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A husband and wife have been slowly drifting away from one another. The husband ended up having an affair with a coworker and his wife cannot forgive him. While she cannot divorce him for financial reasons, she will not engage him as a wife any longer. Last time we finished by identifying what the problem was with the thinking of the wife and what her greatest hazards were with the way she was thinking. What did we conclude? 1 The cause of her heartache was that she was It is Be so sure reasonable to grasp to the focus satanic on the seduction sin of others and how when looking to her husband to validate her value, it hurts us,powerful but if we itdo, is we withstrengthen this hazard. the power of which she did because she did not make Jesus our own pain and bondage. It is only when we focus and His thoughts about her the center of her on the Lord in the pain that we are able to see the value. purpose that God brings through the sin of others andhusband the life and freedom that When her stepped out ofresults. the marriage, her value as a wife and a person was destroyed. Her greatest hazard is that she could focus on her husband’s failure rather than her own. She needs to see that God allowed the affair so that He could do a wonderful work in BOTH of them. 2 So she is, It ishere common – seething in her andto certainly It is because God allowed the sin of BOTH identify hurt, pushing him understandable, the wrong and to purify Philosboth Love their hearts. Both of away hoping butand NEVER them are functioning out of a love for self, and he will get itpure right profitable! agape love, with GodInsecurity operating from the center, is by being pushed Why? away. So out of the questionFrustratio with their current choices. what nLOVE = God Agape would God say SELF LOVE = god Emptiness BLAME 3 to her? He might say something like: "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, andALWAYS I will giveknow you rest." 11:28 1. You thereMatthew is something wrong with you if you see that your joy is gone – NO exceptions. 2. NEVER look at the failures of others if you see that your joy is gone no matter how tempting it might be, even if it is clear that someone else has in fact sinned. 3. If your joy is gone, come to Me, let Me clear your head and touch your heart and heal you. 4. Stay with Me at least until you are healed. 4 The I haven’t emptiness explained in self “sensuality” is due and absence “idolatry” God, yet. This always amazes me, but to thethe reason whyof people who Have isyou theever ONLY noticed internal how supply whenof people all things are Philos Love continue in this external search for internal necessary, internally good bankrupt, and pleasurable. they they move into When external there and isthe no So “sensuality” a problem when the things of satisfaction, isis because have not yet been internal sensory supply satisfaction? because self Dotoyou is god, know there that no other is? senses are given theInsecurity responsibility towhy fill burned severely enough drive them toisspiritual change. Frustratio Look place at they our to go chart but and to the see external iffill. youthey can world seefor why internal there needs that only God can Idolatry is anything When have lost enough, will come to theis nLOVE = God Agape satisfaction. Often internal the only bankruptcy. wherelose people other God that you giveplace the responsibility tofind fill Lord. than Sadly there are those who never enough SELF LOVE = god atmake least them the temporary illusion of satisfaction is in your needs. to despair of self. We should guard our Emptiness things substance sexual in BLAME thatabuse, hearts fromlike thefood, foolishness is so confident promiscuity or perversion, the self.recreational escape, unbridled spending… which NEVER satisfy but do destroy. 5 heresy is what people to like restructure I’m not talking wanton “God AEmbracing great example ofabout this would beheresy, ado father who never their religion toof make more palatable for the Philosit Love wants us to use drugs in our religion, and have touches a drop alcohol, will not utter certain Heresy is an attempted diversion that capitalizes on appetites of their flesh. It ismovies, like throwing aown bone to temple prostitutes.” I’m talking about adjusting truth “bad” words, never goes to won’t a TV To embrace a bunch of laws about things that you some point of law which is strictly kept so that other Him off your case for other things that toGod make itget palatable to our flesh; things that we don’t or to use the internet, but thinks nothing about really don’t care that much about anyway, so that Insecurity elements of truth may be ignored. Frustratio matter deeply to you. mind giving up so we can pursue the things we do screaming at and threatening his kids. The greatest you can turn away from loving your children, loving nLOVE = God Agape like. commandment isSELF to love God and to love others others and even loving your enemies with selfLOVE = god more thanagape self, but that is a commandment is sacrificing love is simply “acceptable”that heresy. Emptiness dismissed, almost like BLAME purchasing an indulgence by the things he doesn’t do so he feels free to abuse his kids. 6 Eros Love Think When Could about Adam anyone it.and Ifreally this Eve is decided expect my pitiful to tohave eject condition, any Godkind from amofIthe not a What do we need to have permanently written to our core loving ofsatisfying myself their lives, with life from a truly under their unconditional these agape dominating love, love? the Source Am I Philos Love lust hearts from what we have learned so far? of notLove believing was ejected everything characteristics? and an myunconditional flesh tells me?agape Am Ilove not patiently enduring forwith self unconditional took over. love all of the Insecurity Frustratio destruction my flesh causes? AgapenLOVE = God SELF LOVE = god Emptiness BLAME 7 "Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away." 1Cor 13:4-8 8 9 I need to share something with you that is The essential Atfirst veryhas best, for been you it only my to consider. view provided Maybe me birth: with The God very need is Unfortunately, my flesh hadfrom commandeered that going to concept be temporary loved to grab and somebody and to discern short-lived with when itcomfort, and others givethat do, him and or and rewritten it so as to mean that inevitably her apeople newbaited perspective dowhat me not,with athigher aME. critical expectations moment. when did Ilove wanted, they loved me, andwhen hopes anddid then menot in painful and they not,dashed they did love me. There are two different worlds that determine disappointment. how we see self and how we interpret our relationships to others that we can occupy, that have different and even opposing perspectives that we must be able to identify. 10 Let me hasten to say that God created us with To live, does looking want to us be to loved beHe loved, aschose a top and priority loved in theGod need to be loved, and to love us, perfectly, this world butiswhen guaranteed we seekmisery, first toabuse be loved andwe making it a perfect situation. make ourselvesdisaster! supremely vulnerable. But as I said, when we don’t look to God for love, or receive it from God through a person who loves with agape love, that need goes unfulfilled and is easily exploited by others who will use our need to extract what they want from us. They offer the promise of “love” as bait so they can extract what they want. 11 Look at the internet. How many women and It We isdo know What their that sets God choice them made up to for make usthis tobeing be misery? loved, loved but a girls youown know who have been seduced and priority people without seek as that aispriority need to from God. awe Sowhen seeking love as giving alove priority one system abused by predatory men on the internet? world that but doesn’t to give, they can occupy, whathave is theany other system that How and why does it happen? destroy their own lives through we can live and thinktheir by? desperate choices which their makeneed, themlooking vulnerable. Women telegraph for love and attention, and predators look for needy women. They say things to gain confidence and trust until they have the opportunity to take and abuse. 12 The other is absolutely revolutionary to If it ever sees “SELF”, is only to assess what commonitthought. it has so that it might give to someone else – It is the NEED to love others with a selfbecause it knows that the Father is its own sacrificing and totally unconditional love. abundant supply. It is impossible to experience an unmet need. Because it is rooted in the Father, it has NO NEED, except to love without condition. It has no need to be loved and will love unconditionally no matter what is or is not returned. 13 So let me finish this thought with two statements for you to remember regarding these two systems you can inhabit. If you live with a focus on loving others with an unconditional, agape love, you can NEVER be damaged. If you live focused on being loved and needing love from anyone but God and those through whom His love flows, you can NEVER be whole. 14 I hope you have all had the chance to exercise Even if you are able to identify selfyour skills in the identification of selfishness in What can we use to fill the need in our hearts centeredness in your thinking process, you still your thinking processes over the last two that seduces us you to sowill many thoughts about In other words, NEVER be able to desperately need a driving force to expel it and weeks. what the “SELF” wants? What do we have from overcome selfishness and the destruction that replace it with something that will fill the I would say will ofit, myself thatus before weproperly? began this Godfollows that empower todiscipline. live by exercising vacuum that made selfishness attractive to you study, I had skills in identifying There are almost actuallyno two driving forces. in the first place. selfish thinking in my own life, and the relationship destruction was the proof. Just remember that real healing of the heart only begins with the ability to identify the flesh in our thoughts and values. 15 The highest reason is probably not the most ItSo is attractive What few exquisitely offirst usdue are step simple, to motivated remains our condition perfectly for by those theadapted but desire who mustto are tobe see our pathetic God mentioned entangled glorified circumstances, by asand selfishness at least pleased, a and reason so so uniquely that that forthe may thepowerful. glory future. not be of the most likely God drawing is What not is a priority? it? point for us today. Our highest reason is the glory and the pleasure of God. We were created for this purpose, to know, to become intimate with God, and by our engagement with Him, experience His glory, His life and Person so that when people see us, they see God in us. 16 "Deliver me from my enemies, O my God; Set me securely away from thoseiswho rise upwrong against That is on nothigh to say that there anything me. Deliver me from those iniquity And save with David’s prayer – ifwho Goddohas allowed an me enemy from men bloodshed. For behold, they have tooftouch your fleshly comfort, it is set an because ambush for life; Fierce men an attack Hemy wants you to seelaunch how fragile againstcomfort me, Not is forwhen my transgression my sin, O it depends nor on for SELF. Lord," Psalm 59:1-3 What is the inspiration for David’s fervency in this prayer? 