often a mechanism of control. It results in physical and/or emotional hurt. It is a breach
of trust. Violated children feel unloved, unwanted and worthless (also shame and guilt). In a broken,
violence-ridden world the upbringing of children must exclude all violence and abuse.
Discipline forms an important part of the upbringing of a child and should therefore be determined
by love as well as rooted in the good example of the parents. Note the link between “discipline” and
“disciple”! Children learn with their eyes as well as with their ears. While some parents may say to
their child, “Do as I say and don’t do as I do!” the child may think: “What you do shouts so load, I
cannot hear what you say!”
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There is prophetic tradition in Islam that says;
Abu salamah narrated that Abu Hurayrah said,” The prophet of Allah (pbuh) kissed Hassan ibn Ali
(his grandson) while Aqra’ ibn Habbis was sitting nearby, Aqra’ said,” I have ten children and have
never kissed one of then,” The prophet (pbuh) looked at him and said,” Those who show no mercy
will be shown no mercy “(Bukhari, volume No 91)).
This tells that affection and mercy towards our children is a necessity if we wish for the same. The
prophet (pbuh) was also never known to hit a child. Instead a Muslim parent is encouraged from
disciplining until the child is seven years old. At seven years the child begins the age of tarbiyyah or
good upbringing. These are the years requiring firmness and instructions in educating the child and
teaching them good manners. Once the child reaches puberty, the parent’s role becomes one of
friend and mentor as the child is considered to be old enough to be responsible for their own
actions.
METHODS OF RELIGIOUS TRAINING / CORRECTIONS
Be a model to your children actions speak much louder than words, no amount of advice of a parent
to refrain from backbiting will work if the child often hears the parent backbiting himself. When the
child is exposed to hypocrisy, lying selfishness and other such qualities at home.
A child who grows up out home where time of prayers is maintained will grow up to do the same
although it may seem a huge task to be able to be a good model for the child, parents should know
that it is the only way they can really teach their children. No other ways is as effective.
Quran say as “ Oh you who believe! Save yourselves and your family from a five whose fuel are men
and stones” (Quran 66:6)
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Guiding Principle 9:
Our joy as adults:
To continuously affirm children, express our love for them and regularly celebrate their
growth.
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Qur’anic Texts: Quran 16:72
Introduction
“Allah created men and women to complement each other and assisit each other, “And
Allah has made for you Azwaj (mates or wives) of your own kind, and has made for you,
from your wives, sons and grandsons, and has bestowed on you good provision. Do they
then believe in false deities and deny the favor of Allah (by not worshipping Allah
alone).” (Quran 16:72)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “(God) has revealed to me
that you should adopt humility so that no one oppresses another.” Riyadh-usSalaheen:1589
This Hadith is a clear example of how we can treat our children. It is through
humility that we can celebrate our children.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “A believer may achieve the
status of one who regularly fasts (for religious reasons) during the day and
spends the night in prayer, through his good manners.” Riyadh-usSalaheen:629
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Seven kinds of people will
be sheltered under the shade of God on the Day of Judgment…They are: a just
ruler, a young man who passed his youth in the worship and service of others
for the sake of God…a man who is invited to sin…but declines, saying ‘I fear
God’…one who spends his charity in secret, without making a show…and one
who remembers God in solitude so that his eyes overflow.” Riyadh-usSalaheen:376
“Love for other people what you love for yourself.”Hadith
Qur’anic Text: Qura’n 16:72
CHILDREN AS BLESSING AND LOVE IN ISLAMIC TEACHING
Islam care about childhood and Muslims regard children as gifts /trust from Allah (SW) parents will
be held responsible for this trust on the day of judgment. Hence Islam pays particular attention to
rights of children and to the proper manner to raise them so that they will be equipped to face the
difficulties of life. All these principles were mentioned in Noble Quran and Hadith that care about
the rights of child even before he or she is born. Before getting married a man should choose the
best possible woman to be his children’s mother.
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ISLAMIC CONCEPT ON LOVE OF CHILDREN
Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) was very kind children and loved them
very much. He used to carry them on his shoulders. The children would become very happy and
laugh. Messenger of Allah would become happy at the pure happiness and laughter of the children
and smile would appear on his face.
