Download Sex * consequences, boundaries, goals

SEX – CONSEQUENCES,
BOUNDARIES, GOALS
The Issue…
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When teens start dating the questions come up:
 When
will I have sex?
 How far is too far?
 Where do I draw the line?
 What if I’m in a relationship?
 What if we’re in love?
Sexual Values and Behavior
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What sexual behaviors do you think are
permissible?
 Kissing
 Cuddling
(teddy bear vs. couch)
 “Making out”/”Feeling Up”/”Hooking Up”
 Oral Sex
 Intercourse
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Outside a relationship?
With a boyfriend/girlfriend
Pros and Cons
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There are consequences to engaging in any sexual
activity
Physical & Emotional consequences
These can be good or bad
Pros and Cons - What could be some pros and cons of
becoming sexually active as a teen/before marriage?
Pros
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Physical
Cons
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 Experience
 Fun
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Emotional
 Grow
closer
 Should mature
 Fun
 “Show love”
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Physical
 Risk of unwanted pregnancy
 STDs
 Must plan, use, pay for
contraception
Emotional
 Stress
 What if the relationship ends?
 Keep up other relationships
 Faith and family
 Effects on this and future
relationship
Pros and Cons - What could be some pros and cons of
waiting until marriage to become sexually active
Pros
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Emotional
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Cons
Learn discipline & sacrifice
Other ways to
communicate/express feelings
Less stress
Maturity
Prepare for successful marriage
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 Difficult/frustrating
 Lack
of “experience”
 May feel left out
Physical
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No risk of STDs
No need for contraceptives
No worry for unplanned
pregnancy
Emotional
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Physical
 Difficult
times
to abstain at
What are your main concerns?
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When it comes to being in an exclusive relationship,
what are your main concerns?
When it comes to sexual activity, what are your
main concerns?
What should teens take into account when choosing
to become sexually active?
What are your goals?
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When it comes to dating, what are your goals?
How can your sexuality and the presence or lack of
a sexual relationship help or hinder your goals?
It is important to address these question before or
at the beginning of a dating relationship.