17 "Now when the attendant of the man of God had risen What The Learn How reality difference this do now: you ofout, the account do An danger you infatuation see for and between thethreat with difference? is clearly SELF prayer early and gone behold, an army with the horses and David saw an enemy that threatened his life, chariots was the city. his servant saidthe to identical will absolutely so of circling David theprevent difference and that an And accurate in ofmentality Elisha? perception and which caused theyour fear view that drove him toyour God Do you see how of God, and him, “Alas,is my master! weperception do?” So identification of what of real, need andisWhat what due shall to is the temporal andhe of (which isofwhy God allowed it). in how subsequent view self plays so heavily answered, “Do fear, NEVER for those who are with us are self insignificant. and itsnot relationship toforget Almighty that! God. you interpret what is are going around you, and more than those who withon them.” Then Elisha how it impacts your thoughts andno choices? Elisha saw God therefore enemy or prayed and said, and “O Lord, I pray, saw open his eyes that to his life prayed servant hethreat may see.” And theand Lord openedthat the his servant’s eyes would see thethe only reality.was full of and he saw; and behold, mountain horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha." 2 Kings 6:15-17 18 David and Elisha’s servant saw a threat to their lives and safety. Elisha saw a whole bunch of lost people, on their way to hell, that needed to have an experience that would cause the reality of God to shake their world and open them to their need. Nobody sees a need for God without first seeing their own pitiful, helpless and culpable position. THEN they want God! 19 So long as you are dedicated to selfWe all must depend on Jesus, living His life to in preservation, self-focus, you will be unable our to provide power to expelpeace selfsee bodies, God’s reality whichthe brings constant focus fromwhat us and us the love might for others no matter thegive circumstances be – that will allow us to sacrifice for them. which happens to be theourselves ONLY reality. Discipline and determination will NEVER pull off Just remember that real healing of the heart the life of Jesus in us. only begins with the ability to identify the flesh in our thoughts and values. 20 21 What would you guess is the most significant Let’s thing take athat shot at Bible identifying each phrase the says about love? and what each of them teaches so that we can "We haveassimilate come to know and have believed the their significance. love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." 1 John 4:16 22 "We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." 1 John 4:16 What would it mean to you if you had come to “know” the love which God has for you? As you might have anticipated, this is the word “γινώσκω” which is the knowledge that comes through personal experience. So you could translate the Greek as “We have come to experience the love that God has for us.” 23 "We have come to know and have believed the You should alsohas remember that when the verbs love which God for us. God is love, and the Canclustered you an tellenormous me what isGod, that and isand being are likein that, itneed is point for we We have toemphasis “experience and one who abides lovethat abides in God should pay particular attention to thefor point to believe” theemphasized? love that God has us!!!that abides in him." 1 John 4:16 is being emphasized. Why do you suppose John added “believing” to “knowing” the love that God has for us? “It is the same as though he had said, “We have known by believing;” for such knowledge is not attained but by faith. But we hence learn how different, is an uncertain or doubtful opinion from faith.” Calvin 24 "We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." 1 John 4:16 I have to tell you that in the Greek the line “God has for us” actually reads “God has IN us.” 25 “This is the same ἐν ἡμῖν that was found in verse 9. Love is invisible and arguably useless, and It does not mean “to us” (A. V.), “in us” (R. V.), “in Pay very close attention to the prepositions and certainly not satisfied until it meets its object – our case” (R. V. margin), the German an uns, etc.; the associations that are stated in the and are the object of God’s infinite, but “inYOU connection with us,” ἐν being used in its prepositions in our next verse. uncontainable, unrelenting, inescapable original meaning, the connection being the love! one which the context indicates, here the fact that God’s love succeeded in connecting itself with us. For that reason, too, John says “the love which God has in connection with us” while in the next breath he repeats from verse 8: “God is love.” Lenski 26 "By this the love of God was manifested in us, This Do that you isGod the see has word why sent “διά” literally Hiswhich only everything begotten means that “by Son way weinto do, of, the think by world means and sosay of, thatis aswe to a consequence come might as livea through result of Him”. ofHim." the 1John 4:9 function of God’s love doing what it does best in you? God released His love inside of us and through us to others around us so that we can actually LIVE THROUGH Him. 27 "We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for (in) us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." 1 John 4:16 So our first preposition here tells us that we know by experience and believe the love that God has placed IN us by connecting Himself to us, that is, there is an association, a union between us as individuals and God, and the God who is love now resides inside of us. Somehow that love, the God who is love living in us, changes everything about US. 28 "We have come to know and have believed the God LOVE! The remains in God, will love IS which God hasone forwho us. God is love, and the findwho Godabides alwaysinabiding in him, living one love abides in always God, and God out His life, thinking choosing in our mortal abides inand him." 1 John 4:16 bodies. Our second preposition talks about us abiding in love. Our third preposition tells us that the one abiding in love does in fact abide in God. So what does this description begin to reinforce? 