Parents are obligated not only to see to their religious training proper education but also training in
sports and self defense of their children. In addition they must not show preference of sons and
suppression or negligence of daughters.
Messenger of Allah says” observe justice in dealing with your children I the same manner in which
you except them to observe justice in being kind and good to you”
In another Hadith the prophet (s.a.w) said “ whoever goes to the bazaar and purchase a present for
the members of his family and brings it to them is like one who spends on the needy. However he
should prefer daughters to sons because whoever pleases his daughter is like one who frees a slave
fro among the descendants of prophet Ismail(AS) The messenger of Allah says: “ The parents are
responsible with regard to their children in the same manner in which the children are responsible
with regard to their parents,”
CHILDREN AS BLESSING NOT BURDEN
Allah (SW) says in Noble Quran” kill not your for fear of want. We shall provide sustenance for them
as for you. Verily the killing of them is great sin” Quran(17:31) Once a companion sahabi submitted
to the messenger of Allah” O messenger of Allah which is the greatest sin? The prophet said”
polytheism the companion asked again and what next? The messenger said disobedient to parents.”
The companion submitted for the third time and which sin is the greatest next to it The messenger
said” To kill your children fearing that they will share your sustenance”.
CHILD GROWTH AND UPBRINGING IN ISLAM
Children are trust (amana)from Allah (S.W) and it is the responsibility of the parent to upbring the
children in Islamic environment and fed them well the messenger of Allah (saw) said “virtuous child
is a fragrant flower from the flowers of heaven “.
The prophet (saw) insisted children to learn swimming and shooting this is because it among the
tarbia and upbringing of children . Imam Ali son of Abu Talib Said who helps his child towards
righteousness by being good to him, appealing to him, teachings him knowledge and training him.
Children are easily influenced by their surroundings it is extremely difficult to expose our children to
an ideal Islamic environment because it is being influenced by the media, friends and others with
television , radio, internet and forms of media mostly touting in Islamic values it is up to parents and
adults close to the children to set the correct
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Key Discussion Points
1. Read Quran 2:83,215. Why does Allah formulate it this way and how should we understand
it?
2. Read the verses on Ibrahim and His sons relationship . What can we learn about the Father
– Son relationship in the verses? Are there implications for our parent – child relationships?
3. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read through one of the mentioned verses. Each
group can report back (in one or two sentences) what they have found about parent–child
relationships as well as relationships between children.
Conclusion
The perfect example of a parent – child relationship is the relationship between Prophet Ibrahim and
his sons and Prophet Muhammad and his daughter Fatima.
In the Qur’an Allah unambiguously warns parents to be careful in their relationships with their
children.
The African Report on Child Wellbeing includes the following in their definition of child wellbeing:
children being secure, healthy and happy; positive personal and social relationships; feeling safe,
secure and respected; being given a voice and being heard.
Through their daily interaction with their children as well as regular celebrations (e g birthdays)
parents should demonstrate their love and affection to their children. A child needs regular hugs,
praises and affirmation just as he or she needs regular food. Parents can do that only if they spend
time with their children. Affirmation need not be dishonest, but should focus on the positive
qualities and special attributes of that child (for example, you have a lovely smile!). Even failure can
be an opportunity to help the child to learn from it and move on in a positive way. Children will
recognise approval or dislike in their parent’s eyes. Children need to know their parents are proud
of them.
Jamaat cannot afford to only respond reactively to all the dangers children face in society. They need
to be proactive. One of the ways to do this is to positively affirm children in what is good and right
and to build their resilience against negative influences. In this way teenage pregnancy becomes the
community issue that it actually is. Positive steps against female infanticide will include public
celebrations of the birth of a girl (no less than that of a boy) as well as regular public celebrations
and affirmation of girl- and womanhood.
Adults show respect to children when they pay attention to them. One of the greatest gifts a parent
or an adult can give a child is to believe in him/ her. “Children need love, especially when they do
not deserve it” (H S Hubert).
Children should learn to affirm themselves. They should develop a healthy self-esteem. They need to
know about the real dangers in the world and be able to say, in situations like peer pressure, sexual
or physical abuse: “It’s my body and I want you to respect it,” and “The answer is no and I don’t
need a reason.”
