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Chapter 7 “Building Effective Interpersonal Relationships” 1 Section 1 “Understanding Interpersonal Relationships” 2 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts 3 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Management/employees 4 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Management/employees 1. Communication with upper-management and employees may be indirect 2. Communication between mid and lower level is more direct, immediate and ongoing 5 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Management/employees 3. Importance Establishes positive climate Boosts morale Increases productivity and satisfaction 6 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Management/employees 4. Purpose Invites participation, suggestions, constructive criticism and questions Creates climate of mutual ownership Makes business operate more successfully 7 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Employees/other employees 8 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Employees/other employees 1. Each has designated role 2. Tension and competition can create barriers to communication 3. Must view self as valued and equal 4. Appreciate others contributions 5. Work together to accomplish goals 9 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Employee/other employees 5. Importance So important companies may sponsor social events to develop closer, positive relationships 10 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Employee/other employees 6. Purpose Creates better understanding More likely to cooperate and communicate productively Adds enjoyment to job Better workers 11 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Employee/public 12 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Employee/public 1. Affect business Dress conveys attitude, friendliness, professionalism, etc. 13 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Employee/public 2. Importance Positive relationship increases repeat business Open communication reduces misunderstandings and creates faster solutions Communication by customer can create greater service by employee 14 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Professional Relationships Employee/public 3. Purpose Creates goodwill and loyalty Better work; less turn over Loyalty of customers Good word of mouth creates more business Repeat customer = better bottom line 15 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships Leadership/membership 16 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships Leadership/membership 1. Work stays on track; goals accomplished 2. Easier to share ideas and solve problems 3. Builds cohesiveness 17 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships Leadership/membership 4. Importance Without ties, difficult to work as group Lack of one-to-one can create lack of interest, direction, low morale, ineffectiveness 18 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships Leadership/membership 5. Purpose Build sense of interdependence and facilitate achievement of goals Respect for leadership is essential for accomplishments 19 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships member/member 20 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships member/member 1. Common qualities provide base for relationships 2. Importance Reach goals and advance causes Sponsor events to promote goodwill between members Most events are “icebreakers” 21 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships member/member 3. Purpose Set aside personal interest and focus on group goal Individual benefit is a side effect Main purpose is group cohesiveness 22 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships member/public 23 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships member/public 1. Image plays large role in group success 2. Each member is ambassador to public perception 3. Communication should be positive Say something good or say nothing at all 24 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships member/public 4. Importance Goodwill of public can generate funding or support Can promote cooperation to eliminate barriers Allows community input regarding work Organizations can provide special services for the public 25 Relationships in Professional and Social Contexts Types of Social Relationships member/public 5. Purpose Create goodwill and support goals Behavior and communication skills can shape overall opinion of organization Relationship with public plays large part of success or failure of organization 26 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication 27 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Openness 28 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Openness Willing to share ideas and feeling appropriately to others Willing to listen carefully and consider ideas and feeling of others Willing to reflect on effectiveness of communication and adapt to be more productive 29 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Openness Use “I” messages to demonstrate ownership of thoughts and ideas 1. Use active listening and provide feedback to show interest in others ideas 2. Use intrapersonal and interpersonal perception checks 3. Carefully reflect on message so you can adapt and make appropriate decisions 30 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Empathy 31 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Empathy Involves feeling “with” rather than “for” someone When you can understand someone’s ideas and feelings your relationship is more likely to be harmonious and productive Use appropriate facial expressions, eye contact and posture to demonstrate interest Respect other’s feeling of personal space and physical contact 32 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Empathy Use tentative but supportive language to show you don’t know all the answers but are willing to find them Use perception checks and descriptive language to help the other person express exactly what he is feeling Listen without judging the feelings as right or wrong 33 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Equality 34 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Equality Competent communicators view others as equals It embraces personal and cultural differences Has equal respect, rights, opportunities and dignity regardless of status or ability 35 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Equality Lays foundation for “win-win” situation 1. Make sure V and NV express respect, courtesy and tact 2. Avoid evaluative or judgmental language 3. Demonstrate willingness to listen without