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Sociology 1201: Week
Six
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Sociology of sex
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How do we learn about sex in the United States?
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Families: reality or an idealized version
Schools: the facts but often not the meanings
Church
Mass Media: commercialization of sex
Peers and lovers
Sex and the double standard
 The sexual revolution: when, why, where, what?
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How do sociologists study sex?
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Survey Research
– 1st efforts: the Kinsey Reports
– Lauman et. al: The Social Organization of
Sexuality 1992 N=3,432 Adults
– National Survey of Family Growth: Sexual
Behavior and Selected Health Measures 1995
N=12,571 Ages 15-44
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Lauman et al: The Social
Organization of Sexuality
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Bogle, Hooking Up, 2008
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A. “During my own college career in the early 1990s, hooking up seemed to
be at the center of the social scene.”
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B. 2000: as a graduate student, she found herself trying to explain hooking
up to an older faculty member with two sons soon to enter college. He said:
“Why don’t you do a study of that?” and it became her Ph.D. thesis
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1. Interviews with 76 people, at two colleges on the East Coast (one a large state university,
one a small Catholic institution). Interviewed 76 people from 2001 to 2006, 34 men and 42
women, 51 undegraduates and 25 alumni, 95% white, some in fraternities and sororities,
some who neither drank nor attended parties.
2. More informally, she has spoiken to hundreds of college students about these issues and
to many twenty-something singles.
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C. “Ultimately I found that one of the most useful ways of comparing
today’s hooking-up culture with the dating era is to look at each as a
script.”
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Script for the dating era
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Dating, at least formally, controlled by men; they did the
inviting; they paid; and there was a sexual double
standard.
Sexual experience a status marker for men.
An elaborate code, learned informally: “necking” and
“petting,” above the waist and below the waist
Women expected to apply the brakes? “Why would he
marry you when he’s already sleeping with you?”
Only 17% of baby boom brides had sex with someone
besides their husband before marriage, and if you got
pregnant, marriage was expected (though it didn’t
always happen, of course)
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Script for hooking up
Bogle: “Define hooking up”
 Tony, quote, p. 24; Lisa, p. 26
 B: “Both men and women may have
reason to be intentionally vague.” Leaves
men free to exaggerate and women to
minimize.
 How it happens: Jack, p. 30; Lisa, p. 31,
Bogle, p. 33; Kevin, p. 34; Emily, p. 35,
Max p. 36.
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Why is Everyone Afraid of Sex?
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Discussion questions from reading by
Pepper Schwartz, Reading 12 in “Families
as they Really Are.”
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Hooking Up Script II: What
Happens Next?
No strings attached? (p. 40)
 The least likely outcome (p. 42)
 Rebecca, p. 42-3
 “Several women indicated that knowing
nothing might come of a hookup was
something they learned over time… the
hard way.”
 Central role of alcohol
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Alternatives to hooking up?
“Students who do not participate in the
hookup culture on campus are on the
margins of the social scene and they know
it.” p. 69-71
 “Although some students were able to find
a relationship without hooking up, most
students see hooking up as the only game
in town.”
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Still a double standard?
“One thing that has not changed with the
shift to hooking up is that men continue to
hold most of the power, as they did in the
dating era…”
 Quote, p. 173
 Waller, 1930s study at Penn State,
“principle of least interest”
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Orgasm in colllege hookups and
relationships
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Discussion questions from reading 31,
Families as they Really Are
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After college
“After college, the men and women I
interviewed became increasingly focused
on finding a girlfriend/boyfriend, and in
order to do so most virtually abandoned
hooking up in favor of traditional dating.”
 Elizabeth (p. 130): “It’s kind of funny
because no one has really ever asked me
out during college….”
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“How is the hookup scene now
compared to college?
Matthew: “Now it’s more date
oriented…(p. 134
 KB: “Do you even try for a hookup and it
doesn’t work, or don’t you even try?
 Matthew: “I would have to say I don’t
even try.
 KB: “So if you are interested in
someone…” “I ask them for a date.”
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Why the change?
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“A major factor …is the change in
relationship goals for both men and
women…. They are increasingly looking
for relationships with marriage potential.”
(p. 137)
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Very traditional dating script
“According to alumni, the man
generally…initiated the date by first asking
for the phone number and then following
up with a phone call to ask for a date.”
 Will: “I would say 75 to 80 percent of the
time, the girl wants the guy to call; the
girls wants the ball to be in the guy’s
court”
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Who pays?
KB: “So, you call and ask them out to
dinner. Then do you drive, do you pay,
how does that work?”
 Jake: “I am old fashioned. I take care of it
all.” (p. 140)
 KB: “After college, men seem to interact
with the opposite sex as one might expect
their grandfathers to have done.” Very
much NOT “Sex in the City.”
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Sex and dating
KB: “Suddenly the same people who
hooked up in college now believe men and
women should find out more about each
other before anything sexual happens.”
 Carol: p. 142
 KB: “By senior year many women had
figured out that the more they liked
someone and the more they wanted a
relationship, the less they should do
sexually.”
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Revisiting the double standard
KB: “The change, with a dating script, to
more conservative sexual norms is
ironic…” p. 145
 Matthew: “I would never , never date a
girl I banged on the first date. “
The men I talked with were also concerned
about their date’s sexual history…
Jake, Matthew.. Pp. 149-150
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