We should never underestimate the power of our words. With our words we can deeply hurt a
child or make a child happy. Regular degrading and humiliating messages can crush a child’s spirit and
become self-fulfilling. Affirmations are positive statements about who a child is and who that child
can become.
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Love for the children
A lesson from the prophets’ life:
One day the prophet was sitting with his companions when he saw a young child in the group.
Having a great love for children he called him and sat him on his lap .The people around him
watched as the prophet (saw) gave his attention to the child. Suddenly the boy over –owe and
perhaps urinated on the lap of the prophet (saw) Embraced, the father spraying forward,” What
have you done, you silly boy” he shouted his arm shoved forward to grails the child away from the
prophet (saw) his red faced showing his anger fear and confusion showed in the face of the child.
The prophet restrained the man, and gently hugged the child to him,” Don’t’ worry” he told the
over-zealous father, “ this is not a big issue my clothes can be washed but be careful with how you
treat the child “ he continued what can restore his self esteem after you have dealt with him in
public like this?”,
Teach the children to pray by informing to start the prayer at early age. Let them pretend to make
prayer invite them to pray alongside and join the family
Relate stories
Children are especially fascinated by stories; they can become absorbed in a story without realizing
that they are learning some lessons.
Questions and Answers
Children ask a lot of questions sometimes parents do not have the answers and must admit that
they need look it up. But it is unfair to ignore the questions or dismiss them as un important the
more they ask the more they will learn
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Guiding Principle 10:
Our Fellowship as Followers of Prophet Muhammad(PBUH):
To mercifully accept people and embrace them with the love of Allah.
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Qur’anic Texts: Quran 3:31,3:159,21:107
Introduction
Allah mentions in the Holy Qur’an that He sent Prophet Muhammad to be Mercy to His
Creation(Quran 3:164). He commended him for dealing gently with humanity(Qur’an 3:159)
Qur’anic Text:
CHILD GROWTH AND UPBRINGING IN ISLAM
Children are trust (amana)from Allah (S.W) and it is the responsibility of the parent to upbring the
children in Islamic environment and feed them well the messenger of Allah (saw) said “virtuous child
is a fragrant flower from the flowers of heaven. “(Hadith)
Children are easily influenced by their surroundings it is extremely difficult to expose our children to
an ideal Islamic environment because it is being influenced by the media, friends and others with
television , radio, internet and forms of media mostly touting in Islamic values it is up to parents and
adults close to the children to set the correct
HOW TO RAISE CHILDREN IN ISLAMIC VALUES
Teaching them importance’s of worshipping Allah
Treating the children kindly kindness begets kindness.
Teaching them examples of Muslim heroes instead of footballers
Praise children for doing the right things.
Make them fell important consult them in family matters etc
Don’t spoil them by giving everything they demand
Pray with them involve them in acts of worship when they are young.
Prophet muhamad was reported as saying be fair and just in terms of the gifts you offer your
children if I was to give preference to any (gender over the other) I would have preferred female
over males (in terms of giving gifts) children have the right to education as saying attribute to
Muhammad relates.
“A father gives his child nothing better than a good education
Hadith collected by tirmidhi and Al- Bayhaqi
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TIPS TO RAISING GREAT CHILDREN
Children are easily influenced by their surroundings These days it is extremely difficult to expose our
children to an ideal Islamic environments given the influence from media, friends and even other
members of the family with television, radio internet and forms of media mostly touting in Islamic
values it is up to parents and adults close to the to set the correct example
Here are some tips you may want to follow in helping your children grow up with Islamic values
Start by teaching them the importance of worshipping only Allah
The best thing any Muslim parent could ever teach their children is to emphasize from the day they
can comprehend that Allah (swt) is one and no one is worthy of worship except Allah (swt) this is
fundamental message of our prophet may Allah peace and blessings be upon him and it is our key to
paradise
Treat them kindly kindness begets kindness if we were kind to our children they in turn would show
kindness to others our prophet (may Allah peace and blessings upon him) was the best example in
being kind to children .