interrupting or responding with judgmental statements 36 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Equality Lays foundation for “win-win” situation 4. Use feed-forward statements to personalize messages 5. Use perception checks to show interest and clarify understanding 37 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Supportiveness 38 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Supportiveness Care for and respect others Encourage and help others reach goals Build trust and loyalty 39 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Supportiveness Contagious- when you support others, it’s more likely to be returned 1. Use descriptive not evaluative language 2. Speak in terms of possibilities, not certainties 3. Avoid pressing and negative strategies such as “you”, “why” questions, label or names 40 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Supportiveness Contagious- when you support others, it’s more likely to be returned 4. Be an active attentive listener 5. Give appropriate NV feedback 6. Use perception checks to show interest and clarify understanding 41 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Positiveness 42 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Positiveness Based on positive attitudes and communication that moves relationships and tasks toward mutually rewarding results Marked by optimism, confidence that you and others can accomplish goals 43 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Positiveness Encourages others through your enthusiasm Tends to see element of hope or humor in even the most difficult situations Focuses on solutions more than problems 44 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Positiveness Provides constructive criticism and well deserved praise 1. Adjust attitudes to look at bright side 2. Expect best from yourself and others 3. Be generous with sincere compliments and praise 4. Be active listener with true concern 45 Characteristics of Productive Interpersonal Communication Positiveness Provide constructive criticism and well deserved praise 5. Uses NV to show interest and pleasant frame of mind 6. Provide feedback that encourages and gives sense of hope 46 Integrating Interpersonal Skill with Task Skill 47 Integrating Interpersonal Skill with Task Skill 1. 2. Clarity, efficiency, and accuracy are necessary to carry out tasks effectively Integrate with interpersonal skills Balance provides more personal satisfaction than task skills alone 48 Section 2 “Personal Style in Interpersonal Relationships” 49 Dominant 50 Dominant 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 15 % of population Behaviors Fast paced/task oriented Considered “mover/shaker” – gets things done Will do whatever is necessary to overcome obstacles Skilled at providing direction to others Sought as leaders Will delegate to those deemed competent 51 Dominant 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Speaks Direct and to the point Can be blunt and critical Can be sarcastic Gives instruction for big picture but omits details to be accomplished before project can begin Inspires others but may be overly optimistic 52 Dominant Speaks 6. Doesn’t hide accomplishments and may be self-centered 7. Will escalate conflict 8. Can be manipulative to get results 9. Will close off communication when highly stressed 10. Sometimes needs to be confronted to get attention 11. You may have to push back to get respect 53 Dominant 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Listens Not patient; seldom seeks opinions Wants brief answers Wants bottom line first – reasons second Asks if they want more detail Is more interested in task information than people issues 54 Dominant 1. 2. 3. 4. How to speak to dominates Provide brief, direct, to-the-point answers Ask “what” not “how” questions Stick to business; outline possibilities to get results, solve problems or be in charge Stress logic of ideas or approaches 55 Dominant 5. 6. 7. How to talk to dominate Agree with facts or ideas, not person Provide facts, figures about probability of success or effectiveness of options Show how they will reach goals 56 Influencing 57 Influencing 15% of population Behaviors 1. Fast paced/people oriented 2. Has an interactor style 3. Tends to be extroverted, enthusiastic, outgoing, spontaneous and optimistic 4. Appear stylish 58 Influencing 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Behaviors Likes stimulating conversation Has difficulty with routine tasks Gets results by influencing and persuading Valued and sought for fun-loving attitude Enjoys recognition of achievements 59 Influencing 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Speaks Friendly; initiates conversation Spontaneous and often humorous Makes positive, enthusiastic remarks Physically expressive with face, tone and gestures Often promises more than can be delivered 60 Influencing 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Speaks Uses excuses Influences and persuades through verbal praise Makes judgments intuitively instead of analyzing data Physical communicator – shakes hands, hugs, pats shoulders Need to verbally express at length 61 Influencing 1. 2. 3. 4. Listens Responsive Encouraging V and NV Interrupts to compare experiences, not dominate Very empathic due to high degree of emotionality 62 Influencing 5. 6. 7. Listens Hears only what he wants May not hear negatives Reacts too quickly to speaker’s first words 63 Influencing 1. 2. 3. 4. How to speak to an influencing Be a good listener Provide chances for verbalizing about ideas, people or intuitions Speak in democratic terms – “we” not “I’m the boss; do as I say” Give big picture without getting bogged down with detail- put details in writing 64 Influencing How to speak to influencing Provide testimonials Provide extra incentives – likes to be recognized as a leader Lead step-by-step to conclusions – tend to jump and not be analytical Use small talk before getting down to business 5. 6. 7. 8. 65 Influencing 9. 10. 11. 12. How to speak to influencing Be VERY realistic – he doesn’t need support from you Give clear instruction – get firm commitment in writing or through handshake Use confrontation as last resortpersuasion and encouragement work better Accept failures and encourage – don’t punish 66 Steady 67 Steady 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 35% of population Behaviors Slow paced – both people/task oriented Typically cooperative/efficient Can be counted on to get a job done Fairly reserved Pays attention to detail Loves structure 68 Steady 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. Behaviors Very stable Good team player but pessimistic Appears casual or conforming Reaches objectives through cooperation Tends to have warm personality and calming effect on others 69 Steady 1. 