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Disciples making Disciples DCF Mentoring According to Homer's Odyssey, when King Odysseus went off to fight in the Trojan War,
he left his son Telemachus in the hands of a wise old man named Mentor. Mentor was
charged with the task of teaching the young man wisdom.
More than 2,000 years after Homer, a French scholar and theologian by the name of
François Fénelon adapted the story of Telemachus in a novel titled Télémaque. In it he
enlarged the character of Mentor. The word mentor soon came to mean "a wise and
responsible tutor"—an experienced person that advises, guides, teaches, inspires,
challenges, corrects, and serves as a model.
No matter whom you are or where you are at on your walk with Jesus, a mentor is a good
friend to have along the way.
We see in 2 Tim 2:1-2, where mentoring is described, “You then, my son, be strong in the
grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things you have heard me say in the presence of
many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others”
Here are a few examples of mentors: Timothy had Paul Mark had Barnabas Moses had
Jethro Joshua had Moses Elisha had Elijah Samuel had Saul King Jehoash had Elisha
Nebuchadnezzar had Daniel Ester had Mordecai The Apostles had Jesus Titus had Paul
“We all blossom in the presence of one who sees the good in us and who can coax the
best out of us” Desmond Tutu
DCF Definition of Mentoring; An ongoing intentional relationship that inspires, empowers
and challenges to be a Disciple of Jesus Christ.
• Ongoing; mentoring cannot be a one of event, the relationship may become lifelong.
Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of
adversity.
• Intentional; mentoring requires structure, goals and reflection. Proverbs 12:26 The
righteous choose their friends carefully,
• Inspiring; mentoring is about a can do solution focused approach to life and
ministry.
• Empowering; mentoring signposts practically as well as spiritually. Proverbs 13:20
NIV He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers
harms. ECC 4:10If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who
falls and has no one to help him up!
• Challenging; mentoring encourages to be better for the kingdom. Proverbs
27:6 Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another
Reflections
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Q..... Identify someone who has had a profound positive influence in your life.
Q..... Identify three characteristics about that person
What Mentoring at DCF is not;
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Coaching, which is short term and specific to an issue or project.
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Counselling, which focus on personal problems.
What a Mentor Does Not Look Like
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Insecure True security comes when you recognize that “God will supply every
need of yours according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19).
When struggling with feelings of insecurity, never forget God’s promise: “You will
keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
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Egotistic Rom 12:3 For fby the grace given to me I say to everyone among
you gnot to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with
sober judgment, heach according to ithe measure of faith that God has assigned.
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Blind to Potential “...the God who gives life to the dead and calls things that
are not as though they were” (Romans 4:17b).
What a Mentor Looks Like
Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.1 Cor 11:1
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They Affirm and inspire the vision and achievements of others
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They are humble and see the mentoring relationship as a means of mutual
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They are available, approachable and dependable.
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They are empathic and see objectively from another’s perspective
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They are non-judgemental of the past and focus on the future potential
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They are no over protective nor over possessive.
What a Mentor has to offer
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Spiritual Maturity bring your Spiritual Gifts and experience from your journey
Personal Resources from your knowledge, experience in life and skills
Reflections
Q..... Think of a time when you inspired, encouraged enabled someone to grow
Q .... What did you do that made a difference?
Four things a mentor needs to know before mentoring.
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Everyone Needs Encouragement;
Everyone needs feel Valued
Everyone has Got Motivation
Everyone follows the person before the Leader
Benefits of Mentoring
The Benefits of Mentoring for You the Mentor
• Generational Blessing passing on to the next generation of men and women
of God Exo 20:6 But I lavish unfailing love for a thousand generations on those who
love me and obey my commands.
• Personal Challenge to be in a spiritual condition to mentor Jer 30:21 Their
leader will be one of their own; their ruler will arise from among them. I will bring him
near and he will come close to me, for who is he who will devote himself to be close
to me?' declares the LORD.
• The blessing of being a blessing in helping another to be who they are called
to be Genesis 12:1-3 1The Lord and said to Abram, "Leave your country, your
people and your father's household and go to the land I will show you. 2"I will make
you into a great nation and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will
be a blessing. 3I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will
curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you." 2Cor 9-9-12
• Obedience to the command to make disciples.
The Benefits of Mentoring for the Mentee
• Development in character and ministry, they begin to grow up.
• Good Godly Relationship with Mentor, good company does not corrupt
• Exposure to more than they know or have experienced
• Clear purpose and fulfilment in life
The Benefits of Mentoring for DCF
• Inspired, cared for and motivated men and women of God
• Continued creation of a community were relationship is valued
• Disciples Disciples Disciples and not just decisions
What will be involved in becoming a Mentor at DCF
There will be one more session of training at which we will; Learn to Listen, Learn to
Question, Learn when and when not to speak, Learn not to Assume, Learn how to Learn,
Learn how to Scale, Learn how to Reflect, Learn how to Grow, Learn how to let Go, Learn
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how to structure a mentoring secession.
Tim Matthews will monitor and support Mentors to be paired with Mentees. The pairing
process can be on demand, encourage by Tim or developed out a relationship you
already have.