29 "We have come to know and have believed the Towhich this point to see thereand is athe love Godwe hasneed for us. Godthat is love, and intimate between onecritical who abides in love relationship abides in God, and God loving, God’s love abiding abides in him."in1 us, John and 4:16 remaining in that love so that there is free flow between Our last tells thatbecause if we remain in God andpreposition us, and those weus love of God love, we will remain in inGod us. and God will remain in us – does that sound like association? 30 "We have come to know and have believed the This "The is one veryGod who important doesfor not because it not and know thatthe if love which has us.love Goddoes ismeans love, we do not God, love, forin we God aren’t isabides love." “experiencing” 1 John 4:8andGod. one who abides love in God, God abides in him." 1 John 4:16 What do you suppose it means that “God is love” and why is he telling us that? We need tofind lookthe at same the context get the We line into verse 8. whole picture. 31 "Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; everyone who isGod. born of God Verse 7and says that love isloves from Verse 8and says It is important to realize that if man is not Someans what is it that mankind is sharing when what It that it is a fundamental impossibility to knows The one is who does not that loveonly doesway not God IS God. love. If God love, then the intimately connected to God so God can they share has no point of contact with God love with agape love apart from God in us doing know God, Godman is love. By is this thelove loveintimate of order God that ainperson can truly love through love man,for then is imitating in who IS love? the loving! in us,tothat God hashesent His only interaction with God. towas usemanifested a phony love get what wants from begotten Son into the world so that we might live others who believe he loves them. through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has seen God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us." 1John 4:7-12 32 "Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love. By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but When we know God we produce His fruit. that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has seen God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us." 1John 4:7-12 33 "and the life was manifested, and we have seen and testify and proclaim to you the eternal life, which was with the Father and was manifested to us— what we have seen and heard we proclaim to you also, so that you too may have fellowship with us; and indeed our fellowship is with the Father, and with His Son Jesus Christ.” 1John 1:2-3 “The basic fact is stated in 1:3, our fellowship with the Father and with his Son Jesus Christ. The elaboration spirals upward from this pivoted fact of fellowship. We are shown all that joins us to God, that we are in him, he in us (“remains in us,” 3:24).” Lenski 34 We must come to this one conclusion if we want to live a satisfied life, and that is to conclude that there is absolutely NOTHING that we can or should attempt to do safely. Until we come to that very essential conclusion where we look only to the Lord to interpret for us what we see, and then the appropriate response, we are going to find ourselves doing foolish and vulnerable things that take life from us rather than receiving the things that cause us to enjoy it. 35 36 One of our greatest points of frustration with We And in then misery what anddo unsatisfied we do of with lives, that? which lifelive comes from the collision our original Marriage Do Realizing drives Ityou means isknow usdesigned this to that deeper what kind if I am all by of self-commitment of God cruising love this to flows really satisfy along tomeans? you only in and ainone design and our poor life management skills. relationship, abundance way. misery, When and from like a then husband aGod marriage wecauses tell loves ourselves oryou his a friendship, wife to be that out secure life ofand a God designed us to thrive in agape love with Ipure and pretty have takes agape become much away love, stinks disappointed all and fear but hisand for wife the even inloves it few and concern things him question out and weof Him and with everyone we meet. That is what is its agape have lets value, you or love, do live it is that each your NOT bring seeing life because us in total only some ofpeace the the form other other in of any release, and person and not going to happen in heaven. But what do we consuming and (which we play isthem probably out all for our circumstances. selfish lives whatthe Ipurposes, am best going thatonly to we tell can then experience under our own direction? The best is love under myself truly the asand circumstances I abandon completely thatthat realized. dissatisfying we create. It might we can muster without God animating our love relationship). be better if one It isloves reallywith because agape,I have and itbegun can is a totally self-seeking love. We try to love, but that enrich relationship the experience on theof desolate both, but foundation it can only of because it is self-centered rather than Godself-love reach its andfull then potential become under disappointed God’s design. when it centered, it is at very best, totally self-focused does not satisfy. and therefore can NEVER be satisfying for anyone including us as we languish! 37 "So when they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love Me more than these?” He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.” He said to him, “Tend My lambs.” " (John 21:15, NASB95) New American Standard Bible : 1995 update. 1995. LaHabra, CA: The Lockman Foundation. 38 "Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. " (Colossians 3:14, NASB95) We have problems trusting God because we are more confident in ourselves than we are in God. Understand this: God is the only one who can open your eyes to see your profound trust in yourself, and you will NEVER be able to switch your trust in self to God without His direct action. 39