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Saturday. She found my that my father was not wearing his oxygen tubes (the ones
that go into the nose). When she asked the nurse about this, the new nurse said
that he was ""off oxygen"". My sister asked who had told her this and asked if my
father had. The nurse said that my father had been speaking Spanish to her. This
alarmed my sister who asked my father to say something to the nurse. My father, at
that point, had lost the ability to speak clearly and the nurse said, ""See? He's
speaking Spanish!"" My father was NOT speaking Spanish, he was speaking English he was completely lucid - but his speech was not clear. He had been without oxygen
ever since the nurse began her shift hours earlier in the day. There were NO
orders that he be taken off of oxygen. That day marked the beginning of a dramatic
decline in his health from which he never recovered. The charge nurse was told
that we did not want this nurse to handle our father's case and we were told that
she was removed from it. The next day, however, there she was again. We had to
cause a scene before she was taken off his case.I could go on. There were so many
other examples. And, in case you're curious, this was CCU - the Critical Care Unit
(one step down from ICU). I will say that there were some wonderful nurses who
became like family, but even they seemed to have little help and were grateful for
help from the family (in changing his bed, feeding him, ensuring a bedpan was
brought to him timely AND removed timely, ensuring that his oxygen tube was in
place, etc.). Quite frankly, this hospital is no place for the gravely ill. I
checked at hospitalsafetyscore.org and was not surprised to find C-grades across
the board. My heart is broken for my father and the family he left behind."sounds
so familiar. even here in Canada mistakes are rampant"I also feel that elderly
patients are disregarded and too quickly determined to be ""beyond hope"". Because
my father's speech became garbled (the cause was never fully determined), the staff
assumed he had dementia. We had to repeatedly tell them that he did NOT have
dementia and that he was actually trying to tell them something. Many of them
assumed, as well, that he was hard of hearing, which he was not. My father became
so frustrated at this that he actually yelled at one of his physical therapists,
""I'm not deaf, you don't have to yell!"", but the therapist couldn't understand
him and just ignored him as he undoubtedly would have any other elderly person who
was ranting and raving. I recorded this event on my phone before I spoke up for my
father. What if I hadn't been there?"so true. you do have to be there 24/7 and
question everything that seems wrong. i have learned the hard way by losing my son
to incompetence. i agree they don't care about the elderly as I have witnessed
many times with my mother. very scary"I am so sorry about your son, Mary-Lou."
check out my site if you haven't already www.justiceforjosh.comgood to talk with
you. gotta go to bed now. work tomorrow"Another direct experience, reality based
example of why the US is 37th in the world for health care, between Costa Rica and
Slovenia.""Yes, 60 minutes per hour, 24 hours per day. Review the medical record
every few hours, befriend a few care-givers to help you understand what is going
on, record everything and Speak-Up when anything isn't right.""Mary-Lou, I read
your son's story. Oh, God, it sounds so familiar. Losing an 82-year-old father is
sad enough, but losing a beautiful young son is a tragedy beyond understanding or
description. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you
peace.""Hi Vicki Del Valle Schneider. ""Welcome"" to this group. You've lived it,
as did I and my family during each of my parents' terminal hospitalizations in 04
and 05 (Mom/respiratory collapse/ICU; Dad self-admit for pacemaker eligibility
testing, nosocomial MRSA and attendant buffoonery, including the exact
feeding/watering scenario you experienced).Even after the fact this tidbit may be
helpful. It's what I whittled thoughts down to over a long time:First: hospitals
don't provide care -- they provide bodily repair services under the removed
direction of independent physician-scientists, and nurse-monitoring on some
schedule.Next: advocating for a hospitalized loved one emanates from a place of
continuous skepticism which causes us, always and for every situation, to inquire
what impediments exist to the timely and/or successful delivery of [whatever:
procedure, resource, goal]. Using this truism we can then always ask, in whatever
language we tend to use, what can go wrong. The idea is to ask ask ask ask and
uncover what you don't know you don't know. So you don't have to know what you