2. 3. 4. Speaks Usually not initiator of conversations or new ideas Likes stability of groups – uses “we” or “us” Gives practical advice Asks “how” not “when” or “if” questions – uncomfortable initiating decisions 70 Steady 5. 6. 7. 8. Speaks Thinks things over Faithful/loyal – sometimes to a fault May not communicate well under stress – keeps thoughts and feelings to self – becomes silent or non-involved Will not attack- suppresses anger but holds grudges 71 Steady 9. 10. 11. 12. Speaks Stores up grievances; ultimately making him suspicious of others Can overuse kindness when assertiveness is more effective Often doesn’t say “no” when needed Presents thought out, step-by-step, orderly plans 72 Steady 13. 14. 15. Speaks Can be blunt when disagreeing or defending self Withholds expression of true feelings; rarely expresses much enthusiasm Tends to think in term of either/or; rarely thinks to compromise 73 Steady 1. 2. 3. Listens Patient empathic listener due to people involvement Demands honesty and openness Tends to withhold evaluative feedback; has excellent insight but won’t share unless asked 74 Steady 4. 5. 6. Listens Creates open-door atmosphere in which sharing work and family issues is acceptable Controls emotional expression so speaker feels accepted Can be wonderful conversationalist because he is wonderful listener 75 Steady 1. 2. 3. 4. How to speak to a steady Provide a sincere, personable, agreeable environment Show sincere interest in person, particularly in his family Ask “how” questions to get opinions Draw out goals systematically 76 Steady 5. 6. 7. 8. How to speak to a steady Present new ideas or departure from status quo in non-threatening manner and show the benefits Clearly define goals in new plans and point out how he fits into those plans Provide personal assurance and reassurance Give specific, constant appreciation 77 Steady 9. 10. 11. 12. How to speak to a steady Refrain from aggression, ultimatums and conflict Always use logical, systematic rationales when explaining or asking for cooperation Give time to process and make decisions Be loyal and supportive 78 Conscientious 79 Conscientious 1. 2. 3. 4. 35 % of population Behaviors Slow paced/task oriented Highly analytical perfectionists who love detail Tend to be introverted and guarded in relationships Avoid risk-taking at all costs 80 Conscientious 5. 6. 7. 8. Behaviors Seeks safety of rules and regulations Appears formal and conservative Follows rules/meets deadlines – expects others to do the same Gets results from working within guidelines or structure to ensure quality and accuracy 81 Conscientious 9. 10. Behaviors Often prefers to work alone rather than in groups Sought for advice about details and routine 82 Conscientious 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Speaks Passes the buck if asked for answers Yields a position to avoid controversy Defensive when threatened Exact about details; may talk at length about details that seem unimportant to others Feels quality is extremely important 83 Conscientious 6. 7. 8. Speaks Asks MANY, MANY detailed questions to clarify others’ positions Slow to respond due to processing ALL information Extremely critical of own work and highly critical of others not meeting expectations 84 Conscientious 9. 10. 11. Speaks Influences by collecting and organizing factual data and logical presentations Seldom admits true emotional reactions and will withhold insights and opinions until feels it safe to share Seldom gives positive feedback or appreciation to others 85 Conscientious 12. 13. 14. 15. Speaks Has a special talent for organizing and communicating instructs correctly Follows rules and fulfills commitments Will seek opinions to argue or move on to seek someone else’s opinion Very cautious about expressing opinions or making decisions until all data has been checked and rechecked 86 Conscientious 16. 17. 18. Speaks Enjoys intellectual argument as a way of exercising reasoning ability Seems to take little initiative or contribute few ideas Fears criticism and may keep to self to feel protected 87 Conscientious 1. 2. 3. Listens Attentive, intuitive listener; sensitive to feelings of speaker Misses main point and get off on tangents Asks MANY, MANY questions, which at times may feel like attacks 88 Conscientious 4. 5. Listens Needs to hear the same thing repeatedly, reprocess the same info and ask the same questions Takes criticism or comments personally although not aimed directly at him 89 Conscientious 1. 2. 3. How to speak to a conscientious Take time to prepare a logical case in advance Provide straight pros and cons of ideas and support ideas with accurate data Provide exact job description with precise explanation of how each fits into the big picture 90 Conscientious 4. 5. 6. 7. How to speak to a conscientious Provide reassurance of no surprises Provide step-by-step approach to goal Be specific if agreeing; disagree with facts not person Prepare to provide MANY explanations and answer “how” and “if” questions in a patient manner 91 Conscientious 8. 9. 10. 11. How to speak to a conscientious Encourage V independence as well as job independence Provide MANY assurances that you value quality and accuracy Refrain from antagonistic responses that breed withdrawal and avoidance Offer much reassurance and support 92 Analyzing Style to Prevent Interpersonal Conflict Adapt own behavior slightly from relationship to relationship Realize that a person’s communication style is his natural orientation toward getting work done; it has nothing to do with his perception of you Less likely to clash if you realize that four styles are necessary to get work done 93 Analyzing Style to Prevent Interpersonal Conflict “D”s get us going and keep us on task “I”s provides optimism, energy and humor to create positive creative atmosphere “S”s calm us down and get us to slow down so we can do the job right “C”s keep us on task and in line with the rules 94 1. Adventurous Polished Stable 95 2. Receptive Determined Enthusiastic 96 3. Steady Exacting original 97 4. Poised Patient Orderly 98 5. Forceful Persuasive Settled 99 6. Cautious Bold Outgoing 100 7. Persistent Cooperative Brave 101 8. Attractive Controlled Correct 102 9. Competitive Diplomatic Accommodating 103 10. Careful Decisive Popular 104 11. Dependable Accurate Inventive 105 12. Convincing Consistent Open-minded 106 13. Positive Cordial Even-tempered 107 14. Conservative Eager Entertaining 108 15. Amiable Systematic Self-reliant 109 16. Sociable Unhurried Precise 110