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Friendships
Chapter 6.2
Importance of Friendships
• Friendship is a relationship based on mutual
trust, acceptance, and common interests or
values.
• People look to their friends for honest
reactions, encouragement during bad times,
and understanding when they make mistakes.
• Interacting with others helps you to build selfesteem and to learn about yourself.
Types of Friendships
• Casual friendships occur when people go to the
same school, live in the same neighborhood, or
have interests in common.
• Close friendships are between people who share
similar goals, values, or interests.
• People look for 4 qualities in a close friend:
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Loyalty
Honesty
Empathy
Reliability
Friends of the Opposite Sex
• Friends of the opposite sex are developed more
easily now than before because of gender roles.
• Gender roles are the behaviors and attitudes that
are socially accepted as either masculine or
feminine.
• Having friends of the opposite sex allows that
person to feel comfortable with members of the
opposite sex and to develop fully as a person.
Problems in Friendships
• Some possible problems in friendships are:
– Envy
– Jealousy
– Cruelty
– Cliques
Envy and Jealousy
• Envy can occur when one person has
something that the other person desires.
• Jealousy can occur when a “best” friend wants
to develop more close friendships and the first
friend feels left out.
Cruelty
• Sometimes a friend may be cruel to you when
you have done nothing wrong. This could be
because they are having problems of their
own.
• If your friend is being cruel to you, use
effective communication skills to talk to your
friend about the situation.
• Show your concern about the relationship and
your desire to help the situation.
Cliques
• A clique is a narrow, exclusive, group of
people with similar backgrounds or interests.
• Cliques often discourage members from
thinking and acting independently
• Peer pressure- a need to conform to the
expectations of friends.
• This can be a positive or negative force.
Responsible Relationships
Chapter 6.3
Physical Attraction and Dating
• Infatuation is when there are intense feelings
of attraction toward another person.
• By dating someone, you can learn a lot about
his or her interests, personality, abilities, and
values.
Going Out as a Group
• Dating often grows out of group activities.
• A lot can be learned about a person when
they are put into a group situation.
• This also gives people a chance to learn more
about you as well.
Going Out as Couples
• During group activities, you may discover that
you enjoy being with a certain friend more-so
than others.
• If you are attracted to this person, it may lead
to going out on a date either on your own or
with other couples.
Steady Dating
• If after a few dates the couple decides not to
date others and to see each other on a regular
basis, they are considered to steady dating or
“going steady.”
• Steady dating can have drawbacks such as:
– Limiting chances to meet other people you may
like
– Feeling pressured to make decisions about sexual
intimacy before you are ready.
Violence in Dating
• Dating violence is a pattern of emotional,
physical, or sexual abuse that occurs in a
dating relationship.
• One partner may use abuse to gain control of
the other partner.
The Cycle of Violence
• Page 150 Figure 9- The Cycle of Violence
– Tension-Building Stage
– A Violent Episode
– A Calm or “Honeymoon” Stage
Warning Signs of Abuse
• Your date is jealous when you talk to others or
makes fun of you in front of others.
• Your makes all of the decisions or controls
what you do.
• Your date has a history of bad relationships.
• You feel isolated from friends and family.
• You feel less confident, worry about doing or
saying the right thing, and change how you
feel to avoid confrontation.
Date Rape
• Date Rape is when rape occurs during a date.
• More than half of young women who are
raped know the person who raped them.
• The rapist may use a “date rape drug.”
• Rape does not occur to only women- it can
happen to men too!
Tips for Dating Safely
• Page 151 Figure 10
– Go out as a group.
– Let someone know where you are going.
– Avoid alcohol or other drugs.
– Have money to get home.
– In an emergency, call 911.
Ending the Abuse
• Step 1- Admitting the abuse exists
• Step 2- Realizing you are not to blame and
that you cannot change the abusers behavior.
• Step 3- You do not have to deal with it on your
own. Find support from somewhere:
– Friends, family, hotlines, counselors, teachers,
doctors, or social workers.