Teach them examples of Muslim heroes
Let children sit with adults it is preferable for children to be among adults especially when listening
to Islamic lectures
Make them feel important
Go out as a family
Praise them praise is a powerful tool with children especially in front of others children feel a sense
of pride when their parents praise them and will be keen to perform other good deeds .However
praise must be limited to Islamic deeds and needs of moral value
Avoid humiliation similarly do not humiliate them in front of others
Sports
Responsibility
Don’t spoil them
Pray with them
Emphasize halal it is not always good to say this is haraam “while you must educate them on haraam
things Islam is full of halaal and tell your children to thank Allah (sw) for the bounties he has
bestowed on them not just for food and clothes tell them to be thankful for having eyes that see,
ears that hears arms and legs and the ultimate blessing Islam in their hearts.
Set an example as parent you are the best example the children can have.
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If you talk to your parents rudely, expect your children to do the same to you if you are
disrespectful to others your children will follow too. Islam is filled with divine advice on the best
ways to bring up your children, That make it an obligation upon parents to be good Muslims so
their children will try to emulate them. If you don’t take seriously neither will your children .
It goes back to our third point which is to give them Islamic heroes
As a parent you should be their number one hero.
CONCLUSION
Islam cares about childhood and Muslim regard . children as gifts /trust from Allah (swt). Therefore it
is upon parents to be responsible for well being of their children even if it is to choose the other
from the respectable and honorable family in terms of religious background and behavior to
enhance correct up bringing of the children at home environment.
In conclusion Islam protects the rights of children in their entire life. It is the responsibility of the
parents to up bring their children in conducive environment so that he/she be an upright Muslim. It
is also important to show the children love because it is the fundamental right. So it is very
importance to take care of children in the right way.
Key Discussion Points
1. Read Qur’an 2:186 and study Allah’s advice to Muslims when they want to pray to Him. Pay
attention to who should be doing something, what should be done as well as in what
manner it should be done. Explore the implications of this for your congregation and
family.
2. Read Qur’an 5:2 and discuss what it means to “help one another in righteousness and
piety”? How can this principle be applied when reconciling people?
3.
How can this verse (Qur’an 5:2) help us when forgiveness and reconciliation is needed in a
family or congregation?
4. Divide in smaller groups and let each group read read through one of the following: Qur’an
5:2, Qur’an 2:186
3:159,164 Each group can report back (in one or two sentences)
what they have found that endorses forgiveness and reconciliation.
Conclusion
We love to utter “Astaghfirullah ie I ask forgiveness from Allah, but when we are suddenly
confronted by the horrible sin of someone near to us or we realise how repulsive our own sin
actually is, we forget that Allah’s forgiveness is amazing. It is so easy to default to thoughts and
feelings of condemnation and accusation (when the other person has sinned) or guilt and shame
(when we have sinned).
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Everyone of us is a sinner but the best of the sinners is the one who ask forgiveness from
Allah(Hadith). We all are in daily need of God’s forgiveness. And we also have to forgive one
another as well as ourselves.
True brotherhood needs healthy relationships between Muslims. To be a true believer means to be
reconciled with God and with your brothers and sisters. The burdens of blaming and guilt will
suffocate our brotherhood and prevent spiritual growth.
Therefore, when someone has sinned, or when sin of a time long past becomes known, it is
necessary to restore him/ her in Allah as well as to restore the brotherhood. When Muslims react
mercilessly, relationships will be further damaged and the brotherhood will deteriorate. It may also
have a lasting damaging effect on everyone involved.
Exploring different issues of child protection may confront us with personal and difficult questions.
What happened to me as a child? How did I experience my own childhood? Do I need to forgive my
parents?
What kind of parent was I (am I) to my children? Did I harm them directly or indirectly? Was I an
accomplice in hurting and harming a child? Have I done something to a child that hurt and harmed
the child?
We cannot afford to ignore these questions or to handle them lightly.
Muslims who have sinned need restoration and our compassionate concern to strengthen them to
obey God in future. They will be encouraged when we walk alongside them to help them with their
troubles.
Someone who has been sinned against likewise needs restoration and our compassionate support to
help him/ her find that amazing grace to forgive and leave it in God’s hands.
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